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Irritating comments? Vent here!

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MPuppykin · 16/02/2010 10:40

What wholly irritating / inappropriate comments have YOU gotten?

The receptionist at work comments to me Every Single Day ?We will have to get the floor reinforced if you put on any more weight?.

And, as I have a colleague who is also pregnant, but 7 months compared to my almost 6 ? You are a lot bigger than Elaine already. What ARE you eating? ?

It is starting to annoy me.

And you?. ????

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MadamDeathstare · 16/02/2010 15:48

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missced · 16/02/2010 16:03

From my dear Aunt (bless her) - (we have a place in France) "What are you going to do when the baby arrives? You can't travel abroad all that way with a baby". Well, she meant well, and is from Norfolk

mustbemadno3 · 16/02/2010 16:11

jazziejeff that was so funny!!!
I am large for 28 weeks but you know 3rd baby and cant help how my body changes.

I went to my sons school plays and one of the dads said 'ive saved you two seats'!

One other dad whilst walking to school - 'your looking abit porky must be all that wine you drink'
'im not drinking anymore... Im pregnant' (obviously)
'Oh didnt think you did that kind of thing at your age? '

What an idiot I am 35....do hope I will be 85 before I stop' doing that kind of thing!

Sappholit · 16/02/2010 16:24

Oh, I forgot. I did the Coast to Coast walk at 11 weeks (192 miles across England), and loads of people told me I was risking losing the baby. What, with fresh air and exercise? Yeah, right.

Then I flew to Thailand at Christmas, when I was 31 weeks, and was deeply frowned on for that, because flying was no good for the baby, nor was lying around a pool resting.

I'm not sure where people dig out their medical training when someone becomes pregnant, but it seemed as though everyone around me was suddenly a doctor.

PanicMode · 16/02/2010 16:42

(I'm expecting number 4) The worst comments I have had were from a client this week....

"How many children do you have now? Wow, is that because you are a Muslim?"

When being informed that no, I'm a Catholic, but that's not why we're having four, he said that "your husband is a lucky guy - not having to use contraception".

"now I understand why the first time I met you I thought you were a little, well, on the tubby side - in fact you were pregnant, so that's ok"......

My boss lets him get away with complete murder all the time and ask totally inappropriate questions (this man is in the Forbes top 20 global rich list) and is a complete sycophant - I just wanted to punch him on the nose.

bluecheesefiend · 16/02/2010 19:05

No input from me (yet) as I'm 16 weeks and still not telling anyone (hehe - am loving my little secret!) but I would just like to say how dumbfounded I am at OP and wizbitwaffle's insensitive and downright stupid colleagues.... well done you two for not purposely vomiting in their horrid, ignorant laps.

bluecheesefiend · 16/02/2010 19:11

ooh- and you too PanicMode! (just caught up with end of thread!) what is it with rich people being allowed to be so rude?? I had a super rich client once who refused to learn my name, he just called me by my company's name! twunt.

crankytwanky · 16/02/2010 19:23

bluecheese at client!

My collegues are lovely, but keep askingwhen I'm stopping work, and saying how foolish it is to work so late. (Going to 39 weeks.) They have a point, to be fair.

Roscat · 16/02/2010 22:07

Someone asked me how I was feeling. (I'm 35 weeks with dc2)

I replied, I'm fine, just having a tired day. (Actually I wasn't fine, was exhausted, suffering with back pain, spd, heartburn etc etc).

He replied, Oh, just wait til you've had your 4th, you'll walk through it no problem.

I said, I suppose you've carried & delivered 4 children yourself, then.

He said, Don't worry about the birth, you get over it.

I said, Just like you get over a kick in the balls.

I don't know why you're always supposed to put such a brave face on it that you can't even admit to feeling tired!

morethemerrier · 16/02/2010 22:46

bigmuther65, could have written your post! Got two DS's, now exp DC3 in May and keep being told, bet you want a girl this time!

Actually,just want a healthy baby,and quite like the idea of being Mum to three boys!

Also, the ,"oh youre going to have your hands full" comment which basically means we have now overstepped the civilised TWO children law!

I love telling them my plans to have another straight away, as I had always hoped for four!

Only to be met with, "really?, well maybe you will get a girl.................."

other comments inc:

You've got HOW LONG left?!?!

Are you sure its not twins?!?

Not long now,(at 26 weeks!)

tartyhighheels · 16/02/2010 22:51

Today from ultrasonographer - 'wow, you have been busy......'

baby number 4 and my son will be 21 months when this one is born (i though a respecyaible gap)

and when i was pregant last time - my friends asshole of a husband poked by belly (which was remarkably neat and tidy ironically) and said 'are you eating for five?' - so later on I managed to say to him that he was the same age as my Dad....I felt his cock shrivel from across the room as he has a major hang up about his age and tries to be really 'trendy'...

Rindercella · 16/02/2010 22:58

The worst comment I have had this pregnancy was from my aunt. When I told her I was pregnant she pulled a disgusted face and said, "ewwww, yuk. ANOTHER one??!".

This will be my 2nd child, but tbh, even if she was my 11th, comments like the one from my aunt (herself a mother of 2) are just damn rude. I actually really bawled her out about it - saying that when someone announces that they are pregnant, what she said was never going to be a reasonable response. We haven't spoken since (I was 12 wks when I told her and am now 35 wks).

themothershipcalling · 17/02/2010 22:15

I remember my friend and I talking about ttc and she said it was the rudest thing to ask really as what you're asking is 'are you getting laid?'

alex1803 · 17/02/2010 22:25

Remember ladies, the annoying comments don't stop after you've given birth!

On a daily basis you will be asked if you have a 'good' baby.

I mean can you have a 'bad' newborn baby!!

Rindercella · 18/02/2010 07:59

Oh yes, those comments after the baby is born! Everyone has an opinion.

Same old mad aunt told me to give my 4 month old some steak to help build her up. Despite not weaning until she was 6 months, DD was on the 91st centile and didn't bloody need 'building up'!

sheeplikessleep · 18/02/2010 10:03

When asked if I knew if my DC2 was a boy or a girl (DC1 is a boy) by cashier in supermarket and I grinned happily and said "yes, we're having a boy". She turned around and said "I won the jackpot, one of each".

Wish I'd thought of a witty comeback, but I just stood there with my mouth open.

Hindsight.

DesperateHousewife21 · 18/02/2010 13:11

My so called best friend is the one person that annoys me the most.
Im 18 weeks now Ive had comments such as "I cant believe how big you are!"
She also said "your stomach is the same size as mine now" to which I was thinking yes but mine is a baby. (Ive always been much smaller than her)

BUT the comments that infuriate me the most are if I mention Ive got back ache or talking about babies crying and being difficult she says "oh you have all this to come" in some knowing voice, she has NO children of her own...

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MPuppykin · 18/02/2010 13:30

About 5 minutes ago i unwrapped my bagel with smoked salmon and cream cheese and got the 'should you be eating that?' comment from a male colleague.

Its delicious.

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Neeko · 18/02/2010 13:38

Loving this thread. People really think you're public property when you're pregnant, don't they? I particularly hate the hand on bump thing.

Quite often get the 'You look like you're about to pop/are you sure you got your dates right?' one.

Also, '2 is so much more work than 1'

Very helpful!

foxyjbro99 · 19/02/2010 08:42

when we told fil i was pg: i knew you were, your face has gone fat.

when we told my dad: good luck, it's worrying bringing children into the world in this day and age.

when we told sil: really?? you're gonna do it again?? i always feel really sorry for people with 3 children.

are you just gonna keep trying until you get a boy? boys are so loving.

pregnancy is a condition not an illness, i didn't have any sickness when i was pg.

gothgirl77 · 19/02/2010 09:09

Hee hee.
Funnily enough I've found most childless people to be lovely about it - "how're you doing?" "you're looking well on it", "any thoughts on names?" and so on.

It's the ones with kids that seem to be in a rush to tell me that I've made the biggest mistake of my life, I'll spend the next ten years covered in poo and sick (after they find out that the smell of toilets is still making me retch in trimester 3), I'll never sleep or fit into anything other than elasticated jogging bottoms again and I'll hate every minute of parenthood.

Of course at work I get an awful lot of "God you're massive!" "Maternity leave? You can't go on holiday for being fat!" and similar charm. One chap said "you wouldn't know" yesterday and I almost hugged him in gratitude..

pinchmeimustbedreaming · 19/02/2010 09:54

when my son was born and i was walking around town total strangers would ask boy or girl? and i would reply boy they would then say (with a head tilt) oh, oh thats ok, nevermind. grrrrrrr! i love baby boys why do people think that boys are second best?

bagelmonster · 19/02/2010 10:10

oh my word!!! the hand on bump thing is ok depending on who it is, my annoying BIL will just come up to me randomly without saying anything and just stand there with his huge hand on my belly for what feels like ages!!! What is he expecting will happen???
AND, when people asked me before my 20 weeks scan if I was going to find out the sex (I have a DD already) and I answered yes, then i got the frown and " oh really...ok", well then don't ask if you dont like the bloody answer!!!!!

CuppaTeaJanice · 19/02/2010 10:39

Not a comment as such, but I was really irritated to be listed as a 'single mother' on my maternity notes at the hospital.

Not that there's anything wrong with being a single parent, but DP and I had been together for 13 years at the time and it seemed disrespectful to our relationship for it not to be recognised because we haven't signed a piece of paper.

And on that theme, when I told my mum I was pregnant (although she denies it now), her response was 'Are you going to get married then, otherwise we'll be illegitimate grandparents'. Followed by 'it's traditional for the baby to have his father's surname, you know'. We gave him both surnames.

kitcat1977 · 19/02/2010 11:49

I've got the hump with my community midwife who

a) can't get her head around the fact that we married 6 months ago and my name has changed;

b) insists on referring to my initial due date based on LMP, and not my official EDD based on scans, 9 days later because I have a long cycle due to PCOS;

c) lets a different student midwife prod me each time, without checking anything for herself, even when the student clearly isn't confident:

Me: so how far has the head engaged?

Student: erm, quite far. That's the technical term, you know.

Midwife: no reaction. Just writes 2-3/5ths in my notes (somewhere in between the previous two measurements).

Soooo reassuringly professional

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