worriedamy I feel exactly the same and totally agree with you, the hospital made it a million times worse for us.
This is my post from when I got back from the sonographer:
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Unfortunately the sonographer found 2 cysts in our baby's brain so I've been referred somewhere else for another scan (soon hopefully).
As for the first scan the nhs were a bit of a mess and overall I'm sorry to say it was a really stressfull experience.
The sonographer was rough (pushing quite hard on my belly, trying to make the baby move, not talking us through anything or answering any questions) and at the end, after telling us he'd spotted 2 cysts he went on to say that he wasn't allowed to say anymore than that about it.
He also said he couldn't see the sex, but then said "maybe probably a girl", he seemed so unsure we didn't beleive him.
Then they made us wait for over an hour after the scan without telling us what we were waiting for.
The first person we finally saw said that because there aren't any other "markers" (anomalies) at all then it's very likely that the cysts will just go away by themselves.
Then she said that they'd lost my maternity notes.
Then she noticed they'd forgotten to book me in for the glucose test. (which I'd also asked about when Tee mentionned it to me and told not to worry about).
I went to the birth centre to get registered so I can finally see a midwife and the receptionist there had a go at me for not having a 16 weeks appointment. (The midwife I was assigned to quit over xmas and when I called the birth centre they told me to go today so I don't see how I could have done it any other way.)
She wouldn't register me either because I haven't had a glucose test (which they forgot to book in).
Anyway, someone else turned up and asked what the problem was and booked me in to see the midwife I saw at the booking appointment there and then.
(By then it's 2pm I haven't eaten anything and I'm in floods of tears).
She was reassuring and nice, booked me in with her for my next antenatal check, booked the meet and greet at the birth centre, listened to the heartbeat which was fine, took my blood pressure and urine which were also fine.
Now I'm waiting for the other scan place to call me to make an appointment so we can double check the cysts.
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I must also say that someone else told me they were told BEFORE their scan not to panic if they found soft markers as it is common and mainly just goes away on its own later in the pregnancy.
This was seconded by the sonographer I saw at the referral scan.
I also think that they are too clinical and just do their jobs without compassion sometimes. They "know" its worrying so they tell you so but they clearly don't understand the worry.
One of my questions to the first sonographer was, "what happens if the soft marker doesn't disappear?" (ie does the baby have an operation or what??)
and he said "i'm not allowed to say anything more about it, you really just need to take it one day at a time". and although i can understand why he would say that there's a part me of me who thinks "What a wanker honestly, instead of reassuring us like everybody else did after."
I was encouraged by a few people from my june thread to complain about the way it was handled. (not done it yet though.)
all in all Im glad i was referred somewhere else, even if nothing else than amnio can be done at this stage they were so much nicer and comforting that we're totally reassured now.