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Just got BFP, but not telling DH...

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HeighHoHoHo · 23/12/2009 16:51

... as have mc a number of times, 4 before 6 weeks, so am not believing I'm pregnant until I get past 6 weeks.

Not sure how long I will hold out for, but thought I'd try.

Feels a bit weird posting in pregnancy, as don't feel it/believe it.

Just wanted to share my news with someone.

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sunburntats · 26/12/2009 19:15

oh i know, in the back of my mind is always a wee "oooh maybe this time"

I have got everything crossed for you, do you have a good feeling about it?
Its time you had good things

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HeighHoHoHo · 26/12/2009 19:45

Despite saying that I don't believe this will turn into a baby, I am endlessly optimistic. So, the fact that it was an immediate line within seconds, makes me more hopeful (though last mc was immediate dark line too )

I've got no symptoms at all, but know that doesn't mean anything. It's very early days, but a bit of nausea, sore breasts or indigestion would be nice and reassuring

When was your last mc, sunburnt?

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MumNWLondon · 26/12/2009 20:50

Presumably you can get early scan because of your history?

re: symptoms - there was a thread recently on this and many people replied no symptoms that early.

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HeighHoHoHo · 26/12/2009 21:37

thanks mumNWLondon. Yes, can have regular scans from 7 weeks - which feels like aeons away. Before then, I wondered if they'd do beta HCG bloods to see if they were doubling every 48 hours, which would be very reassuring - but they don't. So just got to knicker check obsessively until 7 weeks.

Have now got some ridiculous superstitious thought in head that it'll all go wrong if I actually tell DH - do know that's mad

Oh dear, just about to post and have just started big abdomen twinges/pain - maybe this is the end already

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MumNWLondon · 26/12/2009 22:03

i had twinges/cramps at 5 weeks, so don't worry yet - think its the liagments stretching in womb...

might be worth going back and pushing the blood tests, as if all is ok they give reassurance and if its not they might point to what is problem - my friend had a couple of miscarriage and it turned out she had low progesterone levels and then went on to have successful pregnancy by taking progesterone until 12 weeks.

PfftTheMagicDragon · 27/12/2009 06:06

how's it going?

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HeighHoHoHo · 27/12/2009 06:27

No bleeding yet, thank you for asking.

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oxocube · 27/12/2009 08:43

Oh good luck. Am keeping everything crossed for you [smle]

alys78 · 27/12/2009 08:48

Hi,

Just wanted to say good luck. I had my first mc in october but thankfully fell pregnany again quite quickly, I'm now 7+3.

Keep thinking positive.

Good luck

Alys xx

MumNWLondon · 27/12/2009 11:08

Heighhoho - am thinking of you, keep thinking positive. Are you still having the pain?

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HeighHoHoHo · 29/12/2009 18:26

thank you all for your messages. Still getting twinges/period pain feelings, but no bleeding.

Was 5 weeks yesterday and told my husband on Sunday night that I was pregnant. His response was 'I thought your period was due soon', so I said, 'it's good news isn't it?' to which he replied, 'I just feel worried for you' Not really the response you hope to get when you announce you are pregnant, but I do understand as the last mc lasted for 6 weeks (although only 6 week old pregnancy) and wiped me out somewhat.

We've not really talked about it since. I rang the epu and have a scan booked for 7 weeks, so I just really really hope I get there. They were lovely and gave me lots of congratulations and sounded thrilled for me, which was lovely to hear.

Really appreciate all your responses thank you x

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HeighHoHoHo · 29/12/2009 18:27

Congratulations Alys, hope all goes well x

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brettgirl2 · 30/12/2009 12:59

I think that twinges and cramps are normal to some extent - it happens when everything stretches.

Good luck to all x

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HeighHoHoHo · 31/12/2009 06:29

DH said last night that he is dealing with the risk of mc, by pretending I'm not pregnant.

this is fine, except I was shattered yesterday after friends came round and he'd forgotten why I might be so exhausted! I reminded him and he was very apologetic.

Also feel a bit sad, as I sort of think that I ought to try to enjoy this pregnancy while it lasts, and it would be nice to be able to be a bit excited about it with DH.

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blowninonabreeze · 31/12/2009 06:43

Best of luck.

Perhaps your husband is (emotionally) in the place you were in last Wednesday. Back then you were feeling/believing you were not pregnant as a self protection mechanism.

He's had less time to process the information than you have but I'm sure he'll get there soon.

Really really hope this turns out well for you both

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HeighHoHoHo · 31/12/2009 06:56

Thank you for that. Yes, you're probably right, had not thought of it like that, thanks for suggesting it. I'm not criticising him for his reaction at all, I suppose I sort of think I wish I'd not told him yet, as it's made no difference now he knows!

I've had two mc before 5 weeks (so got passed that ), 2 mc at 6 weeks and 2 at 11 weeks, so will be worrying about those dates, although know it could happen at any time.

I'm still getting period pain twinges and aches, but am hoping its the embryo burrowing in deep as no blood

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blowninonabreeze · 31/12/2009 07:08

No problem, one of those situations where it helps coming onto a thread late and read the whole thing in one go.

Keeping everything crossed for you

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HeighHoHoHo · 31/12/2009 07:16

Thank you. Tis nice talking about it on here, as part of me is VERY excited. I think I'm eternally optimistic as I think this one might last (thought that about the last one too ) and it is good to be pleased and excited while I am pregnant, whatever may happen in the future IYSWIM

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Pantofino · 31/12/2009 08:16

Well I had the period pains, and the exhaustion. I was in denial and put down my late period to stress, as I had just started a secondment and was commuting weekly to Dublin. Dd is 6 in March. I hope that everything works out for this time! All the best for a new 2010 baby!

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HeighHoHoHo · 31/12/2009 09:11

Thanks for that pantofino, it's good to know it could be normal! Got my fingers crossed big time x

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LuckyC · 31/12/2009 09:21

HeighHo - I also have my fingers crossed big time for you and your sticky bean xx

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HeighHoHoHo · 31/12/2009 10:15

Thank you LuckyC, that's kind Will keep you posted x

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bearcrumble · 31/12/2009 15:36

Good luck, HeighHo. I really hope this one is the one for you. I know how nerve wracking the early part is. I think it is quite normal to feel bloated and uncomfortable (I had what felt like terrible trapped wind all the time) x

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HeighHoHoHo · 31/12/2009 20:30

I keep getting excited, then having to rein it in as my recent history has not given me much hope. Feeling a tiny bit nauseous this evening - which is good

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rainbowdays · 31/12/2009 21:14

Heighho - hope you don't mind a recurrent miscarriager joining you here? I had 5 early miscarriages in 2009, between 5 and 6 weeks. I have just got a positive test today, but stupidly early (I ovulated on cd10!), so I am actually only 3weeks1day today..... ! I had all the familiar symptoms start yesterday, so tested and got an evaporation line, tested again today and the faint line came up within the time limit. I read your thread a couple of days ago, and totally understand where you are coming from. With my last pregnancy my dh just totally shut off from it, I was relieved when it ended at 5 weeks as I started losing excitement at 4.5 weeks as the familiar feelings of losing the baby started and my dh was not excited by the pregnancy at all. I could not blame him, it was tough in the last year being pregnant then not over and over again.

I was not going to tell my dh but he walked in on me looking at the test this evening, so I told him. He tried putting on a happy reaction, but I can tell he is very guarded about it. I am trying to think positively this time. The most difficult m/c for me last year had the due date of 20th January, so for me this date is going to be tough.

Anyway, apart from wanting to waffle to you my own story, I just wanted to say, can we get excited together, while waiting for our dh's to catch up?!