present from the expected babe to toddler? 2nd time mums what did you give?

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Im expecting ds no 2 on 24 May. I wanted baby to give ds1 (will be 2 and 10 mths) a prezzy but wasnt sure what to get, how much to spend, whether to make a big deal of it? Have any no 2 mums been thinking about this or do you have any ideas - eg what friends might have done? Im getting worried because my shopping ability is slowly declining - I just feel like hibernating for the next 4 weeks , under my duvet (sadly not possbile with ds1!!)

rodeo, I know what you mean about the baby being in mummy's tummy, not Debenhams, but I think the bringing of a gift is important. When my brother was born I was 12. My mum told me that his present to me was to have my ears pierced. Even at that advanced age (and even now nearly 20 years later) I still see that as a very important foundation for my relationship with the baby (and we are very very close, although obviously he's a bit bigger and hairier now than then).

Of course I knew that the baby had no part in me getting my ears pierced, but it spelt out very clearly the important message of where he and I and my parents stood in the new relationship dynamics. And I still really do see it as his present, not my mum's!

I got my dd a bear from the Bear Factory, its says "I love you" when you squeeze the tummy and a car seat to put it in. She was 5 at the time and loved it.

ds2 'got' ds1 an aeroplane with trucks & people - about £10 from Argos I think. He was thrilled, took a quick look at the baby (we had him at home) and took the plane off to play with. Now they both play with it so it was a good choice! Not sure what we'll get them from the new baby - getting a bit expensive now!

Ahh these posts are all so nice.

I might buy dd a silver necklace that says 'sister' or something...

My 2nd due on 9th May - ds (2½) been asking for scooter for weeks. Then he said - "will the baby come on one do you think? - perhaps I can ride that"!!!
I think we have to get one now don't you??

spilla

DD2 got DD1 a play washing machine which DD1 was hankering afetr. But DD1 did tell a number of people that there was a washer in mummy's tummy.

My mum bought DD1 a new doll when DD2 was born, which she named after DD2, very sweet but a little confusing.

You could ask him what toy he would like from his new baby brother. Or get him a new cuddly toy.

I'm not sure whether it's worth me buying something for my daughter she will be 21 months when the new baby is here. Would she get jealous at that age do you think?

chocolatefudge x

a hobby horse

dd1 loved it until she realised it was from dd2, then she dropped it like a hot brick and didn't go near it for about six months

oo interesting thread...my ds will be 26mths when our bean comes in dec so some of the ideas will help

I wouldnt bother if I could do it again

A plastic shark from ELC! DS1 loved it and used to keep saying that DS2 bought it for him Well worth the £2 or so it cost.

chocolatefudge - ds1 was 22 months when ds2 arrived, there wasn't any jealousy so I guess I could have got away with not getting him anything, but the plane did distract him for a while and stop him wanting to jump up and down onteh bed next to me!

Ds2 was a planned c/section - each day Ds1 came to visit there was a train engine (from the Thomas set) in the crib awaiting him. For more interesting that the baby.

If you were planning an "exchange" of gifts, then don't go for a toy, but instead try something that the baby will use form Day 1, eg a blanket, so you can say "look, Dx2 is wrpped in/puking up on your blanket".

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Dd bought ds a car transporter lorry (about a fiver from ELC, I think)

He was almost 2 at the time, and now he is almost 6 he still talks about the lorry "xxxx bought me when she was born"

We took step-d to Toys R Us to buy her a present from dd when she was born. I persuaded her to get a huge paddling pool with a slide, hoops, etc. Step-d doesn't live with us, so she got to use it once, maybe twice that summer. Meanwhile I lazed in it most afternoons reading magazines and ringing up work to gloat, while dd slept in her pram.

A space shuttle each for ds1 and ds2 from dd, v v popular, and instant love for their new sister followed!!

i just brought my ds1 a small action figure from his brother when ds2 was born. didn't really feel that it was neccessary to spend a huge amount of money, also had to think about size of present as ds2 'gave' it to ds1 when he came to visit us in hospital. (i made sure ds2 was in cot and put the wrapped up present next to him so that when ds1 looked in the cot he saw his present as well.
it seemed to work and even though now ds1 doesn't like power rangers (thank god) he still keeps the one his broher brought him and says to him you brought me that!

forgot to say ds1 was 4 when ds2 was born

Ds got dd (just under 2) a plastic tea set that was £2.99. She now makes him cups of tea (and tells him off when he "tips" them up) and says "this was from you when you were born". I think you should listen to your ds1 and what he wants, or plant a suggestion for something in his head so that when the new baby comes he is really pleased that he has brought him exactly what he wants.

I can't remember any of them except that DS2 brought DS1 (aged 4.9) a Thunderbirds wall clock. DS1 was v keen on Thunderbirds at the time (1993) but was a bit fazed by it; I think he thought we had taken DS2 and gone to Woolies without him!

One of those 'I'm a Big Brother' tshirts.