DH's 'gender disappointment' - will he get over it - advice please

[Sallypuss]

Morning all

Since we first discussed the possibility of having a child together, DH has talked of wanting a son. I'm 29 weeks pg and found out for definite last week that LO is a girl. I know DH is really disappointed and said to me on Monday evening that he wants a son more than anything (and is happy to keep trying until we have one!). In my hormonal state, I'm pretty upset by this (even though I know it's fact) as I'm worried that that he won't love DD and they won't bond at all. Other than his mother, DH comes from an all male family.

BTW - I'm delighted we're having a DD. MIL is also pleased as she has one grandson already and this will be first grandaughter on both sides.

Does anyone have any experience of this where DP/DH have expressed disappointment (either explicit or implicit) before the birth?

Thanks in advance

Babies are babies - you fall in love with them and by the time they are old enough to start differentiating themselves by their sex you love THEM and the fact that they are one sex rather than the other becomes irrelevant.

In the case of your dh, it sounds like a case of lack of familiarity - it'll pass when he meets your wonderful dd.

Interesting about the Brangelina IVF being untrue - may well be! But I thought only identical not fraternal twins ran in families... [heads off to Google muttering]

I think this is exactly why you should find out beforehand, so you can all have a chance to get used to the idea.

When we had dd, we were surprised, but the time before her birth was really useufl - planning names, buying clothes, decorating nursery etc. (think dh even began to contemplate his wedding speech!!!!!) - and when she arrived our hearts just melted.

he wasn't v tactful with his comments, but he is used to all boys? chances are she'll be daddy's little girl from the off!