how old was your baby when he/she slept at grandparents?

[niki1]

hi would love people's views on when its ok to let baby stay the night at grandparents.dont want to make a mistake and allow this too early but dont want to come across as over the top either?!?

9 months the first time, and has since stayed overnight about once every 3 months with either my parents, or Dh's whilst we sneak off . We are working our way up to a weekend away next year when she is nearer 3. They love spending time with her, and we love a bit of time alone together. Everyone's a winner!

Wow reading through some of these - am I in the minority?
My ds1 regularly stayed with his grandparents, sometimes on a weekly basis from the age of 2. This included them taking him on holiday at 2.8.
My ds2, we first left overnight with my parents at the age of 6 months, they had him for a week when we had our honeymoon (he was 1)and my in laws have had him stay over this year for a week (age 2.5).
We are not ogres, I miss my kids like anything when away from them but I also appreciate that break like anything.
They both are happy, well-mannered sweet tempered kids so everyones a winner in my view. The grandparents get to spend some quality time, the kids get spoiled and we get a bit of time as a couple.

niki, just a thought, are you sure the "no-child" wedding also means newborns? I have been to a few child free weddings where tiny babies are present because they are too little to leave. And, at that age they really do just eat and sleep and if they cry you can just take them elsewhere until they stop.

It might be worth checking with your friend - especially if you decide to bf. As someone else said, 6 weeks is quite early be be on top of expressing etc. most people who havne't had children don't think about this so it might be worth asking.

I agree that you really will have to wait and see. I didn't even want my MIL (who is lovely) to take dd out for a walk until she was about 4 weeks because I didn't want to be apart from her for that long and was worried that something awful was going to happen.

ds was 13 mths old but we came back and stayed at MIL's house so I still had to get up with him in the morning so not sure if that counts. He is now 23 mths and hasn't stayed overnight yet at grandparents. Thinking about it soon tho as he is getting more independent and used to his grandparents. Think it's a bit different if they are used to spending alot of time with gradparents from an early age whereas my ds has spent most of his time with me as I am a sahm, so it is a bit harder for him to be away from me.