anyone else NOT blooming in 2nd trimester?

[SalBySea]

people keep asking me if I feel "great" etc

I dont

I feel much much better than the 1st trimester but still much worse than pre-pregnancy

I have no MS but am still knackered - not in the debilitating way that I felt in the 1st trimester - but I am certainly not feeling "energised"

My skin is really uncomfortable despite what I baste it with, I cant do the things that usually make me feel good (spinning, circuits etc - I have never enjoyed gentle exercise like yoga and have been told that because I didnt keep the gym up for 1st 4 months, I cant re-start strenuous exercise now )

I dont feel like a superhero, I dont feel like I can take on the world, and I certainly dont feel like the hottest thing since pamela anderson.

friends and family keep ringing me asking me if I feel great yet its getting annoying. I feel okay, I feel better, is that not enough?

And if you did have AND, what possible use is it telling you that means you're more likely to get PND? (true I think) It's not exactly your fault.

Tell your stupid friend to keep her amateur diagnoses to herself.

Have gone back to puking up now. I hate the second trimester I really do.

"Tell your stupid friend to keep her amateur diagnoses to herself."

I did so in the 1st trimester -

I said that we were trying to reign in our excitment till the 12w scan. Her reply - what's the point? LOADS of things can go wrong after that, I know people who've had X and Y at around 20w and who've had babies born with this disorder and that disorder after normal scans so whats the point in waiting for your scan to feel excited?
-erm thanks! telling me all about what could go wrong is really helpful!

she actually asked me if I wanted the baby at all cause I didnt seem very happy about it - I finally snapped and said "I'm forkin KNACKERED - this is how people in early pregnancy feel!"

Thing is, she's not 100% amateur - she once did midwifery in college - but never actually worked as one. I think she likes showing off what little knowledge she has

She's told me that everything my midwife and books have told me is wrong etc

She told me I was DEFINATELY anaemic (because I'd gone off red meat), for the record my blood results says I'm fine! has she never heard of any other sources of iron?

Thing is - I can ignore her, but she's told her "professional opinion" to people like my best friend and now THEY are treating me with kid gloves. She's told my friend that she's worried about me so now THEY'RE worried about me ARRRGGGGHHH - I'M NOT WORRIED ABOUT ME, MY HUSBAND (who works in healthcare) IS NOT WORRIED ABOUT ME, MY MIDWIFE IS NOT WORRIED ABOUT ME! I am fine - I am not brilliant! I am not overflowing with energy and happy hormones,but I'm okay!

I dont love being pregnant. I love that I managed to get pregnant. I love what being pregnant means (as in, a baby at the end of it) but actually BEING pregnant sucks (for me anyway - and who knows? if I get pregnant again I might feel amazing 2nd time round). Above friend doesnt see the difference between not LIKING being pregnant and not WANTING to be pregnant.

Oh Sal that is really bad luck. I wonder why she never worked as a midwife? Perhaps she had issues with confidentiality and getting overly involved in other people's pregnancies (not to mention a shocking lack of tact).

Can you keep away from this woman?

And being pregnant sucks big time. Plenty of people here understand that.

"Can you keep away from this woman?"

yes, I dont tell her anything about my pregnancy now (as whatever I say will be wrong). She's no longer the problem, its the people she told her "concerns" to like my best friend that are the problem now - I would love to moan to them from time to time but they have been convinced by Mrs X that my feelings are not normal so I have to fake feeling wonderful to them I wish I could share my ups and downs with my best friend but I just cant bear the worry in her voice since she spoke to X

What a horrible situation for you. Don't fake anything if you can help it though, as it will add to the worry - people with genuine depression will often fake feeling perfectly fine and they fool no-one.

Can you have an upfront conversation with your best friend and explain how badly you think this woman has overreacted - cd show her this thread if people don't think 2nd trimester can be absolutely horrible and almost make you feel worse than the 1st?

Very un MNetty virtual hugs

"Can you have an upfront conversation with your best friend and explain how badly you think this woman has overreacted"

I have done, but protesting your innocence can make you look more guilty

as in, all prisoners say they didn't do it and were framed. All people in mental health hospitals say "I shouldn't be in here" and so on

Once someone who claims to be an expert says you're depressed and should be practically on suicide watch - saying you're not depressed almost confirms her conclusion in a way

The seed is firmly planted. I just cant be bothered to justify my feelings anymore so dont go there - just say I'm fine. If I'm honest and say I feel a bit tired or a bit headache I dont get sympathy - I get over positivity and worry

grrr its so annoying - how blooming would SHE feel if she'd just thrown up? - The antenatal depression conversation came up when I had thrown up everything for a few days on the run and was struggling to keep hydrated. The evil part of me hopes that Mrs X has a very symptom-ey pregnancy if she ever has kids and has to eat all her words. She's read some books about pregnancy but has never spent much time with a pregnant woman - none of her sisters or other close friends have been through it.

Anyway - I know I'm fine and that's the main thing I suppose - I dont feel helpless or apathetic or anything like that.

Have to say I am certainly NOT blooming either. I was only sick once during the first trimester but felt quite sick a lot of the time.

But now (16 weeks tomorrow) I have developed a total adverse reaction to my toothbrush and it makes me retch every morning. My IBS symptoms have made a comeback - altough not with my normal trigger foods. I keep trapping, what I can only assume is, my sciatic nerve when I walk a long way (unfortunatly my job means I need to do that quite regularly.) I have had headaches. I cant eat properly as it makes me feel sick and bloated. I am not sleeping too well and work is stressing me out (not sure if it is my hormones or just a really bad week)

Oh and I want my sex drive back!!! It dissapeared not long after conception - If anyone finds it please send it home!!

I am NOT depressed I am delighted to be having a baby!! I cant wait for us to be a family. I just want to be able to enjoy pregnancy and the time I have with my partner before the chaos starts.

heverhoney1 my IBS has never been worse - since conception its been constant and not related to any foods in particular like it usually is. Wish I could take some Aloe vera juice but the bottle says its not suitable for pregnant women. fibre-sure / peppermint tea etc does nothing for me.

I've felt a few rushes of irrational happiness over the last 2 days - but thats prob more to do with just being genuinely pleased to be having a baby than any rush of "happy hormones". And I usually get a bit giddy once it starts getting christmassy anyway.

I feel like I dont sleep properly - I dont wake up in the night but in the moring I dont feel like I've had a proper night's sleep, suppose I should just consider it training for when the baby arrives LOL