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Pregnancy revelations - is Facebook too crass?

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MudandRoses · 05/04/2010 22:51

I am 16 wks with DC2. With DS I sent a round robin email to everyone i knew and spilt the beans that way. But that was because I was very excited and also overseas at the time.
This time, I have told a number of friends and family face-to-face but that still leaves a large number of friends-i-don't-see-that-often and acquaintances...is it crass to do a facebook announcement (it feels a bit impersonal and, well, teenagey!)...
But i feel awkward about just not saying anything, especially if i end up seeing them after the baby's out or want to do a 'meet the new baby' announcement! They might be thinking, why didn't she tell me she was pregnant? WWYD?

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barrym · 05/04/2010 22:58

I think it's fine at 16wks. Freaks me out when they do it before they've even got their breath back.

starshaker · 05/04/2010 23:00

I told all my family and close friends then for the rest i did a f/b announcement. Think i was about 16 weeks aswell

KatnKankles · 05/04/2010 23:02

I didn't do an announcement as such but said something about pregnancy being tiring and everyone jumped on it with 'are you'? comments.

I agree I don't see why not especially at 16 weeks but some people seem to announce it almost at conception!

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MudandRoses · 05/04/2010 23:05

Oh good! Ok. I kind of want to but DP is against it...

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Linnet · 05/04/2010 23:28

My sister sent me a text message to announce that she was pregnant, I obviously wasn't good enough for an actual phone call.

Then she put a message up on her facebook page for other people.

I don't see anything wrong with it, you could always e-mail them rather than put it on facebook.

tjtheminx · 06/04/2010 00:14

What message are you going to put up?
I am 25 wks and haven't announced on FB- but will need to eventually
Would love to know what you'll say. I can't seem to think of the appropriate words esp since I've left it so late.

pinchmeimustbedreaming · 06/04/2010 11:30

i am now 11 weeks pregnant so a little way off talking about it on fb but my best friend wasnt sure what to put either so asked me to do it for her. i thought it was nice way to do it. if you only want to do it privately and not on a wall then just pop it in her inbox

moominmarvellous · 06/04/2010 11:47

I am just over 12 weeks and have told family and most people DH & I see regularly.

I have my first official scan in 3 weeks time, I reckon I'll call the odd few friends who I haven't told offcicially after that so they aren't offended at being told via facebook, and then say something on FB along the lines of 'looking forward to October'

peppapighastakenovermylife · 06/04/2010 12:25

I havent with this one (DC3) - am feeling strangely private about it all and think that if I dont see people or talk to them enough to have told them already then I dont want to tell them. However I think I am being odd about this one as was more open with DD

Katy86 · 06/04/2010 13:27

i did a facebook status last week announcing mine... ihad 29 comments and 16 people liked it in the space of an hour lol was quite funny xx

CuppaTeaJanice · 06/04/2010 13:32

Why don't you do a round robin first and then Facebook the next day? Then you can be sure all your proper friends know before Joe Bloggs you went to school with and haven't seen in 15 years!!

Shaz10 · 06/04/2010 13:35

Facebook announcement is fine. I dithered about it to the point that there were a lot of people who never knew till I sent the text for the birth announcement! . My friend who was about 5 months behind me did a Facebook pregnancy announcement and got such lovely messages I was gutted I didn't do it.

merlin8878 · 06/04/2010 13:42

I'm 16 weeks with DC3 and only told the families over the Easter weekend (we live in South Wales and they're all in Birmingham).

We didn't want to tell them over the phone so we waited until we visited, and I didn't get my '12 week scan' until I was 14 weeks anyway.

As all the important people had been told, I uploaded the scan picture onto facebook and changed my profile picture last night. And just like Katy86 I had comments and likes within minutes!

mamamaisie · 06/04/2010 14:19

I told family, close friends and work colleagues in person but did announce it on facebook to people I hadn't been in contact with recently. I left it very late because I was a little paranoid that something would go wrong with the pregnancy. I changed my profile picture to one of me with a big bump and wrote something like "only 7 more weeks to go before my baby girl arrives". I will probably announce the birth on there too.

KAEKAE · 06/04/2010 14:42

I did a FB announcment when pregnant with my DD, I was three months pregnant..and I put my scan pic up!

beanlet · 06/04/2010 14:48

I did an FB status announcement, but it was so cryptic most people didn't get it. I just put a bump picture up as my profile pic and have had lots of "congratulations" comments, so clearly it didn't work so well first time round!

My students still express amazement when I tell them I'm PG, despite the fact that I'm the size of a baby whale, which is MOST disheartening.

Playingatmotherhood · 06/04/2010 15:47

Nothing wrong with a fb announcement as long as you have told all family and close friends first. In fact I think its quite a good thing. A friend of mine did it last week and I had very recently mc (my EDD was 10 days after hers) so emotionally the news was hard for me but posting gave me a chance to have a little cry in private, get over the "its not fair, that should have been me" emotions and then be able to be truly geniunely happy when I saw her.

YellowHat · 06/04/2010 15:53

Someone I know put the scan pic as their profile pic which was very cute

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MudandRoses · 06/04/2010 16:35

Playingatmotherhood sorry about your MC, it's always hard hearing about other ppl's pregnancies so soon after that's happened.

Merlin and Katy I am excited by the thought of all the nice comments (and slightly nervous in case all i get is 'oh, are you?'!) I guess I will do it, despite DP's reservations... as you say most close friends know about it now anyway.

Tjtheminx I don't really know how I'll put it...I could just post a scan photo - or I have a totally obscene one of me in a gold lame mini-dress with bump and pregnancy boobs, lol, that ought to get some comments

Otherwise I guess something like "KS is bun-baking again!" - If that's not too cryptic.

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Katy86 · 06/04/2010 16:42

i put 'katy has just had her 12 week scan and baby number 2 is due 10.10.10 ' and then i followed it with a scan pic....my friend just put up a pic of her scan and let people ask her hehe

Anifersgirl · 06/04/2010 17:12

I'm planning on waiting until I'm in labour and then changing my facebook status to 'is having a baby' ;)

Eglu · 06/04/2010 17:17

I would just put scan pic up and not say anything.

cinnamongreyhound · 06/04/2010 17:26

I didn't put a status telling everyone I was pregnant because I didn't want to make a fuss. Those closest I told in person or by email with a scan picture and just changed my profile picture and after a few weeks people cottoned on!

giagindi · 09/04/2010 07:58

My DH is paranoid about putting anything about the pregnancy on facebook - I'm not sure why but he feels so strongly about it that I don't mind going along with it. However I'm 23 weeks and we recently moved countries (from the UK to Australia) so there are lots of people that don't know! We're going to a wedding tomorrow and I'm planning on having a word with one of the guests to tag a photo of me on facebook - that way the news will be out but I won't have done it...

I am also a little perturbed by the people who announce it on facebook at about 6 weeks!

I would love to be able to wait until the baby is born and then just have the status be "...is pleased to introduce baby to the world" ... that would be cool!

pipinmybelly · 09/04/2010 13:14

i did!! i told everyone close to me and who i see face to face but at 13 weeks my status read simply...'is pregnant'!! my facebook went crazy with comments and wall posts but its a nice way to let others know and its free, i put my 12 week scan pic up with the status update...hope this helps xx

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