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how many weeks were you when you told everyone you were pg?

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paranoidandroidwithabobcut · 05/12/2009 10:18

just wondering as i am a bit old fashioned and want to wait until 12 weeks but one of my dance mums has told me this morning that she is pregnant and she is only 5 weeks!

feels odd that she is only 1 week ahead of me but i dont plan on telling anyone for another 8 weeks, and i will admit that i am rather jealous of all the attention she will be getting for all those weeks before me

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bigchris · 05/12/2009 10:26

i waited until the 12 week scan

girlsyearapart · 05/12/2009 10:27

With dd1 I told everyone except Dh (had to tell him I guess!) and one friend who was about to move away to China.

With dd2 I had to tell my ILs as we went to visit SIL in Australia together and it would've been too hard to avoid cold beer, waterslides etc without being obvious (bad liar). I was 8 weeks and told my sister before I left.

IMO better to wait until the 12week scan or maybe tell 1 or 2 good friends as you will need their support if something happens.

Oh and congrats

Georgimama · 05/12/2009 10:33

I told my family as soon as I found out. I told everyone else at 10 weeks, but we had had a scan by then.

Febesisachristmascracker · 05/12/2009 10:37

I told family and close friends fairly quickly, work friends at around 8-10 weeks and everyone at 12 weeks. I can't keep secrets!!

hf128219 · 05/12/2009 10:43

19 +3!

scottishmummy · 05/12/2009 10:44

12wk after epu scans.friends guessed but kept schtum

LowLevelWhingeing · 05/12/2009 10:48

Hf128219 - 19+3!!

5 weeks for us. I'm a crap liar and we were excited. We thought about keeping it to ourselves but felt that if the worst was to happen we would need people to know.

blondiep14 · 05/12/2009 10:51

Apart from very close rellies who would suss I wasn't drinking, we didn't tell anyone until 12 week scan with DS1.
With this pregnancy, again, told my mum & in-laws early on and also told friends who are TTC a week or so before the scan so they had time to get their heads around it before we told everyone after the 12 week scan.

cece · 05/12/2009 10:52

I told 'people' after my 22 week scan, so I was about 24 weeks before a lot of people knew. Obviously we told close family and a few select friends who could keep a secret before then - mostly at about 14 weeks.

That was mainly because we had a second trimester loss in my previous pg though so were cautious not to let our other DC know. They were so upset about our loss that we wanted to protect them if it happened again.

tobago04 · 05/12/2009 10:52

Told parents and a couple of close friends when we found out with with dd 1 and 2,told everyone else at 12wks,this time dh got drunk at a party last weekend and told everyone,i'm only 5wks!

beanzmum · 05/12/2009 11:19

My DH wanted to keep it quiet for ages, but we told my parents just before our 12wk scan (I wanted my mum to be there as well - as a radiologist she made an excellent extra security blanket!).

We told the rest of the family after the scan and then friends once the GPs-to-be knew (so at 13 - 14wks). My MIL would have been gutted if she hadn't been almost-first to know

However I did tell a close friend at work when I was 6wks - I needed someone to know in case I had to call in sick due to nausea!

somewhathorrified · 05/12/2009 11:27

We told the people that we didn't mind also telling if things didn't work out straight away (3-4 weeks I think it was). For those that I didn't want to have that conversation with we waited til the 20wk scan.

BloodRedTulips · 05/12/2009 11:35

dd, dp's parents 9 weeks, my parents 15 weeks, everyone else whenever it came up after about 10 weeks.

ds1, dp's parents at 10/12 weeks when we found out , my parents at 22 weeks and other people sort of as they noticed.

ds2, dp's parents at 5 weeks, a couple of close frineds at 6-9 weeks, my parents at 20 weeks

i told my parents so late with the ds' as we have spina bifida in the family and i have a scan to check the spine at around 20 weeks, with dd my mother was so full of doom and gloom and really frightened me coming up to that scan so now i don't tell her til i can say 'i'm pregnant and yes the spine is perfectly fine!'

girlsyearapart · 05/12/2009 12:51

i was wondering bloodred..

Realised my previous post didn't make much sense.. Meant with dd1 we didn't tell anyone except one friend until the 12wk scan.

nickytwotimes · 05/12/2009 12:57

I had to tell the parents fairly early as I was ill; hyperemisis this time, and needed help with ds. Two close friends were told too becasue they were worried about me going into hospital.
Other than that, it was after teh 12 week scan. Telling people en mass at 5 weeks seems a bit soon imo. Other than on here though!

gorge2003 · 05/12/2009 13:19

ds---when i found out

2nd pregnancy---when i found out (miscarriage at 11+5)

3rd pregnancy---when i found out (miscarriage at 6 weeks)

dd--family when i found out and very close friends, the world when i had my 12 week scan!

Didnt tell everyone til after my scan this time (dd is 12 weeks old) after two miscarriages, everything worked out fine this time though! She is our little miracle!

RockBird · 05/12/2009 13:24

I was about 5 minutes pregnant. Told my parents and DH's parents and my parents made us all go round to my brother's house to tell them. We don't do secrets in our family!

Told my boss at about 7 weeks and everyone at work after 12 weeks although they guessed before.

Emster30 · 05/12/2009 19:33

I'm 8 weeks tomorrow and we told our close friends at 5 weeks, my parents/grandparents at 6 weeks and the inlaws at 7 weeks (wanted to tell family in person). I told my boss at 6 weeks as I thought I might need some time off due to ms, and anyway she would find out if something went wrong. We also told our neighbours last weekend, slightly by mistake, but they have a 5 week old baby so the conversation was inevitably about babies.
We'll tell more family (aunts/uncles etc) when we see them at Christmas (will be 10 weeks), then everyone else after the scan which is on 30 Dec (assuming all's well, of course...)

Emster30 · 05/12/2009 19:34

pS it's so lovely telling everyone the news that it's fun to spread it out a bit and not tell them all at once! Feel a bit sad that we've told all the people we're closest to now, ie the people who will be most excited for us.

bibbitybobbityhat · 05/12/2009 19:35

After the 12 week scan, both times.

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paranoidandroidwithabobcut · 05/12/2009 20:08

thanks everyone, comp has been playing up so just got back to this.

think i will tell my parents pretty soon but then leave the rest till 12 weeks.

would love to tell my two best friends but i know that one of them could never keep it to herself so might just wait and tell both of them at the same time.

going to be so tough over xmas though as everyone knows i am a big drinker, no point even trying to say i am ill/driving as they will see right through me so just going to have to act like i am drinking, dh says i have enough practise to win a oscar at this

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Beanigan · 05/12/2009 20:16

DS1 - told DH, 1 friend & sister as soon as I knew. Everyone else 16 weeks

DC2 - told DH, 1 friend & sister as soon as I knew. Everyone else 20 weeks (going through redundancies so had to keep it very quiet so wasn't selected.... if facebook didn't exist maybe I'd have told family earlier!)

By the way with drinking.....at 8 weeks I had a huge family get together where we all went away together for 2 weeks. I'd pour a glass of wine and my DH & sister were my decoys and both took gulps when no-one was looking. Otherwise my drinks were flung down the sink/behind a tree etc. I never used the excuse I was driving too much as usually my DH does the driving & it'll be too obvious- although we planned a couple of occasions where he's purposely start on the beers and we had a 'pretend' argument as it meant i couldn't drink and had to drive. Become a great actress - you can do it!!!

del1 · 05/12/2009 21:41

I am a police officer, on 'the beat'. So didn't want to risk getting into a confrontation. Would have prefered to wait untill the 12wk scan, but for safety, told my boss as soon as I found out - about 3 weeks !! ( I couldn't hide in the office eating doughnuts for two months without being noticed!) lol.

Meglet · 05/12/2009 21:44

For both dc's told immediate family as soon as I knew (5 weeks or so).

Work collegues at 8 weeks because I was feeling pretty sick and coudn't see any point in hiding it. Then extended family and friends at 12 weeks.

MarieKL · 05/12/2009 22:21

We started telling our friends and family at 15 weeks (after the scan and when we could get up North to visit). Given we'd had a few family weddings in the meantime and I hadn't been drinking they already had an inkling, but it was great to see their faces.

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