Diege, that is really interesting, surely some further research has to be done as it causes so much distress to parents, and probably makes a real significant number go through with unecessary amnios.
I feel that I can now talk about our experience without bursting into tears.
Following our scan, the consultant said we could have 5 mins of his time, but if we felt we needed 10 he could stretch to that. He told us this 3 times, that we could have 5 mins.
Once inside the counselling room, he started to tell us a hypothetical story where we had a baby with downs but for example I had a sister who had a baby without downs, he went on discuss the risks of this happening to 2 women same age, same genetic make up etc. He then stopped half way through, walked across the room look at a painting on the wall and said ' oh I thought that was just hanging funny, but it's actually warped'. My husband and I both sat there open mouthed astounded that he completely stopped mid sentence to go do this. He then noticed our astonishment and said 'sorry I'm very easily distracted'
Bearing in mind at this point we had only just been told our baby had a cyst on its brain and nothing else. He didn't finish his story about DS so we'll never know what his point was. He then started a new story about Edwards syndrome, so I stopped him and asked what we were talking about DS or ES? He said in your case it's ES only.
He told us our risk would be 1:350, I explained that we had bloods done which said they were 1:10000 ish he said 'oh well then you're probably 1:5000 but maybe 1;350'
It just didn't make any sense what so ever and the fact he didn't even read our noted before talking to us was so poor.
At one point during his 'counselling session' he said 'don't worry if the baby does have ES, it probably won't make it to term anyway'
The sonographer then pushed some paper under the door which provided details on the hospital protocol which stated that the cut off for divulgin information on CPC's was age 36 (I'm 35) he looked at this then said, 'oh just ignore everything I've said you're OK, we shouldn't have told you anything, I just didn't know the protocol'.
He was completely blase about the whole thing, kept making jokes throughout, and was not able to provide us with any real information at all.
We just simply left and told him we were pleased not have used up any more than 5 mins of his time. How are these people allowed to be in contact in with the general public?!
The biggest problem I now have is that I have no confidence in the hospital what so ever, and if this guy comes any where near us at birth, I'm not sure we'll be able to control my anger. This aspect I'll be discussing with the midwife next week, which is a shame as all the MW's have been so nice to date.
We have taken a lot of heart from this thread, and we sincerely do hope that we all end up with a happy outcome.
Good luck to evreyone.