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Those that didn't find out the sex - what did you do about buying stuff?

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JamieJay · 31/01/2010 12:07

We're having second thoughts about finding out the sex at my 20 week scan (to much potential aggro with family - all minor but don't want to deal with it!)

If you didn't find out the sex did you just go with unisex colours or did you wait until the baby was born to buy things?? What did you do about other people wanting to buy presents.

It's a little irrelavant really as I wouldn't be rushing to buy pink even if it is a girl but a lot of family/friends seem to think that 'colour coding' the baby is important!

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lostinwales · 31/01/2010 12:15

Did't find out with two of mine and the third I did but it was wrong anyway. Get a dozen white babygrows/vests. Some oatmeal pretty ones to start with and some neutral cardis and hats and a warm all in one coat thing. When baby is born you will get heaps of colour coded pressies and you can dress up the white basics with coloured cardies etc. I have kept a white newborn babygrow from all of them and they look so lovely. The newborn stuff only fits for a few minutes anyway in the scheme of things (and not at all in the case of DS3, 9lb10 and nearly two foot long at birth!) Good luck, I'm sooo jealous as I would love to start over with another new one.

fishym2b · 31/01/2010 12:15

we haven't bothered finding out, its our first and couldn't really see the point. Wasn't going to but a pink buggy or anything but thats just cos i want to be able to use things again IYSWIM.
Have just got loads of nuetral clothes again can reuse. Family and friends do go on about and pretty sure we will end up with a load of pink/ blue once baby is here. But i think the surpise is nice and means stuff can be used for the next one.
Its good for people offering to buy stuff as instead of ending up with pink clothes you can ask for more practical items (blankets, gro bags etc) as family and friends dont really want to buy nuetral clothes.

Ivykaty44 · 31/01/2010 12:17

my own toughts were

thre are few suprises in life and this one is a lovely suprise

all white, babies look lovely in white and then when baby is born gifts come in blue or pink - no big deal

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JamieJay · 31/01/2010 12:20

Thanks both, peoples apparent need to buys in the 'right' colour has really surprised me to be honest.

lostinwales fully expecting to have the same issue as you did with DS3 as both DH and I were around 9lbs when born so half expecting I'll have a big baby too!

fishym2b am planning on asking for practical things but know our families will want to go down the pretty outfit route - haven't yet told them that I intend to keep baby in babygros for the first 3 months!!

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JamieJay · 31/01/2010 12:22

ivykaty44 sorry cross posted! Thanks and I guess one advantage of white is I can put them out in the sun to bleach out the inevitable [sp!] poo stains!

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Ivykaty44 · 31/01/2010 12:26

OHH don't know that I ever had poo stains - but the advantage is if most stuff is white it all can go in the wash together and be dry quickly...

I was old fashioned and had mattinee jackets in white aswell to slip on over allinone babygrow

Paint bedroom whatever colour

blue red or blue and red or white with lots of coloured pictures.....

Trickle · 31/01/2010 12:30

I've bought loads of white (charity shops rock on newborn stuff - some of it still has tags on and most is barely worn if you can handle the used route).

I have actually banned blue/pink as I hate what feels like a uniform feel for little kids and babies. Some people have knitted me stuff in green and other colours. I've knitted a red cardigan and a purple one ect ect.

purepurple · 31/01/2010 12:31

I didn't want to know with either of mine.
I bought lots of white and yellow.
I don't really hold with the pink and blue thing anyway.
When DD was born I already had lots of stuff that DS had worn. I just used them.
People bought presents after they were born.

epithet · 31/01/2010 12:32

Was no problem. With dd1, we just bought a load of neutral vests and babygros, then made up a 'proper' wardrobe in the following months. Next do next-day delivery, if you want something pink or blue in a hurry .

epithet · 31/01/2010 12:34

Oh, and relatives were happy to wait till after the birth to buy presents. Makes more sense anyway, because until you know how big your baby is, you have no idea if the 'newborn' sizes will fit anyway. Ours were only in that size for a matter of a couple of weeks.

cory · 31/01/2010 12:35

Bought lots of blue anyway, because I liked the colour (and it looked very pretty on dd). Was interested to see that a parcel of hand-me-downs (definitely used) from a Norwegian friend contained pinks and purples though I know she had two boys, so presumably colour coding is less prevalent in Norway. Greens and yellows look good.

Never bothered painting any rooms; let that wait until dd was old enough to have a say.

pointydog · 31/01/2010 12:36

just buy unisex natch

valbona · 31/01/2010 12:41

if your instinct is to keep it a surprise don't let shopping get in the way! and anyway the whole pastel pink/blue thing regimented thing is just plain bananas IMHO. I'm 41 weeks (aaargh!) and have bought/been given a few bits in white, red, navy blue, green etc and animal-y things are nice and unisex too.

Allegrogirl · 31/01/2010 14:39

I just bought white/beige/yellow basics at first. The nursery is a lovely warm yellow with a neutral carpet. Baby isn't in their own room for months anyway. Sheets and blankets are plain white and you can always buy gender coded grow bags later on.

All our family thought it was lovely we were having a surprise. They all turned up soon enough after the birth with bundles of pink.

Two4One · 31/01/2010 15:06

We know what we're having but you wouldn't know it based on what we've bought. All white vests and babygrows just because I think white is adorable on newborns. Then some cream/oatmeal/yellow bits and pieces. I have nothing in blue or pink. And the nursery is neutral too. This way I am all sorted for any future children too. And I have been told that when people buy you gifts it's always blue or pink!

Bufty · 31/01/2010 15:16

I decided not to find out what i'm having. I want a nice suprise!
I am just going to buy things in white or the neutral colours. From having a wee look round they quite often seem to be nicer anyway .
The only think is we have got an awful lot of hand me downs from a family member who had a boy..so even if it is a girl it will be in them!

FabIsGoingToBeFabIn2010 · 31/01/2010 15:22

White vests, baby grows and coat.
Unisex cot sheets.
White pram sheets and blankets.

Not difficult really and a baby should be in babygrows for the first few weeks imo.

No wonder this newborn was screaming the other day. He had jeans, boots, a denim jacket and a cap on. Not even 3 months old.

MumNWLondon · 31/01/2010 15:23

I didn't know the sex with my first. I bought white babygros, snowsuit (October) cardigans and vests.

As someone else pointed out can bleach white stuff etc - it all got covered in orange coloured colostrum possit/sick (TMI?) so was pleased it was just just white and could bleach.

I was only in hospital for 1 day and the pink clothes started arriving within 2 days of her being born!

Mainly wore babygros for first three months.

lowrib · 31/01/2010 15:25

For new stuff I got non blue-pink things - lovely bright colours when I splashed out on nice stuff, and white / oatmeal otherwise.

H&M do some really cool stuff (don't know if they start at newborn as I only discovered their kids bit recently, but I expect they do?)

For hand-me-downs I accepted all I was given and passed the "wrong" set on.

For those relatives / friends who are obsessed with gender colour coding, I think it actually does them good to learn that you can dress a baby in colours other than blue/pink

Stick to your guns and start training them now!

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JamieJay · 31/01/2010 16:12

Thanks all

lowrib love the line about training family! Think we're going to have to do a lot of that, everyone has an opinion on everything even the fact we are painting the spare room pale green rather than a gender specific blue or pink!!

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cece · 31/01/2010 16:17

I didn't know with any of mine. Most of my 0-3 months stuff is neatral coloured, mainly white or cream.

For their first outfits (in the labour room) I went for colour;

DD had various shades of blue babygro in stripes. (chosen by me!)

DS1 had a pale blue babygro with Winnie the Pooh on the front (DD chose it aged 2 )

DS2 had a green and yellow stripey babygro (chosen by DH)

cece · 31/01/2010 16:18

Good tip about being able to wash it al together in one wash btw!

TulipsInTheRain · 31/01/2010 16:19

dd - enough newborn stuff in unisex to do a few days then a shopping trip at one week.... although i had one girl outfit bought as i 'knew'

ds1 - some unisex and some boys as i 'knew' again and if i was wrong we had all dd's stuff in reserve

ds2 - i 'knew' again so mostly boys stuff and a few bits of unisex in case i was wrong (most of the older kids clothes had been given away)

ronx · 31/01/2010 16:21

We bought unisex clothes - we figured we'd be inundated with pink/blue after the baby was born.

Two4One · 31/01/2010 16:24

Does anyone else absolutely hate to see newborns in little outfits? I saw a picture on FB today of a 2-day-old baby girl in pink tights, a denim pinafore and a pink roll-neck jumper. Surprised they hadn't pierced her ears and given her a handbag to match!

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