Really fed up........15 weeks to go!

[Pontypine]

I am feeling really "blah" today!

yes i know i am lucky to be pregnant, yes i know it's a blessing not a god given right to have a child etc etc but today i just feel generall sorry for myself and wish i could remove my bump for for 24hrs and eat normally, have a bottle of wine, go for a run and wear normal clothes - oh and sleep normally!!

I am 23 weeks gone and am having my C section in 15 weeks so i know i have a looooooooong way to go!

I am fed up of being told i am like a 3yr old - stroppy and incontinent

I am tired of achey ribs and being breathless

I am tired of waking up at 5.30 EVERY morning for a drink and a wee

I am tired of cooking a fab meal every night only to not fancy it

I am tired of people telling me not to drink cherry coke or eat sweets - bugger off! it's my one pleasure!

And i am tired of the shops being full of nice things i can't fit in to!!

sorry, i just fancied a moan!! (I'm also really tired of this crappy weather but that's not pregnancy related!)

Please, post your moan here and lets all feel rubbish together - i promise i am leaving my moans at the door though and will be smiling and pleasant (or snappy) to everyone i meet!!!

Oh yes Pontypine, I'm sorry to say it does get worse! I had a few weeks of respite in the middle then launched into a new set of complaints for this 3rd trimester!

Oh yay.....the joy!! i am hoping for a nice good baby after this pregnancy!! ha ha!!! I have specifically ordered one!!!

Yes - apart from a brief respite in the 2nd trimester I have always felt pregnancy sucks. However, having siad that this pregnancy has been generally easier as with DD1 I was also sick basically the whole way through. Compared to the labour stories of some of my friends I also had it fairly easy. I delivered within 2 and 1/2 hours of arriving at the hospital. Although I was desperate for an epidural they "could not find the "anaesthetist!" so just had pethidine which I don't think was much use and only had a very small amount of tearing so cannot complain.

By the way I am obviously an odd person out as mine both appear to be girls. It will be a shock if this is a boy although the pregnancy has been so different in that I have not been as sick but have had all sorts of other preggy issues instead that in reality I would not be surprised. We have no names for boys so it will be Junior I imagine for quite a while.

briwish i had the same 'anaesthetist is unavailable have a shot of pethidine' experience and i'm still utterly f*cked off about it to this day. the pethidine caused serious feeding problems with my ds and we ended back up in hospital for a week because of it. mind you no one bothered to tell me the risk of pethidine at the time, they just wanted me to shut up and stop me begging for an epidural.

having said all that, i didn't have any tears or stiches so i guess i got off really lightly on that front....

Hi Mimsy

Yes - I still reckon it was a total con and that bascially the NHS is doing the utmost to get everyone to have "natural" childbirth to reduce costs. Well I have been weighing up the whole home birth vs hospital birth thing and the only advantage of the hospital is the drugs. However, I am still of the opinion I would not have my tooth out naturally so would like to go the easy route if at all poss. My family also all v. against home birth. Would really like to spend absolute minimum time in the hospital as found it really noisy and quite stressful so am hoping 2nd time round we will be out within hours!

Have to say sounds like you were unlucky with the feeding - had no problems with that but DD1 did get "the worst case of nappy rash " my midwife had ever seen as a result of advice from midwives saying alright to use baby wipes and not to use barrier cream!Six weeks and numerous hospital and doctors visits later it eventually cleared up.

Didn't realise pethidine caused feeding problems I just thought it made them dopey - is this an often stated side effect? If so - will go natural this time if no epidural available as though it made no difference anyway!

briwish - totally agree about the natural childbirth being a very convenient money saving device. and whenever the word 'natural' comes into the conversation i can't help but get a wee bit cynical [i'm prepared for mn flaming from hell].

you are right about the dopey thing wiht the pethidine - that is actually the problem with breastfeeding as i understand it. they get soo dopey [depending on when in labour the injection is given] that they get too tired to feed or just aren't able to latch on. i don't exactly think it's a dealbreaker issue but new mums should defo be advised of the potential problem and be on watch.

I am 26 weeks and can honestly say that being pregnant is awful.

I am very pleased to be pregnant, don't get me wrong, as we conceived through fertility treatment and at 38 we thought we may have run out of time, but I had no idea it would be such a dreadful experience. I wake up every morning and for a split second have forgotten that I'm pregnant, but then when I fully regain concsiousness I remember and the misery returns.

I think I'm just not designed for pregnancy. I have had a relatively trouble free time, no morning sickness and no other major issues so feel I should be blooming and enjoying it. I have been big for my dates throughout and I just feel huge as if I'm about to burst. I've had heartburn, indigestion and rib pain since about 18 weeks and I really have had enough. to top it all I'm badly needle phobic and have a midwife I call Cruella. People say that by the last few weeks you just want the baby out - well I'm there already

Sorry to go on, i don't mean to moan and whinge but it's good to get it off my chest without being told that I should be 'embracing' my pregnancy and how wonderful it is !

oh and forgot to mention the needing to wee in the early hours, the diffiulty hauling myself out of bed/armchair, the difficulty getting comfortable in bed, the tiredness, the breathlessness, the feeling like a beached whale, the constant 'are you sure it's not twins', the mother phoning daily to ask how the baby is and not being interested in how I am....

Interestingly I'm having a boy too

If I feel like this at 26 weeks how much worse is it going to get cos I don't think I can cope

yes beaufies - you are now just a vessel for the baby

i do think there's something to this boy thing.

lol at 'vessel for the baby'

me too. 22 weeks, all i feel like doing is being in my trainers at home in my bed.
but i have full time work and two little dds and one dh to take care of! plus all these people to chat to in the office. urghhhhhhh

it gets harder on the body each time, i am extreeeeemely fatigues and also awfully moody!!!!!!!!!!

ok me too me too! I am ALSO carrying my second dc which is another BOY! Sick sick sick and tired of pregnancy and im all but 22 weeks! Ds is 2 and bloody hard work at the mo. Took him to the farm this am and i only lasted half an hour coz i was too tired! Ridiculous! Dont know how im going to cope nearer the end! Had bad problems with breathlessness and going see gp about it in a bit. Its like i cant breath for a few mins and my heart beat feels like it doubles. Bit like a panic attack coming on! Odd. Plus ds has developed a cough which may well be asthma so gota go down that route now aswell.

Oh yes and it is getting hot. Great. I am a very cold person normally and love winter. All through this pg so far i have never worn a jumper so dreding what the weather has in store over next few months!

Thinking maybe all us that are having boys its a rubbish time coz males are the weaker sex of course i love my dh and ds dearly!!

the boy thing - if i think about it in extremely unscientific and simplistic ways must affect you - you've boy hormones charging through you and a little willy growing inside you. lol... surely that must make us a bit sicker

Reading all your posts I am glad I have only 4 weeks until the next DD is due. I always thought that morning sickness etc was far worse with girls but perhaps am being proved wrong.

Still have another week of work left and am so not motivated - am getting quite cranky at being asked to do anything. However am not going to go early as prefer time on the other side and do not want to sit at home twiddling my thumbs either.

Can't wait to get this baby out although I know all hell will break loose again then but at least will not be hefting this bulk around all the time.

One more complaint to add to the mix and it it really is very embarrassing and that is I have suffered with thrush the whole way through this pregnancy despite numerous creams and pessaries, none of which have worked. Try and work in a male dominated environment and sit in all male meetings with an itchy ...... ! Arrrrgggggh!

what a great thread ! maybe we should start a group for pregnant, peed off and proud? i am 37 plus 3 and soooooooooooooo bored of it all now
i am so sick of my legs and feet aching ..... all though i dont think they are my legs and feet as mine were not so huge before? getting up in the night for that 4th wee, ..... wanting to poke everyone in the eye that says OOH YOU ARE CARRYING ALL ROUND/WHAT STILL 3 WEEKS?/ BIIGGER THAN LAST TIME ARNT YOU/ or any such remark ........................ sick of having to stop and pretend to check on dd but really not being able to walk anouther step........feeling so wound up that i am ready to cry/kill someone alternatly, worrying that i amy run out of things to wash/clean/tidy/sort before long ... phew . feel better

I have been struggling today - think it is the warm weather and humidity - 31 weeks and feel absolutely drained of energy (and that is after having a sleep this afternoon while dd had her nap am going to struggle with entertaining her for the next two months. Rant over!

I was worried i was the only miserly sod who hated the hot weather!!! PHEW!! I am grateful for sunshine in the school holidays of course but it's too hot!!!

My DD has whingivitus and is driving me mad - if it wasn't so hot i'd dig a mighty large hole in the garden and bury her in it!!

I am loving the fact we are free to moan and the "gushy" types on here haven't tried to sabotage the thread and tell us how we should embrace it!!! just try it!!

I had some stupid idiot workman for the housing association park in front of my drive for the 3rd time today!! Ooooooh, i rang them up and gave them what for (along the lines of "i OWN my house and i PAID for a house with a drive, can you tell your drivers that the little strip of concrete to the front or side of a house is a driveway....") I have decided that if he parks there again i will superglue his wipers to his windscreen!!

yeah im glad about that, was worried someone would sabotage and start having a go! I put ds in the garden and sit with my feet in a bowl of cold water. keeps him occupied and me cooler. Im dreading the hot nights!

LOL at gushy types trying to go all preachy to us !! - don't think they'd dare !!!!
even DH is a bit wary of me at the moment.

Broke down in tears today - I had to nip to tescos with DS and did not put him a trolley as I only needed to get a couple of bits (big mistake)- he proceeded to run rings around me whilst I chased him around trying not to drop the milk! - suddenly had an out of body experience and realised that I had tunred into one of thsose struggling pregnant mothers that I used to see in Tescos and feel sorry for - hence why I cried when I got home.

This must be hormonal, nothing a good glass of wine couldn't rectify - oh yes sorry tha's right I can't have one

is it meant to be getting really hot or something ?? -

well its hot here in the south east.... it will only get hotter though sometime soon.... but then it IS england!

so no major heatwave heading our way thay I hadn't heard about - I am in East Anglia and its HOT today

its about 25 here today. Mind you like i said earlier i havent worn a jumper all year so we do feel aload hotter than everyone else! Some times i forget poor ds, ill go out in a tshirt and he has goose bumps! Thank fully hes quite a hot toddler so just keep jumper in the car now!

Ponty, I've been moaning for weeks on my antenatal thread. Brilliant innit?! Why are you not on the Nov thread, hey! You have lightened my load today...

I am expecting twins and I am massive. Most people think I'm a couple of weeks overdue now and I am only 24 WEEKS!!! I AM SICK OF THE PITY (not to mention shock) ON PEOPLE'S FACES WHEN I TELL THEM I AM NOT DUE TILL NOV.

I AM SICK OF THE FACT THERE ARE NO BUGGIES UNDER £800 WHICH FIT THROUGH MY DOOR.

I AM SICK OF THE FACT THAT I CAN HARDLY SLEEP UNLESS IT IS IN THE DAYTIME AND DS WANTS ATTENTION (YESTERDAY I WOKE UP AT 2AM - WHAT????).

I AM SICK OF THE FACT I HAVEN'T WANTED SEX SINCE VALENTINE'S DAY.

Oh, there's plenty more believe me, but those are the main ones...

I find malt loaf/ banana cake/ cake/ cake and cake are a good substitute for sex. If I'm gonna be massive, I may as well anjoy it!

Happy reading everyone !

yes, indeed now there is more to moan about its too bloody hot. and who were all those knob heads who said to me, ohhh a november baby well at least you wont be big in the summer, thats the killer!

Yes? well im big enough thanks, yesterday I got so hot and sticky my legs stuck to the leather sofa, when i tried to slide off, i couldnt as im such a whale, i was having to rock myself off!! I slept on top of the covers with a pillow under my bump and a fan directly on me!

Everyone keeps saying how they havent seen me lately and are dying to see the bump etc, errrr no you selfish arseholes cos im on crutches and cant drive but none of you volunteer to visit me! arghhh.

just wait, these are the people who will want to be first in line for a cuddle with the baby, well no, i'll be out all day with my pram by then, too late!!!!!!