Right from the moment we told her I was expecting again, my mother-in-law has only been interested in the sex of the baby. Or as she puts it "I wonder if it will have an appendage". I have two girls, so it is a clear message to me that they are not good enough and she wants a boy. I have been happy enough to ignore her stupid comments but the other day when I told her I had my 2nd scan coming up this week, the first thing she said was "Do call me if it has an appendage". She then realised she had been a bit offensive and said well call me either way. I am so cross. The anomaly scan is obviously to see if the baby has any abnormalities, health or growth issues, but she has shown no concern about this whatsoever. Of course we would be delighted to have a boy, but mostly we would love to have a healthy baby. She is just being really rude and obvious about it, and making it quite clear that a girl will be a disappointment. So please help me out, how shall I handle this? We are wondering whether to refuse to tell her the sex, but that means keeping it a secret from everyone, which seems a bit precious. I am all for keeping the peace usually, but I really do want to make my feelings known to her. Any good comebacks anyone?