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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Irritating comments? Vent here!

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MPuppykin · 16/02/2010 10:40

What wholly irritating / inappropriate comments have YOU gotten?

The receptionist at work comments to me Every Single Day ?We will have to get the floor reinforced if you put on any more weight?.

And, as I have a colleague who is also pregnant, but 7 months compared to my almost 6 ? You are a lot bigger than Elaine already. What ARE you eating? ?

It is starting to annoy me.

And you?. ????

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MadamDeathstare · 19/02/2010 14:08

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MarineIguana · 19/02/2010 15:51

I've got a big bump and several people have said things along the lines of "Wow look at you, you'll never make it to 9 months, will you?" which is really alarming! Either I'll have a premature baby or get so big I explode. Nice.

Also get a lot of "so you'll be wanting a girl this time" and even "well I hope you get a girl" - including in front of DS!

sayanything · 19/02/2010 16:05

A colleague steps into my office:

"Congatulations on the baby. I figured you must be pregnant, you don't eat so much that you'd gain so much weight so fast."

AmesBS7 · 19/02/2010 16:09

Sometimes the comments people don't make are the odd ones.
My Mum has just been to visit, having not seen me for several weeks. I have about 8 days to go before the due date and she did not ask a single question about how I was doing.
She did comment when she arrived that she 'couldn't get near me' any more because of the bump, so I guess she probably has noticed I am pg.

JamAndPeanutButter · 19/02/2010 16:18

Love this thread... amazing how people lose all awareness of appropriate conversation when presented with a pregnant woman!

Male colleague said to me the other day "HOW long left? Good god, were you this big with your first one? You'll be massive by the time you leave!"

My favourite though from last pregnancy from a horrible woman in my office who wrote in my leaving card "Enjoy your maternity leave. New mothers are more likely to suffer depression, loneliness and suicidal thoughts than anyone else"

Thanks.

sayanything · 19/02/2010 16:25

JamAndPeanutButter at your colleague, what a horrible thing to write.

BumptiousandBustly · 19/02/2010 22:00

If one more person says to me "Gosh aren't you big - is it twins?" I will scream!

Or the alternative, "Is it twins or are you just carrying a lot of water?"

AAARRRRRRGGGGGGGG - I am the right sise for my dates thank you very much!

There is no other time people feel free to call you fat - why on earth do they think they can do it when you are pregnant?

mrslwright · 19/02/2010 22:22

I'm 7 months pregnant. This came from one of my own patients - "How old are you?"
Me "31"
Patient "yes well I think when you're that old you just have to get on with it and get pregnant don't you?" WHAT???

And another tells me every time she come in to see me " ooh you're getting bigger every week." Well yes, that does tend to happen...

BellasYummyMummy · 20/02/2010 03:28

being soo uncomfy at 38 weeks, and being told 'well not much longer to go'. That really doesnt help me at 2 in the morning when i cant sleep due to restless legs!!

BellasYummyMummy · 20/02/2010 03:30

being soo uncomfy at 38 weeks, and being told 'well not much longer to go'. That really doesnt help me at 2 in the morning when i cant sleep due to restless legs!!

BumptiousandBustly · 20/02/2010 09:46

Last time I was pregnant, I got "Just be thankful you are not an elephant, they are pregnant for 27 months"!!

I nearly killed them!

jojochanel · 20/02/2010 11:25

Got 2x DS and about to have DC3 of whom I haven't found out the gender. If one more person says to me - 'did you see that programme about that woman who'd had 8 boys and was going to keep going till she got a girl. Is that going to be you?'

ARRRGH - I just want three healthy kids OK?

a) is it a criminal offence to have 3 (especially with small gaps)?

b)No I'm not clinically insane and yes I realise I will have my hands full!

c) Please stop pitying me if I get another boy. I love my other two boys regardless of their gender so I'm sure I'll love this one too if he comes out blue.

midori1999 · 20/02/2010 12:18

"When asked if I knew if my DC2 was a boy or a girl (DC1 is a boy) by cashier in supermarket and I grinned happily and said "yes, we're having a boy". She turned around and said "I won the jackpot, one of each". "

I had a similar comment from a supermarket cashier once, when asked if I had all boys. I just replied 'yeah, I really shit out, all boys and the youngest has Downs Syndrome... ' That shut her right up...

(I couldn't careless my DS has Downs, BTW!)

People (usually who don't really know us that well) are also gobsmacked I will not be testing for Downs in this pregnancy. Surely if I did, that would mean I was less than happy with my son?!

midori1999 · 20/02/2010 12:21

"If one more person says to me "Gosh aren't you big - is it twins?" "

I am actually really looking forward to that this time, because I can say "YES! I am!!! "

Chulita · 20/02/2010 13:10

I used to be an active member of St John Ambulance til the leader bloke hailed me every week with 'Evening fatty!' when pg with DD I asked him not to but he just could get it so I stopped going.
Why are people so obsessed with bump size and having one of each?
congrats on the twins midori

EdgarAllenSnow · 20/02/2010 16:01

you are showing already. i was 8 weeks gone.

thank you, Mother..

dappymoo · 20/02/2010 16:35

when informing of pregnancy:
"Oh well, timing doesn't really matter because you'd still be poor in a couple of years anyway..."

inzidoodle · 20/02/2010 17:44

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BionicB · 20/02/2010 20:01

Crying with laughter at some of the comments - but laughing with you! I have had baby now (first one), but had a huge bump (was a big baby wiht extra fluid) and lost count of the amount of times I was asked -
'Are you SURE thats not twins?'
'Gosh when are you going to stop work?'

and another lovely one (in response to seeing my bump and as reaction to the apparent 'baby boom' reported in recession)
'my god, its an epidemic'

Agree that once you're pregnant, people seem to think they have carte blanche to comment on your shape and size and say whatever they want...WHY??

DesperateHousewife21 · 21/02/2010 09:53

Wish I could say this to MIL "please dont think my stomach is your property, I dont want you rubbing it when you feel like it, its mostly flab and water retention anyway."

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MPuppykin · 21/02/2010 10:25

I was reading some of these responses out to DH and he reminded me that when we first started telling people that we were expecting he got more than a few back slaps from men friends and a 'well done'. Which he found a bit offensive.

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BulletProofMum · 21/02/2010 12:22

From the very nice lady in the canteen - every day..

'no more now will you, three's enough'
I have no plans for a forth but if I did it's my bloody business.

'Are you sure it's not twins?' Every bloody day for the last 8 months from people various.

IT;S THE 21st CENTURY AND WE HAVE SCANS

'So you're hoping for a girl then?' (I have 2 boys).

Yes I am hoping for a girl but I'll be just as happy with a boy.

noodleysoup · 21/02/2010 12:44

I'm very tall so have had several comments on how I will surely have a very big baby that will really do some damage coming out . Two 'associates' (wouldn't call them friends!) then went on to discuss how I was probably "much bigger down there anyway" so the birth probably wouldn't be any worse than usual! I didn't know how to react, wish i had smacked them one!

mummyof2byapril · 21/02/2010 13:22

When people try and speak nicely to my 3 yr old whose throwing a full on screaming/kicking tantrum in the middle of the street.
My son gets worse when people do that, I just try to smile while thinking 'please move on'

sophieandbelly · 21/02/2010 20:46

right love this thread i have loads to choose from as i am a hairdresser and clients feel free to be a rude as they like!!!

was i planned (i no its been said) how rude to ask!!
oh i didnt realise u were married ( i said o i am not) ah bless u child single mum eh!! (nope dp at homme)
again with this u r life is going to change etc, yes i bloody well new that, that is what we want to go on to the next step and b a family aaagahhhhhh

4)my boss at the time was awful, i told her early as needed to have time off 4 midwife etc.. she said 'o r ur parents dissapionted!!' and 'he will never marry u now' and 'dont go telling anyone else love early days and all that u never no how it might end up!!'

needless to say told her where to shove her job after mat leave and now work in agreat salon!! looking forward to seeing what other comments people get.

o one more from the bitch.. i was signed off early with s.p.d 'well i am not suprised love look at the size of u!!!' hate hate hate

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