Can this be happening?

[spikeycat]

I am terrified - After only coming on for 1 day last week and feeling increasingly tired I decided to do a test this morning - the result - positive!
Whilst I do want another baby my other half is going to go MAD - our DS is only just 7 months and he demanded I have a termination when he found out I was pregnant with him (I obviously refused and we managed to muddle through and he is now extremly happy that we have our son).
Not only that I have taken a sleeping tablet in the last month and have been on 3 different prescribed hayfever treatments, and merrilly been have a bottle of wine every other night or so and also consuming copious amounts of cigs.
(sorry for typos - can't be bothered to check)

[musica]

Try not to worry spikeycat - it must be so common that people drink/are on medication in the early stages of pregnancy. And try not to worry about your partner's reaction - if he suggests a termination, your son is living proof that you shouldn't!

Hope everything turns out ok.

[spikeycat]

thanks for that musica - I can hardly be that surprised can I - if you don't use protection pregnancy usually the natural outcome, even he must have worked that out...Two to tango and all that!
maybe he will leave this time, oh well, his loss....

[monkey]

Spikeycat, all the best for your pg. Don't worry too much about the med & certainly not the booze! Hope your dp is a bit more considerate in his reaction this time!

Your age gap will be similar to the gap I have & I'm very happy with it. people's rections & negative comments were the worst aspect tbh, but it was hard work at first. But they are so close, in everyway, everyone thinks they're twins. Good luck - does that mean a Feb baby?

[Boe]

My thoughts are with you - make sure you are not bullied into anything you don't want to do, although I firmly believe that every woman has a right to chose about terminations etc, I think the feelings that bubble back to the surface years later can be quite disturbing.

I do think that a small age gap is great though - no nappies and bottles etc dragging around for years - life will be simpler a lot quicker when they are close together (or am I just kidding myself!!)

Things don't seem too rosy though saying that maybe he will leave this time?

[spikeycat]

Supose it does mean a feb baby! Got to go the see the hv in a mo - might talk to her about it..... Its such a faint line....Still, it is there....
I'm really worried I'm going to have ruined me and my ds's baby time and I won't have time for him. Plus, his was a horrific labour and I have only just had him signed off from the consultants care yesterday after being in scbu.
Boe - he only told me when I was six months pregnant that he had decided to stay - I hadn't even realised he was thinking of going!!!
Monkey - I am worried about the comments - How did you react to them, and was your age gap planned?

[aloha]

Spikeycat, I hope things work out well for you. The medication won't be a problem as the foetus is so small at the mo. If your dp was so anti-babies and pro-termination why on earth wasn't he using condoms? I just don't understand. Also, how could be possibly 'go mad' - you didn't make this baby by yourself! Good luck.

[spikeycat]

lets put it this way - I don't think he will be getting the flags out - but thats okay - cos I will
He also already has two children, and never wanted any more to start with, but, he ho, he could have had the snip me thinks if he was that certain - and then I would have never entertained the idea of being with him.

[princesspeahead]

spikeycat, you may be pleasantly surprised at his reaction, mightn't you? if he made demands for you to have a termination last time, and now he has a son who he loves and can't imagine being without, don't you think he may stop and think about this one a bit before falling into the same mistake again?
I think you should sit him down and tell him about this calmly, say it isn't ideal timing but I guess we both should have thought about the possibility of this happening and now it has I'm delighted that ds will have a sibling...
after his initial shock he may be absolutely fine about it, as you are.

just trying to see the positive side here for you?! hope that helps

[mears]

I became oregnant with no.3 when no.2 was 7 months old. I delivered 5 weeks early so there is 15 months between them. I actually found that age gap really good. I had 2 babies still in nappies who slept in the afternoons so I got some peace with no.1.
Hope your dp is supportive. As you say that is what happens when you con't use birth control. He can't expect to use termination as a form of contraception.

[SoupDragon]

I was going to ask why he'd not done something permamnent if he didnt want any more children. He's just as responsible as you are.

Congratulations Spikeycat. I hope it all works out in the end.

[Boe]

Feel you are being terribly positive - I admire you greatly for that. Nice of hime to tell you when you were 6 months in that he had thought of leaving - men exasperate me sometimes!!

Maybe all will be ok afterall - I very much hope so.

[spikeycat]

fingers crossed - Don't know when I will tell him - may keep it to myself (apart from telling mumsnet) for a while....

[Enid]

I am SO BROODY, SOMEBODY STOP ME.

[monkey]

spikeycat, my age gap was planned - horribly broody even when ds was 6 months. Had to hold off cos of thyroid medication. Started trying the minute I came off the med,, (ds 8 months) esp as loads of stuff I'd read said condition can lead to infertility which scared the pants off me. i kinda thought we might be trying for ages, so better get cracking. We scored straight away!

Anyway, re the comments, everyone assumed the pg was a mistake which really pissed me off. I had comments like "don't you mind, dear? - granny-in-law! Ooh it's going to be so hard. Ooh they're close! etc.Everyone was negative. I'm crap with dealing with such comments, so just got pissed off each time! Spent the whole bloody pg annoyed! Only one person said congratulations - and that was a stranger on the bus when I was out alone without ds1! I am sensitive anyway I suppose, so I found that the hardest part. People are just so rude, opinionated & ignorant when you're pg! I guess all the neg. comments actually made it seem easier, iykwim. So many people had gone on about how hard it would be, it didn't seem as hard as they made out. Am I making sence?

Now everyone thinks they're twins( similar size), and when I say they're not, I get loads of comments about them being close, but others with similar gap, but normal size kids! don't get this. My elder is small and my younger is big, so they're the same weight, height (nearly). I suppose I should just lie & say they are twins.

Just to reiterate, it's a great age gap & i rally hope your dp doesn't react in the way you're fearing. Can you really keep it a secret? I'll be very impressed if you can! All the best!

[WideWebWitch]

Cor Enid, are you? Hmmm, seem to remember your dd2 is only tiny still isn't she? Or has time flown that much? Interesting anyway Spikeycat, good luck with telling your partner and I hope he isn't negative. Congratulations!

[bossykate]

enid, you won't be able to fit into a gorgeous wedding outfit of some description if you get pregnant now. ok?

[spikeycat]

thanks everyone.. My hv wasn't there, so didn't speak to her, have cracked open the folic acids and getting used to the idea. I'm seeing it as positive, lots of people want babies and can't have them so I am bloody lucky, thats the way I see it any how!! Was supposed to be going out with the girls tomorrow, now I have to make some excuse to drive, I can see their minds turning over already!

[spikeycat]

bit confused.... Told my other half on friday and he asked me to do another test, which was VERY negative. Still feel soooooo tired though so have just done another one....Which is very positive!!?

So, the bummer is he was relieved on friday and now I am going to have to back track! Although he asked why I hadn't said I was thinking I was pg before, and I mentioned his reation the last time was horrid and I couldn't face having that again, he said he was ashamed of the way he behaved before and would never do that again (and that was even before I did the neg test). So, I got an apology, lets see if he puts his money where his mouth is...

[SamboM]

Good luck Spikeycat! I thought I was pg last month, my dd was 9 months so I know how you feel. Except I wasn't. When are you going to tell your other half?

[Boe]

Good Luck.

I do hope that you get whatever result you are after. x

[spikeycat]

when he gets home from work at about 6ish..... I know its not going to be an easy next few months (years!!!) but thats life!! And if I were you sambom - I'd learn from me and get some contraception sorted pronto!!!!

[SamboM]

We're going to start trying for another in Sept anyway! s

[kaz33]

Good luck Spikeycat - you don't think that you can cope but then you just find extra resources from somewhere inside you and as everyone says you will have two who will play together happily.