Miracle pregnancy - starting to panic, please someone reassure me . . .

[spongebrainbigpants]

To cut a long story short I have blocked fallopian tubes that necessitated IVF. I had two rounds, first one ended in m/c, second one I had a miracle natural pg that also ended in m/c and then had my 3rd round where I had my beautiful DS (8 mths now).

After my natural pg I had a lap and dye to check my tubes thoroughly (original blockage had been diagnosed by scan) and was told that the chances of another natural pg were minute.

Well, I've just done a test and I'm pregnant!

I'm thrilled, couldn't be more happy, but also terrified - firstly that the embryo never made it through the tube and it's actually ectopic and secondly that, after 2 m/cs I will lose this one too.

Am I less likely to have another m/c because I had a successful pg?

Please reassure me - I'm already planning the nursery in my head but at the same time am thinking it's all going to go wrong.

That's wonderful news. Congratulations!!

I'm sure everything will be fine. I would have thought that a successful pregnancy would mean that your less likely to have another m/c, but I'm no expert.

you're not your

Thanks guys.

Bumping for more positive thoughts - needed urgently!

Congratulations!!!
Hope everything goes well for you.

When you've had previous miscarriages it's so, so hard not to constantly worry that the same thing will happening again - especially when the pregnancy is such a miracle and so very special! When I found myself pregnant after PCOS and miscarriage (now at 7 1/2 weeks) I spent the first couple of weeks constantly worrying about all possible negative outcomes and looking for reassurance from anyone and everyone that things would be ok this time round (especially as I've been getting cramping throughout). Eventually I realised that, no matter how professionally qualified, unfortunately the bottom line is that no-one can know for sure that nothing bad will happen. Strangely, for me, that realisation actually helped because I realised that I would just have to count each (incredibly slow) day as a positive. I now have the 'binary approach' to pregnancy - either I am pregnant, or I am not. And unless I have definite evidence to the contrary, I will assume that I still am pregnant. And if I am pregnant, there is no point in spending my pregnancy worrying!

Sorry my post is probably no help to you, but honestly I think that the answer - frustrating that it is, is that all you can do is stay as positive as possible.

Wishing you all the best in the world, and congratualtions!!!

If you have an ectopic pregnancy, it can be diagnosed at around 6 weeks. By then, something should be clearly visible in the uterus if it's all in the right place.
Given your history, you should request an early (6 week) scan from your local EPU to rule out ectopic. Hopefully that will reassure you on that front at least.
Good luck - and you know, doctors are sometimes wrong! Don't let their guesses worry you too much.

mrsd, thank you

beanie, I like your idea of the 'binary pg' - and that's how I'm trying to approach this. I haven't been able to enjoy a pg before, so I'm trying to make the most of this one and just push my fears to the back of my mind. Often easier said than done though .

Good luck to you though, hope all works out this time .

miffin, my GP has now referred my for a 6 week scan and I have also had a blood test today which will be repeated on Friday. Apparently hcg levels can some indication of whether the pg is in-utero or not which I wasn't aware of.

I suppose, having coped with so much sadness for so long, it's hard to believe that I could actually conceive naturally and carry that baby to term. Please please please let my baby stay.

The human body is an amazing thing - don't underestimate your ability to have a baby naturally. It's just what your body was designed to do! Good luck.

aww you've just made me cry, fingers and toes crossed for you xxx

I hope you're right miffin, it hasn't felt like it for so many years but maybe this is where we turn a corner

hannah, thank you

Just to update, my HCG last Tues was 74 and Friday was 488, so all looking good so far x

Oh congratulations!! Postive thoughts coming your way!! xx

Congrats!

You should call your doc- they should do a blood test right away. That can also give a first clue as to whether or not you should be monitored for ectopic.

Good luck!

Such good news. Congratulations, I hope everything continues as well.

Oh wow - that's so so lovely for you, will be keeping all fingers and toes crossed for you!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

Please come back and post when you've had your scan, ok?

Sponge - wanted to add my congratulations and well wishes, too!! Hopefully everything is going well and the only thing you are now dealing with is a growing bump!

Didn't read through all the answers / wishes you've got... but just wanted to say a heartfelt CONGRATULATIONS. This is wonderful news...of course the first trimester (particularly, I think, until that stressful 6 week scan) is very difficult, but I think you have to concentrate on the thought that you have a MUCH bigger chance of everything going ok, than of having a m/c. Please do write here for support if you feel you need it.
Congratulations again!

Hi everyone, and thank you for your continued messages of support - this had dropped off my 'threads I'm on' so I didn't realise anyone else had posted til it came up in Active Convos this morning!

Well, to update, started getting pains last Thursday so went to hospital with suspected ectopic. The staff were wonderful and I was quickly scanned and they confirmed that the pg was in utero!

However, Friday night I then started bleeding , not much but spent a very stressful weekend rushing to the loo every 10 mins .

Phoned the EPU on Monday morning and they got me in for a repeat blood test - my HCG is now 27,000!

They think I'm a little bit more pg than I think I am cos I have a short cycle so would ovulate earlier, so want me in for a scan TOMORROW!

I'm terrified and excited in equal measure. I still don't think it has really sunk in that I might actually have another baby in October, it is just beyond my wildest dreams that this could happen.

I will report back again tomorrow!

Oh and Maria, thank you for pointing out that the odds are much greater of it being ok than not ok - I think when you live with IF and m/c you often focus on the -ve and forget the +ve .

It helps to be reminded!

Fingers crossed for your scan today. Hope all is well

spongebrainbigpants,

I will also keep my fingers crossed for your scan. keep us posted. Overwhelming chance with a positive preg test is that everything is fine and you will end up with a healthy baby. Even better is the fact you already have a child, so you know you can do it! I haven't had to have IVF etc but still had 2 m/c one after the other, one at 14 weeks, m/cs happen unfortunately but they are the minority of cases. I have one DS and about to have another DC in 4 weeks time.

let us know how it goes!

Congratulations and good luck for the scan.

My SIL was told by a doctor that she only had 3% chance of concieving naturally. I don't know where he got the percent figure from but she has 2 children so he must have miscalculated.

sponge, I am 10 weeks pregnant, my last preg was ectopic so had an early scan with this one and baby in the right place.

Then on sunday I started bleeding, its an awful feeling that you're going to lose your baby. Had a scan on Monday though and every thing is fine. Bleeding doesn't always mean something is wrong.

Stay positive and good luck,

Oh good luck! and Congratulations. i'm really keeping my fingers crossed that it all goes well for you. While I was pg with DS, I spent the time up till 12 weeks just biting my nails hoping it wouldn't go wrong (after previous m/c).