Please be gentle, obese and pregnant - advice / support would be lovely...

[Puddingirl]

Hi there... Have been reading a few threads on here about being overweight and TTC - but can anybody offer me any practical support or advice please now am pregnant?
After TTC for 2 months I got pregnant in April - to miscarry at 5 weeks. 3 months later am pregnant again (4wk+3)...
I'm going to be brutally honest here - am 23 stone, and a size 28/30. (hard part over)...
I KNOW I face a few risks... But now am here - and so wanting a healthy pregnancy and baby - is there anything anybody would recommend me do?
Has anybody else been in a similar situation and gone on to have succesful pregnancies? Or is all the research I'm doing which is scaring me silly likely to be true? (That is - it'll all be doom and gloom from now on in?)
Started aquafit last week, follow the slimming world plan (mostly) and am trying to get myself sorted - so anything else that will help?
Thanks in advance...
ps I have a hectic, challenging job which I manage quite ably - not a complete couch potato - just very heavy...

[tribpot]

Blue - I found Next a lifesaver in this regard. Had completely forgotten the issue of maternity wear for the larger lady!

I don't really get why they seem to bang on now about your weight during pregnancy. What can you do - you can't go on a crash diet and become a size 8. Yes, you can eat healthily (or, erm, engage in an online chocolate egg reviewing contest as I did with my June 05 group!!) so once the clinical risks are acknowledged there's not much more to be said.

Congratulations on your pregnancy too! As someone struggling to conceive it's nice to hear that we plus sizers are getting there.

[BlueJellie]

thanks tribot! I will def give next a go didn't think of them haven't seen the maternity stuff in the shop but I see that they do it online. I've got away with normal clothes so far but would like to show off my finally blooming bump rather than just looking bigger! I dread my appointments as I know there will be some snotty comment made about my weight :-( makes me feel I'm not enjoying my pregnancy sometimes as much as I should. I agree with previous comments about the scaremongering on the Internet, scared myself silly that they wouldn't see my baby in my scans because I'm too fat and never had an issue with it in the end. Got a growth scan on Wednesday has anyone had these? What do they entail? Sorry for the babble and hijacking pud, too embarrassed to talk to friends and family about this, so glad you started this thread!

[babylove123]

Hi,

Babieseverywhere - thanks for the info, i appreciate it

Hockeypuck - This is my 1st baby so i have no experience in this! We went to see a midwife led unit yesterday and even had a personal chat with the midwife about nerves etc and there was no mention about my weight. Its pretty obv by looking at me that im more than i shld be by a long shot so i would have thought if they didnt like the idea, they'd have told me then! The same rules apply for homebirths as midwife only units so surely they'd have said "we dont think we could cater for you?". I dunno. My midwife is really un-helpful and im not sure what way to turn. I hate hospitals and i really dont want to be there if i can help it............