anyone else NOT blooming in 2nd trimester?

[SalBySea]

people keep asking me if I feel "great" etc

I dont

I feel much much better than the 1st trimester but still much worse than pre-pregnancy

I have no MS but am still knackered - not in the debilitating way that I felt in the 1st trimester - but I am certainly not feeling "energised"

My skin is really uncomfortable despite what I baste it with, I cant do the things that usually make me feel good (spinning, circuits etc - I have never enjoyed gentle exercise like yoga and have been told that because I didnt keep the gym up for 1st 4 months, I cant re-start strenuous exercise now )

I dont feel like a superhero, I dont feel like I can take on the world, and I certainly dont feel like the hottest thing since pamela anderson.

friends and family keep ringing me asking me if I feel great yet its getting annoying. I feel okay, I feel better, is that not enough?

My hairs gone nice but thats it unfortunatly, i feel grim most of the time and my brain cells seem to be evaporating ( maybe that accounts for the good hair ).

I believe 'blooming' is a myth.

Only another 20 weeks to go !

yeah I think my brain cells fly outta my ears when I'm asleep

My hair is AWFUL! honestly it's never looked worse, all wirey and impossible to style in any way

My face has changed in a way I cant quite put my finger on, but its not for the better

Its getting really hard to make myself look presentable, never mind nice!

The only good thing is that my sex life has recovered from its 1st trimester slump, but only to the same point as pre-preg, its not better!

Sex, eurgh !

re the face thing - has your nose expanded ? Mine did with DD but not noticed it this time yet. It kind of got wider.. lucky me !

yeah my nose has spread out a bit - PLEASE tell me it goes back after the baby's born PLEEEEASE!!!!

So glad its not just me!

Yeah it does go back

thank god for that

Its really hard to not compare myself to other pregnant people and friends who behaved like someone pressed a fast forward button on them throughout their whole 2nd trimester.

I feel like that this time, i've gone from having no bump really to being massive in the last 2 weeks, god knows what i am going to look like by then end !

Can you go swimming? If you are really missing exercise it is good because you can work reasonably hard, but it is all low impact...

Sorry you are feeling so miserable. I think that pregnancy is designed to slow people down so that they are prepared for life having a slower pace in the first few months of baby's life...

I try to keep an optimistic view of things.

I always have lousy 2nd trimesters, made far worse by the general expectation that it will be great. Yes, it's better than the first trimester, but a short burst of dysentery would probably be better than the 1st trimester, it's not saying much really.

Re the nose thing, old wives would say that means you're having a girl

Just leave a message on your answerphone saying you feel so marvellous you've gone off to climb Kilimanjaro and hide under the duvet.

FWIW I generally find the 3rd trimester more bearable than the 2nd - if you're a fit sort of person you may well find the same (not that I do any exercise, but hefting the bump around hasn't fazed me in the past....)

No, I'm not either.

However, people Keep telling me I am, and I look fab. I feel like a selection box full of a selection of various types of crap.

Maybe I should give up on the hair and makeup for work, then they will see the true and exhausted horror.

Hi
Full sympathy to all you non-bloomers!Am nearly 22wks and definately not blooming.

1st trim not that bad, no sickness just nausea and quite bad tiredness.

2nd trim isnt what I expected.

Positive side - hair growth on my legs has slowed down and my hair isnt so greasy. Thrilled to be able to go every other day if needed Also love the feeling the baby wriggling about

HOWEVER, less impressed as I seeem to be developing SPD, always got some ache or pain or complaint, losing my brain cells (multitasking at work is now IMPOSSIBLE), my immunity is shot to shit and Im still tired especially after commuting to work - infact this is just about finishing me off at the moment.

Am trying to accept that being pregnant means I cant be superwoman but its hard

bluebutterfly yes I swim, but as its usually my cool down after the gym it doesnt really give me the same endorphin rush that my idea of "proper exercise" does

My idea of a strenuous swim is a 3+ mile swim in the sea so a few laps in local pool, or aqua natal class, doesnt do it for me

I have had chest infection am very tired 2 year old not sleeping i look like crap.

First time round I bloomed in the 2nd trimester and I was expecting it this time. I didn't bloom, in fact I felt worse than the first trimester in some ways. I didn't feel sick but I was exhausted and my back hurt so much I had to spend a fortune I don't have on seeing an osteopath.

Things came to a head when I got really ill with a kidney infection and had 2 weeks in bed...that was at the beginning of the 3rd trimester. Since then I have felt so, so much better and I have energy I didn't have a couple of months ago. I am now 34 weeks and feel better than I have done since I got pregnant.

So the moral of the tale is, don't put everything down to pregnancy (I think I had an undiagnosed UTI before it really got going and made me so ill). And the third trimester might be a breeze for you, as it currently is for me. Don't lose heart

Oh yes, I'm blooming in the 2nd trimester... blooming awful skin (spots, what's that about???!!!), blooming awful sleep (or lack of), blooming awful tiredness and blooming awful moods ALL THE TIME. Rah.

I don't feel energetic. I don't feel sexy. My bump isn't prominent enough to make me look anything other than a bit tubby

Oh, and my immune system is clearly rubbish as I've had a cold for about 5 weeks

Hurumph.

On the upside, I haven't vomited for 3 weeks

oooo I've thought of another thing that sucks about my 2nd trimester

those bloody awful vivid dreams - usually bizarre and unpleasant and seem to go on all night cause I actually wake up shattered. Think I must be acting them out a little in my sleep (DH sleeps like a log so cant ask him if I've been squirming and kicking in my sleep)

Hopefully karma will give us all easy rides from 6mths on - I think we've earned it

That's so true... I've never had such vivid (or disturbing) dreams...

I think the 2nd trimester blooming/energy is a myth to get you through the 1st trimester, and then when you're in the 2nd you assume the 3rd must be better... its a conspiracy!!

completely agree with everything on here - am more than halfway through the 2nd trimester, and while I feel better than 1st, that's not saying much. Not only am I still incredibly tired, I really don't have much appetite at all and am not getting much sleep because of growing bump/super-active baby. It is lovely to feel it kick, but not so much at 4am...especially when I have to get up early for a long commute into work.

And as for hair...seems to be falling out as much as it ever did, and I can't say it or my nails/skin etc look better than they did before the pregnancy.

i suppose one good thing is at least I look pregnant now, so it's easier to get sympathy!

No blooming going on here either!!

The only things i'm blooming is spots! around chin and mouth!

No lush hair going on!
No nice nails!
No glowing skin!

Lots of vivid dreams
Lots of spots
Lots of mood swings

Still being sick! Still have headaches,loo trips every 10 mins,Still no bump!

Apart from that love being pg again

Ps i do remeber "blooming" in my last pg but it wasnt till 7 months!!

oh I"m not blooming
knackered as not sleeping v. well and on the verge of developing varicose veins-my right leg in particular is all blotchy and purple at the back with big dark patches of veins springing up all over...yuk

I'm 21 1/2 weeks and feel rubbish. The only thing I'm enjoying is feeling the baby move. Other than that I'm still tired, my back hurts, my front hurts, I need scaffolding rather than a bra, I've not had this many spots since I was 14, and I cry at the slightest provocation. How on Earth do women manage when they've already got a sprog or 2 running around?

I'm due any day and I never bloomed; I think it's a load of rubbish. People seemed to tell me I was 'blooming' when I felt my most worn out and heavy. 1st trimester I threw up at least 3 times everyday so my skin was soooo dry and itchy, some days I couldn't even drink water cos it made me sick. 2nd trimester I felt absolutely shattered and had to have a nap or two everyday, waited til about 34 weeks for the 2nd trimester bit where 'you feel fab' then realised I was into 3rd trimester and had missed the bus. Ha ha!! I don't believe anyone who says they loved being pregnant!! Still, on the plus side, the baby's growing fine, still kicking like mad and ignoring all my attempts to squeeze it out so hopefully by this time next week all worries about nine months of total non-bloom will be over...

I also feel like rubbish. I am 22 weeks. I was horrifically sick inthe first trimester so i am not as bad a sthen but...
Am so very tired. Bad sleep - insomnia, uncomfortable, dead arm/wrists, worry about being being sick, cat waking me up wth mice.

Feel miserable for myself and cry a lot.

Reassuring to know I'm not the only one. Have even been diagnosed with mild depression and am seeing a psychologist! Hope it all goes away with birth and desn't hang around to make me a sad mummy...

I have a friend with lots of "helpful" pregnancy advice who really isnt helping

she keeps saying that I'm more likely to have post-natal depression if I have anti-natal depression

I dont think I DO have anti-natal depression - she seems to think that by not being very "up" it means I'm "down" and I'm not! I am fed up with feeling a bit rubbish but I dont think that qualifies me as depressed. I am getting a little down about my work situation (or lack of) but am working on that and looking for a second job to boost things and keep me busy till work picks up again - would feel fed up with work drying up even if I WASNT pregnant. Its as if I'm not allowed to feel p1ssed off about anything (even stuff I'd normally be p1ssed off about) without said friend (and all my other friends and family she's shared her "concerns" with) worrying about my antinatal-mental-health

I feel like I have to feign the joys of spring on the phone to everyone just to get them off my back with their constant "are you feeling the 2nd trimester rush yet?"