Does anyone have 5th kid after 2 girls 2 boys?

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I think a lots of mums stop at 4 because of having 2 girls and 2 boys, so can someone continue to have 5th kid after 4 kids that are 2 girls and 2 boys were born?

I just found a 7 bed for 500k! Not as bad as I thought!

Gosh going through GCSE’s /a-levels 5 times. When my children did theirs, the entire family’s life was put on hold from Feb to June. It was exhausting and miserable for us all . (Worth it in the end though). The idea of doing that 5 times and then a-levels which may or may not be the same years. I’m shuddering at the thought. I can imagine parents being super invested in child number 1 but by the time it is child number 5, you likely aren’t as interested at that point!

They are out there. I once saw a ten bedroom house and joked about buying it and filling it up. Needed a bit of work so it was affordable as a result, but if I'd had 8-9 kids, I'd have done it. You can also think of a study as a bedroom, a second living area set up suitably as a bedroom. You just have to think flexibly.

Of course you are. They're all different and equally interesting and precious.

In what way was family life put on hold? I was studying for my GCSEs less than ten years ago and it was just me revising in a corner? My parents didn’t even know what I was studying? I only have one other sibling

For me it’s not only the practical day to day parenting but as they get older the worry about them finding productive work / a partner / being happy and establishing themselves in life. Having that worry 5 times over - my nerves could not stand it! It’s full on enough with 2 annd mine are both very good but even so!

well yes, of course there are people in these circumstances.
My aunt and uncle had boy, girl, girl, boy, then another boy.

Yes I don’t think English is op’s first language (not being rude) the construction of the sentence seems East Asian. I’m not an expert though

We are super active as a family. Always going off and doing things together on weekends. We couldn’t really go anywhere as they were upstairs revising. We couldn’t spend much time with family as they were revising. If you don’t do much as family together then you probably wouldn’t notice but for us it was hard.

You’d be very unlikely to have 5 children in nursery at the same time, I’d wager.

I am one - my parents had boy, girl, boy, girl and then had me. I assume I was a happy accident!

If you can do it once, you can do it over again. I helped mine put together a CV, talked about handling interviews, helped them with finding places to seek employment, drove them to interviews. It worked, so you just repeat.

Finding partners, that's on them. Your job is to teach them about relationships, which is conversational over years.

Establishing themselves in life, you give them the tools. Again, largely conversational over life and some practical support later. Help them decide what they want to do with life based on interests, which you get to see develop over a life time.

In the end it is up to them to make the most of their opportunities and establish themselves in life.

You could go out if the older one is old enough to be doing exams at that level. It happens more as they all get older anyway. One will be at work, another out with friends. It doesn't have to stop the rest of the family doing things. It doesn't have to be every member of the family or no-one.

Has anyone considered in this age of technology, siblings may be a good way to stop your children becoming anti social ferrets? As they always have a play mate when other families kids don’t want to come outside because they’re gaming or ipading?

Entertaining an only child is more intensive than you’d think

Im the 5th child. But my parents had 2 boys a girl then another boy then me...girl and I was quite literally a happy error at the time popped out 9 years after the last 🤣🤣 different numbers but same scenario, i had a boy and a girl and then had a third...another girl...

So if they were revising you just didn’t go out anywhere?
It’s entirely normal for older teens to go out with their family less… friends are (and developmentally should be!) very important at that age, they also often have part time jobs, weekend sports fixtures etc. My eldest spends most of Saturday playing football and most of Sunday playing rugby! We still do things as a family, but DH and I also do things on our own while they’re busy with friends/hobbies/studying. No teens should be revising solidly all day Saturday and Sunday, so there is still a chance for a family outing if everyone desires it.

My mother had GGGBG

My mum had 6 kids first 4 were BB GG so not sure about your Op🤷‍♀️

Well mine did extensive high level sports whilst at school including exam periods which involved us dividing and conquering so we did spend a lot of time outside that together or we’d never have seen each other. Kids are grown now and completely normal (well I hope so!) so didn’t suffer from doing a lot of revision alone. I enjoyed being around keeping them company to do all the tea making and snack providing and although it was generally miserable I look back fondly. All got top marks so worth it in the end. Different families, different ways of doing things. Defo would have been hard with more than 2!

I have BGGB and for many reasons I wouldn’t have had a 5th. None of those reasons are anything to do with the sex of the children though.
i must say when I had my 3rd I did get people expressing surprise that I was having another child considering I already had a boy and a girl.

Hmmm I understand that it doesn't get any harder after 3. Is there evidence that indivual attention every day is good or necessary for children ?

Likely aren’t as interested by the time it gets to child number 5! That’s a horrible thing to say! Are you less interested in subsequent children than your first???? I am definitely just as “interested” in my youngest child (of 6) as I am in my first. The assumptions people make about larger families are absolutely gross to be honest so I usually don’t respond but this one really got me!

Well mine aren’t that age yet so have no idea how we’ll do things 😊. I got 4 As at A level (the days before A* as I’m old!) but I don’t remember my parents staying at home bringing me tea while I revised. Good job really I guess as I hate tea!

My mother would have been at work. I was very self sufficient.

I had 8 kids, M, F, F, F, M, F, M, M. For me it wasn't about gender. I wanted a big family & I'm Catholic 😁