Is being hugely pregnant with a toddler more difficult than having a toddler and a newborn??

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I am SO hoping that the answer is yes!

IME yes

Definitely! Assuming you feel crap during pg - which I'm guessing you do!

Very much yes!!

I hope so because I am struggiling!!
I have looked after newborns with ds and it wasn't as hard as it is being so bloody huge you can't pick them up, play with them ect

I found it easier once dd2 was born but I am not a good advert for pregnancy iyswim.

Sorry but I have a toddler (22 months) and a newborn (well now 3 months) and I think is harder having a toddler and a newborn than a toddler and heavily pregnant.

Physically it is harder to be hugely pg with a toddler, but I found that emotionally very difficult once I'd had ds -still do, he's 5 months. The whole guilt thing about not having enough time for my dd who's 3. But I have a difficult baby. I would imagine that if you had a laid-back or even moderately demanding baby it would be fine

Yes!

my god YES YES YES after you give birth you will feel 100 times lighter and fleet of foot - it is a revelation to walk down the street with your legs together iykwim

that's what I heard, as the new baby just sleeps and wants cuddles (from anyone) and feeding... hard to imagine fitting a toddler in though, looking back on time with my dd1 now, but people do! There will be 21 months between mine. I met a lady the other day and she was out at the wildlife park and her baby was so tiny, she said the baby was no problem at all, but the toddlers night wakings and temper was becoming a handfull. and those last few weeks of pregnancy are such hard work, it's gotta be easier after a week or two when you're more adjusted to your new family unit. good luck! adele

yes. I had DS2 when DS1 was 17 months old and it was hard when I was pg but found it all went quite smoothly when DS2 was born! I remember being 16 weeks pg at DS1's 1st birthday party [knackered and emotional emoticon]

ooooooh yes.very difficult looking after a toddler when one can hardly walk IME.

depending on age of toddler,you do need eyes in your arse once the baby is out though.

well,anyway,i have 11 months between ds1+dd1 and 15 months between dd2 and dd3,and they all lived to tell the tale.

Imho, YES. I found baby much easier. But I have shitty pgs

IME yes toddler and pregnant much more difficult than toddler and newborn

Both difficult, but in different ways. So at least you get a change...

No. Def no

Oh yes!! Much, much harder being pregnant. I feel so much better than I did at any stage during pregnancy, even with sleepless nights etc. My toddler is 3 and baby is 14 weeks. Congratulations and I promise it does get easier!!!!!

YES- basically because when you are heavily pg you are big, sore, tired, uncomfortable etc ALL the time and everything is a chore. Lifting, bending, tidying etc all difficult.

When you have a baby and a toddler there are times when it is hard because they both need attention but there are times when it is good because one or the other or both are happy/sleeping and you are NOT PREGNANT so can get on with stuff much more easily!

I have a newborn and 2 toddlers and it is STILL better than being pregnant! I needed DH to take his paternity leave EARLY- before I'd had the baby because I couldn't cope!!

I found toddler and newborn well easier. Even with brand new #3 when i had two little boys aged almost 5 and 2. I also had hideous pgs.

YES!

I felt so much better and has so much more energy once DD2 was out.

I have awful pregnancies. I'm nearly 23 weeks on and still vomitting frequently. DS1 is just like his sisters, pure hell on my gut.

No, I found it much harder once DS2 came out. Much, much harder. Two of them demanding attention at the same time.

Thank you everyone - I am clinging on to all of those that have said it is easier once they're out!!!!

I'm finding it physically very hard to walk and bend and lift etc and every step and movement hurts for one reason or another. I know I'm going to be tired once the new baby comes but I was hoping that physically I may not feel such a wreck!

It was liberating to be more physically active once the baby came out, but I also found it harder overall to be looking after a newborn and a toddler. The summer after ds2 was born was a complete haze to me and I still don't know how I got through it.

I'm dreading this too.. 35 weeks pregnant now. The mums who find it hard with a toddler and a newborn; what kind of age cap do you have? Our DD1 is three and she's quite independent already, some mornings I've been so exhausted I've slept late and she takes breakfast, plays and watches children's TV.

aiti72 I am 39 weeks and like that with ds2 (nearly 4). He's only in afternoon nursery so with me every morning, but doing anything remotely active with him feels like a real chore.

Ds1 was 2y 2m when ds2 was born. I think it might have been easier if (a) ds1 had been older and (b) ds2 had been an easier baby. Unfortunately due to many reasons ds2 needed lots of attention, and ds1 took about a year to adjust.