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At what age did you have your last child, if you have finished!

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Flightattendant · 28/02/2010 13:20

This is a bit hypothetical because I don't have a partner at the moment.

But I think I would like to have another child one day. Ds2 is getting on for 3 and I am now 36...ds1 is nearly 7. I am worried that I'm pushing it regarding age...I know the risks of 'problems' are higher after 35 so have missed that particular boat. Also if I met someone now I'd not want to rush into having babies straight away.

So, just curious about other people's thoughts on having children at this age, or a bit older.

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Mamandetrois · 14/09/2012 01:36

I had my last at 35 and felt a panic that I was too old. My sweet husband was 41 which made me downright hyperventilate and say to myself "what were we thinking?". At the end of the day, our third "later" child (or bonus baby if you will) has taught me that I cannot raise my children with the notion that I will always be around for them. When I was younger I didn't have the same understanding of time passing and how our responsibility as parents is to teach our children to be independant. My third pregnancy was definitely my easiest of all three and I know it was a mindset as I am keenly aware that my body was older. After all is said and done I wouldn't hesitate to have another if I didn't feel like our family was complete. We all have a choice as to how we will narrate our life story. Will we be a victim or a survivor? Our children will have a similar choice. No matter what, whether we are older or younger parents it is up to our children to decide how they will interperate their upbringing. We can simply do our best.

TheCatInTheHairnet · 14/09/2012 01:54

1st at 24, 4th at 31. Am going to be 40 later this year and would quite happily have another now, but DH has had the snip!

MNHubbie · 14/09/2012 03:07

1st at 37
2nd at 41
3rd at 43

Think you'll be OK.

GirlWithTheMouseyHair · 14/09/2012 04:25

1st at 25, 2nd and last at 28 - will be 30 next year and not planning anymore. Want my life back!

conorsrockers · 14/09/2012 06:02

Had all mine between 25 - 30. If I could I'd have another now (I'm 36), but the old man's been done ....

justbreathe · 14/09/2012 06:16

Had my first at 29 last at 40... the babies are the easy bit its when they're teens at the same time as you're menopausal that it gets tough !

SleepyFergus · 14/09/2012 06:24

DD1 at 37 and DD2 at 40. No more for me! We had additional tests done with dd2 as my nuchal risk rating came in at 1:95. Had an amnio done at 16 weeks. High risk was mainly attributed to my age. No problem detected, but that was stressful and I generally found pregnancy more hard going second time around.

Two women at my work both had their first (and only so far) kids at 44 and 45 respectively.

greenbananas · 14/09/2012 06:52

I had my first at 35 and will have my second about a week before my 40th birthday.

I don't feel too old for this, although I agree with Rindercella that pregnancy is perhaps more tiring as your age increases. However, I met a lovely young mum yesterday who said that her own mother was 42 - only 2 years older than me!

Midgetm · 14/09/2012 07:09

First at 36, bonus baby due at 41. Pregnancy a breeze so far at 35 weeks despite lots of losses in between. Dr tells me all the time age is irrelevant, general health, fitness and well being more important. As long as you can still have them you are still in the game. Husband will have the snip now so as to avoid any more bonus babies.

7to25 · 14/09/2012 07:11

44 nearly 45

chickydoo · 14/09/2012 07:24

1st at 28
2nd at 32
3rd. at 34
4th. At. 37
Done!

Teamthrills · 14/09/2012 07:25

3rd and last at 31. My mum had her 3rd at 37.

EdMcDunnough · 14/09/2012 07:26

wow - this thread is 2 1/2 years old!!

newby2 · 14/09/2012 07:32

2nd and last at 37. There's light at the end of the road now! No more.

milk · 14/09/2012 09:11

Had DS when I was 23.

Going to have DS2 when I'm 24. I only want 2 children so I guess 24 it is :)

juneau · 14/09/2012 09:14

I was 37 when I had my second and I'm done, thanks!

BitOutOfPractice · 14/09/2012 09:19

I was 36 when I had dd2. I am soooooooo done!

imustbepatient · 14/09/2012 09:24

1st at 34, 2nd due imminently when I will be 36. Part of me would like to have a third but for a variety of reasons (including finances and that I struggle through the first 17-18 weeks of pregnancy with all day morning sickness and the last 3+ months with SPD, which will probably only get harder as I get a bit older!) we have decided that we will stop at two. Unless we change our minds...

MirandaWest · 14/09/2012 09:31

Posted on this last time but in a different name. Still pretty sure I have finished having children but at 37 there is still time for more of I should change my mind...,

Angelico · 14/09/2012 09:32

Having my first in a couple of weeks - aged 35. I would see anything up to 40 as a runner for another but know several people who had their kids in early 40's. In spite of what 'fertility experts' (mainly men) your fertility does NOT fall off a cliff if you are fertile and healthy. If you already have fertility problems you're as likely to have them in your twenties and early thirties as you are later on.

javotte · 14/09/2012 10:59

1st at 26. I'm 31 and number 3 is due next month.
Part of me still hopes for a 4th child, but I don't think DH will change his mind. I can't see myself having babies after 33/34.

CountryKitty · 14/09/2012 14:36

DD1 @ 23
DD2 @ 26
21weeks pg with DD3 (will be 31 come EDD. Planned gap so I have enough time to devote to DD3, as well as the other girls)
We would like another in 2/3 years time.

We do appreciate however that we were lucky to have met each other fairly young and had the means to start our family 'early'.

All my 'mummy friends' are in their late 30's early 40's. So where I live I am the exception (which I love!) and not the norm.

I think age plays a part, but having the emotional and financial ability to support a child is far more important. And finally it really is no-one's business when you decide to have your children, so ignore them! Goodluck

Wuxiapian · 14/09/2012 16:42

1st child at 20 and pregnant with 2nd child at 34. Would like a third, too, preferably before I'm 37/38.

Amnewtoallthis · 15/09/2012 07:56

1st when I was 38, now pregnant at 42 (was TTC for six months). Have tp be honest I've been really diligent about my health as was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 20, so I've been following a regular fitness regime and healthy - for the most part - diet for all of my 30s and 40s. I don't feel old in fact I feel the fittess I've ever been - so it can be done!

Gumby · 15/09/2012 07:59

1st at 29
2nd at 31

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