I found it easy being a single mum to one, but now I have two its really hard, there are 13 months between them. I must admit I often say I can't cope and i get very tired, and feel guilty that i cant give trhem both enough attention.
When they both cry at the same time I dont know what to do and wish i had at least six arms but but they're both fed, clothed, clean, the housework is done fairly well and everyone says I'm coping and health visitors say how happy they both are so I guess I must be coping. They both breastfeed.
Shopping is the hardest as I find it tricky to manouevre a double buggy and carry a shopping basket. Not all buses are easy access and eldest has only just staryted walking so I have to wait for ages sonmetimes to get a bus that I dont have to fold thre buggy for.
It will be hard but i think if you have to cope you do cope. If anyone offers to help, accept it; I don't have any family or friends and am waiting for a homestary volunteer but there wont be one available for a while. If people offer to help, suggest ways that will help as their idea of helping may be very doifferent from yours. I appreciate this is difficult though as you don't want to risk sounding ungrateful.
Good luck, rest as much as you can while you can. Although hard work, its enjoyable. Mine are both lovely, and whilstI dont think I would want this age gap agsain, I have no regrets. Its very rewarding and you should see how they communicate with each other. Eldest is 19 months and very affectionate towatrds his sister.