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Only just had a baby and think I'm pregnant again

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mummyandlovingit · 06/07/2005 22:05

Think I'm pregnant again and have only just had a baby. Has anyone else had experience of this and how did they cope? If I am, I will have a one year old when I have the baby. Will it be a nightmare?

I will definitely have the baby if I am but just wanted some words of reassurance.

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MrsGordonRamsay · 06/07/2005 22:06

There are 15 months between DSis and I, we have our moments, but in essence we are very very close.

singyswife · 06/07/2005 22:06

I know people who this has happened to. One of my sister in laws friends discovered she was pregnant when DS2 was 8 months old. She is managing fine. You will be fine and just think it wiill all be over with quick.

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mummyandlovingit · 06/07/2005 22:08

Thank you for your quick replies. Good to know that people manage. Not at all what I planned - in fact wanted to wait four years till the next one but hey these things happen.

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gigglinggoblin · 06/07/2005 22:08

ds1 & 2 have 18 months age gap, and that was much easier than the 4 year gap between ds2 and 3. they will amuse each other and enjoy pretty much the same stuff. it is tiring but you just have to be selfish, do what is right for you (cos that will be what is right for the kids) and dont be scared to ask for help

hakunamatata · 06/07/2005 22:08

You can do it! A good back-up system is essential, tho. recruit family, friends, neighbors, MNers...

congratulations!

Nemo1977 · 06/07/2005 22:09

my mum had 15mths between my sisters and said it was best thing she did..also have a couple of friends with exactly one year between babies and said it was good but hard work. Am sure u will be fine

babyonboard · 06/07/2005 22:10

yes congratualtions..no doubt it will be hard at first, but you will manage as we always do..and they will be so close growing up! that will be lovely i am sure

charleepeters · 06/07/2005 22:11

have you done a pg test? are you sure - great if you are though!

spidermama · 06/07/2005 22:12

dd1 and ds2 have 15 month gap. It's hard going in the early days having two such young people around, but they're very close now. It's great because they are at similar stages (bedtime stories, entertainment, swimming etc) so I think it works out well in the end. My MW said it's not ideal for your body as it ought really to have longer to recover though, so look after yourself.
Congrats though.

blodwen · 06/07/2005 22:12

I childmind for a family with a 12 month gap between the first and second child, and 14 months between the second and third. They are all adorable. It's hard work, there's no denying that, but very rewarding. Good luck.

MrsGordonRamsay · 06/07/2005 22:12

BTW

My DM was determined not to get pregnant, so much so, she blamed her excessive wind/ heartburn on a mince pie..................Christmas came and went and she still had heartburn...............We call her ...............

jamiesam · 06/07/2005 22:13

15 months between my eldest brother and sister. Can't have been sooo bad as 16 months between sisters 1 and 2, and mum still sane by the time I came along (I think). Don't know how she coped though (My dad was great at bathtime and getting the washing machine out, but no other caring/domestic role that we can remember)

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mummyandlovingit · 06/07/2005 22:13

No haven't done a test yet (too early!) but do have some of the symptoms that I had in the previous pregnancy. It's not 100% but am panicking and haven't been sleeping (not that I get much sleep anyway with a little one). I just needed to know that if I am, I'll cope.

You have all been very encouraging. Thanks!

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tiptop · 06/07/2005 22:31

Just a quick message as I'm off to bed. I had 15 mths between my two and it has worked out brilliantly as I said it would. No regrets here! Oh, and my two are in double figures now, btw. Good luck whatever the pregancy test (when you do one) says!

lunachic · 06/07/2005 22:35

i was pg again when my ds was 10 months hes now nearly 3 and dd is 14 months and they are getting along brilliantly im really glad i had them close -i was an only child and i love seeing them playing together hopefully they will be allies in later years ?!
good luck hope it all works out well for you too

piglit · 07/07/2005 09:24

I have an eight month old and am 19 weeks pg - there will be 13 months between them. I'm sure you will be fine but I would just say that it is very very hard going so far. Get all the help and support you can. Good luck!

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mummyandlovingit · 07/07/2005 09:26

Thanks lunachic and tiptop. It is great to hear that having two close in age means that a close companionship will be formed. Am now feeling much more positive and will keep you all updated with the outcome.

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compo · 07/07/2005 09:26

Read Jools Oliver's book - she has a one year gap and talks about how to cope etc

sparklymieow · 07/07/2005 09:52

There is 15 months between me and misdee, 18 months between Misdee and sister, and 15 months between sister and brother, I also have 15 months between DD1 and DD2........ I am very close to my sisters and brother

PeachyClair · 07/07/2005 10:01

There is a 13.5 month gap between my eldest two. We chose it deliberately because I has such a bad first pregnancy I knew I would panic if I waited too long after! They are now 4 and 5.

Note that we have ds3 now so it cannot be too bad!

The age gap has good and bad sides, tbh. Things are prob a little more difficult for us as ds1 has mild sn, however bed times are a nightmare as if you put them up at the same time they go mad with each other, but they hate to be separated too so getting them up at diffrent times is also virtually impossible. things like starting school / childcare are expensive times for anyone too, but have been more so for us as it just kept coming, IYSWIM.

The good side though is that are so CLOSE! It might not always last, but right now... it's lovely! They share toys, want the same tv programmes, like the same trips. If I want to buy one expensive christmas gift (eg a playhouse) I can, because they will both like it and SHARE! Given that Sam has Aspergers, he is learning o share in a way he simply wouldnt without Stirling.

Would I do it again? Oh yes, happily! They love each other, potty trianed together, have their own language like twins...

Had finance and Sam's sn not been an issue, DS3 would have been followed shortly by ds/dd4

Listmaker · 07/07/2005 10:09

There is a year and 20 days between me and my brother and that was in the days of terry nappies and no automatic washing machines etc etc! My Mum must have been knackered! But she managed and we were very close and there;s no jealousy because I was too young for that when he came along. It's good to get it over with quickly imo! Mine are 2 years and 6 days apart and it was hard work at first (especially as I was on my own after dd2 was 3 months old and he was no help before that!!) but so worth it. They play so brilliantly together and are growing up so fast. I see friends with a 4 plus age gap and they are still so tied to the little ones whereas my two are both at school and I'm getting some life back!

It'll be great (mainly!) so congratulations!!

jersey · 15/07/2005 10:37

Hi mummyandlovingit

I may be in the same boat, my little one is one on sunday and I suspect I may be preg again, not planned as wanted a bigger gap. I'm too early for a test as well.

Will have to wait and see. Have you done a test yet?

Good luck, will let you know if I am, got another 13 days to go yet!

sorrel · 15/07/2005 10:46

my dh and his sister were born in the same year only 10 months apart( she was a premie). Mil says it was like having twins.

LadyLazarus · 16/07/2005 20:53

I second compo's comment about the Jools Oliver book, she got pregnant again when her first child was 3 or 4 months, it's a fasinating insight into how she managed it all, and will make you feel better I think!

jersey · 18/07/2005 11:36

Hi mummyandlovingit, did you do the preg test?

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