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So uncomfortable and in pain all the time and still got over 10 weeks to go! :-(

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soon2befamilyof4 · 07/02/2009 12:20

I am so fed up already. My bump is huge, and can't stop getting comments that I look like I am already due. My back hurts all the time and I am sick daily now because of the pressure etc. I have heartburn so badly and gavison doesn't seem to even work now. I have a 1 year old who wants to be carried all the time and doesn't walk so I am having the added strain of carrying her. I am often sick or dizzy after holding her for more than a min.

Sorry, just feeling a bit sorry for myself at the moment. If I was closer to my due date then I am sure I would cope with it better but to know I still have over 10 weeks left is just depressing.

I would LOVE for some reason to come up that I need to have the baby at 37 weeks. I know that is awful but thats all I keep thinking - less time being pregnant.

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daizydoo · 07/02/2009 12:30

You have my sympathy - I know how you feel and I'm only 26 weeks pregnant!!

ranirani · 07/02/2009 12:33

Oh, I feel so sorry for you!
This is my firts pregnancy so have no idea how would I cope with it and with toddler on top!
But I did feel the same way around your time ( I ma 39+1)... Yoiu just need some help, get your relatives involved, your partner, it does make a difference. Get some quality time for yourself! I am also huge and plus put on lots of weight so now and again when I am out get comments on are you having twins?
back does hurt, but massage helped alot, professional massage, really sorted me out.
good luck!!

firstontheway · 07/02/2009 12:43

I know how you feel. I'm 34 weeks now but have felt like that for the last couple of months, I'm huge too, mt back kills me, my BPs high etc etc, have been signed off work the last 2 weeks it's got so bad. But in a way that's even worse beacause all I can do is sit and wish the baby was here already.

My husband keeps telling me that no matter how hard it is now, even if it gets to the point where I'm in bed in pain non stop for the next 6 weeks, in a year I won't even remember this time. And he's probably right tbh, I'm just taking it one day at a time and trying to look forward to March!

Very un-mumsnetty, but sending you big hugs!

x

mummyontherun · 07/02/2009 13:31

Phew - glad I'm not alone! I still have two months to go and can bearly walk at times - especially if I have been sitting still for too long (and of course that is precisely what I have to do all day at work...) Also because of the pain it seems counter-intuitive to keep active but that does seem to be the key. I am so grumpy and snappy that I even got cross with my toddler today - she's about to be 2. First time ever and she was so shocked I felt really ashamed of myself.

Not sleeping very well either and I know that will get worse! Can't eat too much any more - even though I am hungry - have to choose between food and heartburn - miserable!

Am by nature a coper and not at all good at asking for help but if my fairy godmother showed up I'd ask to miss the next few weeks and get to labour asap. I know it will all be worth it in the end but what I wouldn't give for 24 hours of being unpregnant, enjoying a lovely meal, couple of glasses of wine and a good night's sleep on my tummy!!!!

But it will all be worth it,I'm sure!

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soon2befamilyof4 · 07/02/2009 20:18

Do you know if there is any way to get induced or c-section early? I honestly feel like I can't go on like this anymore. I am in tears at least twice a day as I am just in so much pain. .

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soon2befamilyof4 · 07/02/2009 20:41

I know I probably sound really selfish going on about it and thinking about if there are ways of being induced early.

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Lulumama · 07/02/2009 20:43

you can asked to be induced, but many units are trying to reduce c.s and induction rates, so i;m afraidm that being in pain might not swing it .

also, if you were induced it would be at at least 38 weeks, rather than 37

also, if you do get induced, the earlier it is, the more chance of it taking a long time, and ending up in a c.s if your body is not ready, and having a one year old and a newbonr and having to recover from a c.s is not easy

get as much help as you can , and try to look after yourself, ask your MW if you can take anything to help

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soon2befamilyof4 · 07/02/2009 20:47

I haven't seen a midwife since my booking at 13 weeks . I have made so many appointments that have been cancelled and she is only there every 2 weeks for a couple of hours.

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KristinaM · 07/02/2009 20:50

get your dr to prescribe Mucogel for your heartburn, its great! much more effective than gavsicon

KristinaM · 07/02/2009 20:59

get your dr to prescribe Mucogel for your heartburn, its great! much more effective than gavsicon

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soon2befamilyof4 · 07/02/2009 21:01

Thanks, I am going to ring doctor first thing monday morning anyway so will ask!

To be honest, the heartburn, although it does my head in and does effect my eating etc but it is only a dent in the way I am feeling. I can deal with the HB.

I am worried that this is going to turn into depression as I am just miserable atm

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EsmeWeatherwax · 07/02/2009 21:11

I'm feeling your pain soon to be, am 29 weeks and just fecking miserable all the time, exactly the same symptoms as you, except I don't have the heartburn and sickness anymore because I'm taking Omeprazole. Its a pill for heartburn/indigestion, but it really worked to stop me vomiting as well. Its surprising how much better I felt mentally just for overcoming one horrible pregnancy side effect.

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soon2befamilyof4 · 07/02/2009 21:14

I had some antisickness tablets at one point, and they did make me feel ALOT better. BUT they only give them if you are dehydrated because of the sickness. I am not because I drink loads - although a lot does come back up.

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soon2befamilyof4 · 07/02/2009 21:51

Other thing is that baby will no shift from right under my ribs which is painful. I have tried going on hands and knees etc but nothing works. I am hoping to start antinatal yoga soon which might help?

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EsmeWeatherwax · 07/02/2009 23:05

I hope it will help, love, its just awful when you feel like shit 24/7. Its just so much harder when you have a toddler too, my dd iss 22 months and seems to be getting heavier (and stroppier!) by the day...

Omeprazole isn't an anti-sickness pill though, its an anti-indigestion remedy. I think most of my previous constant nausea was being caused by heartburn/excess stomach acid, and its cleared it for the most part, although still have to resort to Gaviscon the odd night.

I saw you on another thread there, and your 29 weeks same as me? I'm trying to think of it as one more week to get through, then its officially countdown to blastoff time...10 weeks, 9 weeks....

brettgirl2 · 08/02/2009 08:41

I'm on Omeprazole too - it really does work for heartburn (I have to take it all the time, not just in pg). I know what you mean that the HB isn't the only issue but it would probably completely eradicate it and put you back to 'normal' in at least one part. Gaviscon doesn't work at all for me - it just dilutes the acid and makes it slosh around more, in fact I feel sick just thinking about it.

I'm 31 weeks btw and also secretly hoping that I'll have to be early for some reason. My mum had high BP at the end in both of her pgs, she thought it was really convenient being induced early.....

I think the worst thing is people keep on saying to me 'hasn't it gone quickly' NO it bloody well hasn't!!!!!

Lulumama · 08/02/2009 10:45

have you been hving antenatal checks with your GP? it is really important your BP, urine and fundal height are assessed regularly

Rascal1979 · 08/02/2009 10:51

Soon2be - don't want to worry you but the symptoms you have described are the same ones I had when I had pre-eclampsia, severe 'heartburn', sickness, dizziness etc.

Have you had any swelling? particular hands, feet and face? or shoulder pain?

Pre eclamspia can come on quite quickly or creep up on you. You really need to get checked out if only to eliminate this potentially life threatening illness.

Please ring your labour ward and ask to be checked out asap.

Sure that you are fine but it is better to be safe than sorry.

Brettgirl2 - Sorry you are feeling so rough but really at 31 weeks you don't want baby to come yet. I had DD at 30+6 and spent the following 9 weeks at her incubator until she came home. I know what I would prefer .

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soon2befamilyof4 · 08/02/2009 12:57

I think my early brettgirl probably meant like 37-38 weeks or something so still safe. Thats what I keep hoping. Late enough to be full term but earlier than waiting till 40+ weeks.

I haven't been having any checkups what so ever. I had my booking, finally at 13 weeks after weeks of arguing with dotcors surgery and both local hospitals as they were all sending me to each other and all refusing to do anything. Basically, I am in between 2 hospitals and the on I chose to go to (W) is not the one my doctors surgery comes under (H). So W keep telling me I should be going under H and H tell me to go to W etc. All to do with budget and who has to pay for my care. . I had a scan at 13 weeks and 21 weeks.

I also went to hospital once at about 23? weeks with a severe sickness bug, mainly just to get some tablets so I can keep some fluids down. Was only seen for about 15 mins though, after hours of waiting around. Had an antisickness injection which did the trick short term.

Thats it! Haven't had any other appointments.

I haven't had any swelling of hands or feet or anything. Wedding ring still fits perfectly.

I don't have shoulder pain either. They do ache a bit, but nothing like the aches and pain in my back.

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Rascal1979 · 08/02/2009 19:53

Soon2be - TBH with the sickness, heartburn and dizziness i would get checked out.

The swelling only came on once I was in hospital.

Sure you are okay but prob best to get checked out...although I can see why you are heistate with the rubbish care you have had so far

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soon2befamilyof4 · 08/02/2009 20:50

Do you think it is ok to wait till next monday to see MW? She is only there every 2 weeks and she cancelled last week due to snow. Or I could go and see the GP?

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Rascal1979 · 08/02/2009 21:49

If you are still suffering with anyof the following , heaches, being/feeling sick, dizzy and 'heartburn' like pain I would ring your labour ward NOW and tell them you are concerned that you may have pre-eclampsia.

Do you have any other symptoms such as dark urine, light stools?

I really don't want to worry you but PLEASE get checked out. I felt silly going to my maternity unit but within an hour of arriving it was a life and death situation for me and my unborn baby - who ended up being delivered that day by E-CS.

You are probably fine but it really is better to be safe than sorry. I don't want to scare you but neither do I want you to take an unnecessary risk x

lots of usful info on here www.apec.org.uk

My thread when I had pre-eclampsia here www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=pregnancy&threadid=440848-omg-heartburn-from-hell-advice-please#8923767

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soon2befamilyof4 · 08/02/2009 22:47

Right I am getting a bit worried now! I have all of those symptoms.

My legs are also very aching - mainly just today but they feel very cold and heavy. Could this be related?

I really don't want to go to hospital, I will be waiting hours and it is probbaly nothing. But will phone GP in the morning.

Can I ask how they test for it?

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soon2befamilyof4 · 08/02/2009 22:47

In fact, it is the very bottom of my legs, more my feet really

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soon2befamilyof4 · 08/02/2009 23:19

I am just reading more info - I also have dark urine and funny sools - I just thought I had been not drinking enough and that I had an upset tummy. Had no idea these could be symptoms.

And rib pain - I think it is baby digging into my ribs but still worth mentioning.

Trouble is, I am a CM and have people relying on me tomorrow. I know obviously if it is PE then that is far more important, but the amount of times I have panicked about stuff and it has been nothing and I can't afford to cancel the children. I have one before and after school and one just for the morning till 12.30pm. If it is just the GP appointment, I could take the little one with me with older mindee is at school. They have loads of toys etc and it is a small surgery - just like somebody's house.

. Worried now!

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