Pregnancy after Miscarriage Part IX - Knicker Checkers etc

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New one! Thought I would make my mark!

Bella that's fantastic news!! Great news on your scan and you will start to feel less tired soon now you've passed the 12 weeks. It won't be long either before you get more of a bump and start to feel better. We went on hols when I was 20 weeks and I definitely looked pregnant then.

Hope that you're managing to relax and enjoy things a little more now

thanks scarlotti

Really quick post as my parents have just arrived - but we had a little boy on the evening of 20 August. He is beautiful!

Wow, Congratulations cornflake and look forward to hearing all about it when you're back online

Yay!!!! Congratulations Cornflake on the arrival of your CornflakeBoy!!!!!

Can't wait to hear all about it - wishing you all the best >>

PS will macrame him a special hemp and woad dreamcatcher as soon as you let us know his name

Hooray, congratulations Cornflake

Afternoon all just poppsed in hoping for news of Ash & Cornflake and seen the FANTASTC post from CornflakeMummy!! Congratulations Cornflake am really thrilled for you and looking forward to hearing the gorey details!!

So assuming Ash had her section on 18th does that make me top of the list??? Crikey! Hope I'm not there for tooooo long though, already feels like I've been pg forever and due date isn't til wed. Am going for some acupuncture this aft, and considering having a sweep at mw app on thursday, so fingers crossed. Oh, and started on the pineapple this morning! I worked out the other day that over the 3 pregnancies it's taken to get us to this stage I've now been pg for over 67 weeks!!! Surely I deserve to have a baby soon?!?

Big love to all, and welcome to all the newbies, sorry for the mememe post, as you can probably tell I'm not very good company atm It's lovely to pop in & see so many familiar faces as well though, hopefully I'll be back before too long with some good news for you all! Though (of course) worries about mc have now just been replaced by worries about still birth/birth complications/etc etc etc... Have to keep reminding myself that the most likely outcome is that everything will be fine, but am finding it really hard to believe there will be a healthy baby at the end of this... am trying though!

Back soon (hopefully in a better/less hormonal mood!) xx

Nemo - are you Lola? Know what you mean about stillbirth worries, they became really real for me at the end. Do keep trying to think positive.

Will post more when less sleep deprived - off to bed now. Thanks for all the congratulations!

Nemo Lola? Very exciting time for you now then, it's only natural to be anxious about what might happen. After all, that's been the nature of it for the last 9 months given the previous histories.
Raspberry leaf tea is supposed to help, as well as the one that the blokes love!
Try and stay positive and keep focussing on that healthy baby that you'll be holding soon.

67 weeks - does that make you an elephant?!

cornflake hope you're not too exhausted

Bit of a blip here ... I work on a contract basis and was due to get an extension this week to cover my last 6 weeks of working. Looks like it's not going to happen now - hoping I can get some more work to fill in the deficit otherwise it's going to be goodbye savings and only 3 months mat leave. Not what I'd hoped but I guess it could be worse, am sure some folk are out of work with no savings at all.

Brilliant news cornflake! Congratulations! Hope everything went well and can't wait to hear the details..

am so embarrassed! Yes am Lola, had totally forgotten I'd name changed! So sorry! Bloody pregnancy brain...

Thanks for the reassurance cornflake & Scarlotti, I figure it's only natural, and I'm managing to keep the worrying to a manageable level at least. Scarlotti yes, am definitely an elephant, you should see the state of me! Hope work sorts itself out for you, it's rubbish worrying about money, one of my main preoccupations when not worrying about the baby...

popping in to check up on you lot that are about to pop and yay for cornflake. CONGRATS!!! boys are just lovely . I can't believe mine is 4mths now, favourite new past time rolling over, it's magical!

Fingers crossed for news from ash soon.

Lola what you're feeling is completely natural. I honestly was a nervous wreck right up until he was born and in my arms with wide eyes and definate breath sounds! Then I could hardly sleep for checking on him constantly in case of cot death. Slowly the joy of being a mum to this beautiful little person has taken over the worrying. Won't be long for you now

scarlotti - that's crap news about work. Hope you manage to sort it out - what's the contract market like at the moment?

lola - hope you're feeling a bit cheerier today? Any signs yet? Much easier to feel positive when you feel like something's actually going to happen soon!

I'm feeling much more human today, thankfully. Cornflakeboy is very sucky in the early hours, and I finally resorted to a dummy last night, so actually got a decent amount of sleep. Wasn't sure if it was going to be a really bad idea, but talked to a breastfeeding counsellor today who reckoned that because he is feeding really well the rest of the time it should be okay, which made me feel better.

Brief birth story: it was a really positive experience, which was great, because with DS1 it was an unpleasantly protracted affair. Things started about 3am on Thursday morning, with established labour starting about 12 hours later. I went into hospital about 5pm and after a couple of hours labouring over a birthing ball with entonox, DS2 made his entrance. The midwives were brilliant - just let me get on with things except for the bits where I wasn't handling the pain well and needed calming down. And my bits escaped with nothing more than a labial graze, despite DS2 being 10lb1oz. We had lovely skin to skin, and he started feeding within about 20 minutes of being born. Couldn't really have gone better. And as previously mentioned, he is beautiful!

Cornflake that sounds lovely, and great that you're even getting some decent sleep now.

Lola how exciting that there's another baby almost here. When you get sick of pineapple try the champagne option - surely the least probably suggestion for bringing on labour but the only one I've ever fancied following.........

I finally went onto the nappylady website to see the advice - can't believe how detailed it is. Now feeling overwhelmed with all the information and wondering how on earth to decide what to buy. Somehow it has made the baby feel even more real though.

By the way, my sister's MIL is American and has arranged a baby shower for her (sister finding it a big cringey but on the other hand lots of MIL's friends who sound like good present givers ) - any ideas about presents? Don't want to look too tight but I was planning on getting a really nice present when she has the baby as it's her first, so I don't want to go overboard just yet (vague realisation that another year without proper pay starts shortly).

alana - how come nobody told me about the champagne option? I feel robbed!

Did you do the questionnaire on the nappy lady website? I found it really helpful for navigating the minefield of information. Also, while different people rave about different nappy combinations, I've never heard anyone badmouth Totsbots nappies with Motherease wraps, so that might be a good place to start.

Pressy-wise - how about some body lotion or similar - something small to pamper her? Just tell her that she'll get the proper pressie when the baby's here, and don't worry about what her MIL's friends think!

Yes it's from the questionnaire that I got a 7 page email of advice . Motherease wraps were mentioned actually so that's good to know, thanks.

I think the champagne thing is probably just a myth that works in women's favour for a change, rather than some of the others which are obviously made up by blokes.

Hopefully with a 1 or 2 page summary that has just a couple of suggested solutions?

I think perineal massage is definitely a bloke invention. "For 3 or 4 weeks before the birth, we will permit you daily to simulate the pain of passing a baby's head out of your vagina." Thanks, but I think I can live with doing that just the once...

Am going to go and drink some champagne to make up for all that I should have consumed before the birth.

Hello lovely laydeez. The thread just popped up on Active Conversations so thought I'd pop in to say hi. Congratulations to cornflake - sounds like a lovely birth too. And lol about perineal massage - can't say I fancied it myself, either.

Thinking of you Nemo - hope all goes really well, and will check back later.

Maya is 5 months now, and I'm going back to work in a month! We've had the most lovely summer mostly sitting in various parks and eating cake .

Hugs to all, and I hope bumps and bubbas are doing really well.

xx

cornflake what a lovely birth story, and gives me hope as I had a nasty tear with DS who was 8lbs 10. Am definitely going for the slow and easy out route this time with the aim of the odd graze for my troubles!
Am a dummy user this end too so all for that gaining a few extra hours sleep

Contract market is so-so at the moment but as I only have about 6 weeks of work left, I'll be hard pushed to get one that short. Most are 3 months at least. Am hoping one of my contacts can find me some work, even if it's just odd days here and there. Anything to try and up the pot of money! On a course this week so brain is ignoring the lack of work for next week!!

Mmm, champagne ...

Hi all

Congratulations Cornflake it sounds like the birth wasnt too bad and has given me hope for my labour.

I went for my 20 week scan yesterday (i am actually 21+1) and found out that the LO is most likely to be a 10lb baby. Apart from that everything else was fine, which is good news and i am starting to worry a bit less

Sorry to hear about your job Scarlotti hopefully you find something to do for the next 6 weeks.

((((Big hugs to everyone else on here))))

Ciara great news on your scan and don't worry about what they've said about size, a lot can change in 20 weeks.

Have plenty to do over the enforced break, it's just the money side that's the issue. Am hoping something comes up though.
Trying to see it as an opportunity to get the nursery sorted etc. and just trying to cut down on all spending.

Will have to learn to streamline and live on a shoestring

daisy - cake and parks sounds fantastic - hope you're planning to ease back into work gently!

ciara - that's great news about your scan. Don't worry about a 10lb baby - it turns out that 10lb is actually still really small. I couldn't believe that DS2 was a whole pound bigger than DS1's birthweight because he looked so tiny! And with a bigger baby you do have the benefit that there's a bit more of them to hold on to when you're trying to feed and stuff.

We started using our cloth nappies yesterday. Cornflakeboy's bottom is now bigger than his head

scarlotti - am with you on the shoestring - DH is normally a SAHD, and I only get SMP so we need him to find some work while I'm on mat leave. I'm in denial about the situation for now!

Good to hear your news Ciara - second what others have said about size, neither of mine have been what was expected at term following measurements on scan.

Lol at big bottom Cornflake if only my problem was size of nappies .

Not getting much sleep at the moment and really struggling at work - combination of bad dreams (about other DCs rather than the baby for a change) and trips to toilet, and last night after a horrible visit from MIL that resulted in a big bust up and one of her friends making a really nasty phone call to us at 1.30am which really wound me up so I couldn't get back to sleep. Can't wait for the end of next week - end of work, end of school holidays, hopefully it will get better then.

Hello, I'm new and thought this thread could answer my current worries about what I suppose is called spotting. I had my 12 week scan this week and should be 13 weeks tomorrow but the very day after my scan, there was a light pink colour to my discharge and one little thread of brown. This happened yesterday and at the same time today, I've had a 2nd appearance - not of pink so far, but a couple of very small traces of brown in my discharge. Should I be going to A and E or is that a total over-reaction. Has anyone ever got their GP to check the heartbeat at this early stage? I've been told they wouldn't have a powerful enough doppler, but if some of you are using yours at home from 10 weeks then surely?? Points of view warmly welcomed, thank you.

Bluegrey I had almost the same thing happen just after my 12 week scan - it's awful isn't it just when you think things are going ok. Lots of people on here have had bleeding, some of them much more than spotting I think so it is common and isn't necessarily serious. Especially as, once you've seen the heartbeat at 12 weeks the risk of miscarriage is very low (can't remember the stats but I'm sure someone else will).

When I called my midwife she said that they wouldn't do anything unless the bleeding got worse, or was accompanied by pain or cramping, but how you are treated really varies from area to area so if you it's always worth asking (if you have a nearby EPU they may see you). Mine carried on (on and off) for about 4 weeks, and I happened to have a hospital appointment towards the end of that period where they scanned me again and couldn't see anything - the registrar said sometimes you get bleeding from one of the blood vessels on the edge of the placenta at around that time as the uterus stretches. It could also be an erosion on the cervix which is harmless.

I know it's hard not to worry, so I wouldn't go to A&E yet but do give your midwife a call as they will know how the system works. Good luck.