DH has mild haemophilia, if we have a girl, she could be affected, would you find out sex of baby? I really don't want to.

[MinkyBorage]

OK, that sounds like a bit of a no-brainer. A bit more detail. DH has very mild haemophilia, which we only found out about quite recently, we already have two dds, both of whom could be affected, but we won't know until they have proper tests (when a bit older) and neither show signs now. If we find out that we are having a girl, then the haemophilia centre will write a letter to the midwife/consultant regarding the delivery stating that forceps should not be used because the baby may have mild haemophilia. However, with my last two deliveries, they came out so quickly, two pushes first time, one the next, I feel sure that it is extremely unlikely that forceps will even be a consideration, and in the event that they are, surely I could say no to them even if we don't know what we are having.
I just don't want to find out what sex the baby is, it's the best surprise ever when they're born.
What would you do?

boys def most at risk

To clarify, it sounds like the OP is saying that she's only worried about having girls who could be effected. We were all just making the point that it it the boys who are likely to have the problem.
My point re Minky being tested was that if she is not a carrier then the girls are v likely safe. I would have thought that would be nice to know?

Daisy, the info suggests the opposite though?

look here

Bubbaluv - Boys are XY and girls are XX. So basically Because the haemophilia gene is on the X chromosome and boys only have one X then if they have the faulty haemophilia gene they have no 'back up' X gene and therefore have heamophilia. so yes, boys more at risk if their mum is a carrier.

"Haemophilia is a lifelong inherited genetic condition, which affects females as carriers and males who inherit the condition"
from the Heamophilia Society

MinkyBorage - I'd find out the sex because if it is a boy, there would be no need for you to continue worrying. If it is a girl, you could make sure all the relevant precautions are taken in the delivery. It will be magical to meet your new baby anyway, regardless of sex.

ignore the aggressive troll!

Haemophilia is rarer [in women] The severity of these genetic conditions varies from mild to very serious.

Haemophilia mostly affects men and is rare among women, but women carry the disease, passing it on to their sons.

Many of the women affected have clotting levels between about 30 per cent and 70 per cent of normal, and don't usually suffer from severe bleeding problems although heavy periods are a common symptom.

Exactly the kind of stuff I was reading Bundle and thanks for the back-up Running Monkey.
I'm not trying to attack Minkey here, just v angry that having gone to the effort to look up info for her she was so rude to me.
I'm pregnant too, but I'm not horrilbe to people who fnd info that is different to what I had thought (or know) to be true.
If all these websites are wrong, or are talking about something different to what you are talking about Minkey then please explain it to me. I wouldn't have bothered in the first place if I wasn't interested!!

Only rude to you Bubbaluv because your first post was so irritating, and after that you decide you were an expert by looking on the bupa website. Not bothered, you're just irritating. Also what do you mean by 'troll'? Are you mad?
Boring having to explain to people what I know about Haemophilia, because it doesn't matter to them what I know, and I don't care what they think they know. That wasn't what the OP was about. Anyway, thanks DasiySteiner and Bundle for your posts. Bundle, my MIL has recently had to have a series of tests prior to an op to find if she has low factor 8 levels (technically haemophilia), they were especially concerned because she has had heavy periods her whole life and also has had some problems with bleeding after an op.

This topic is widely misunderstood an the medical profession's knowledge of it has changed.
When I had genetic counselling regarding a X-linked Genetic disorder that DH had I was told that grirls could only be carriers, now it seems they were wrong and gene masking is more complicated than first thought.
The Royal Free are world leaders in research in to Haemophilia.

oxford leading place too, lots of people with haemophilia moved there apparently

If you want "Expert" advice don't look on Mumsnet!
I was trying to help FGS!
Sorry I chose a website (out of the many that came up) that didn't meet you standards. But what of all the others from respectable organisations which are all about the disease? They say the same.

I didn't blardy ask you what you knew about haemophilia, only what you'd do in my situation! Can you read?

And I wasn;t claiming to be an expert. I was confused by the contradictions between you OP and what everyone else was saying (and what I had previously understood) so I posted a bit of info to clarify what people were saying.
Get off your high horse.

Hard to give an opinion on whether you need to know the sex if we don;t understand why the risk is present is it!?

Minky I think you found Bubbaluv's post irritating because it contradicted what you thought. I didn't think it was irritating, it was helpful and friendly.

You were rooode!

And as for the "can you read?" issue...this is a public forum, you ask a question, you get a wide range of answers. If you want specific advice, do what you should have done originally and ask a medical professional FGS!

And I think the correct answer to the question "what would you do in my situation?" would be to make sure you had all the correct information before deciding anything, which is clearly what Bubbaluv would do!

OK, I've got over myself a bit now. I'm sorry I offended you.
In response to your last post, I explained the risks and the predicament in my op. It's a really misunderstood topic and most of the info on the internet is a bit out of date. I really wasn't expecting to have to defend the facts of the situation, although I have had these conversations before in rl, and they're even more annoying because the strain of remaining polite is often a bit much for me .
Anyway, although I maintain your op was a little patronising, I accept that you were well intentioned and I apologise once again for being rude to you.
Quits?

wow minky you are being exceptionally rude!

I haven't stopped being rude altogether though.

Sod off LazyLinePainterJane. Can you read?

ANYWAY! Let's move on.
I would actually like to know...and apparently Minky is the person with the answers...

• Is it untrue that boys are the ones mainly at risk?
• If it is true, why are you more worried about girls?
• If it is untrue, why does all the info on the web say it IS true?

I'm sorry if these questions are irritating, but you can't get angry at people for not knowing as much as you about an area you are clearly extremely well informed about.

BTW we (not just me) thought you were genuinly confused. If that had been the case then surely it was relevant to your OP?

Actually you CAN get angry, but you have to suck it up!

Have you read my posts Bubbaluv?!