My DP works for a small firm where his input is pretty essential, and his employers have been good to him over the years, so I understood when he didn't want to take proper Paternity Leave. He saved holiday for when the baby is born instead, but only a week, so he wouldn't be out too long. He was also planning to stay at work while I was in hospital and just visit after work.
Perhaps I should have found out sooner, but silly me assumed he would be taking his week straight after the baby arrives, so that he can bring us home and we can spend our first week together as a family.
Now I have gone overdue and am due to be induced on Friday. He has managed to get Friday off (but didn't ask for this until yesterday) but he has just said "I don't know when I'll be able to take my holiday"
I was REALLY surprised and I am now very worried about being alone with our new baby next week. It's our first, and to say that it's a bit daunting would be an understatement.
Added to which, if I have a cs or a ton of stitches or something, I'm really going to struggle. I'm sure if I ask my mum, she would take time off and come and help me out but I really don't want it to be that way.
I want a babymoon! I want us to be a family and to have our first week together getting to know our baby. Most people get two weeks and it was bad enough that we were only getting one.
I wanted us to muddle through together and learn feeding and nappies and all that stuff together and now I'll be a week ahead with it all. It probably won't matter in the long run, but I can't help feeling really really disappointed.
Has anyone else had this situation? Should I be really upset and angry and have a row about it?
TIA