Insanely stupid questions in here: How uncomfortable are you at term?

[Anglepoise]

I've waited ten years for my college reunion, and today I finally got the invitation through the post. I am due on 15th September. It's on 20th September. Bah!

I actually suspect I'll go relatively near my due date (it's a full moon and my periods were 28 days, which is supposed to make it more accurate) but I'll be annoyed if I go two weeks over and miss out. But then will I actually be annoyed or will I be too uncomfortable to move anyway? It'll involve a couple of hours on a train and an overnight stay.

Is it worth me saying I'll go if I haven't birthed by then or am I just being stupid and should accept I'll have to wait for the 20 year one, when I'm old and wrinkly?

Am I the new Edith Bowman?

I've got three days till my due date and I have to say I definitely couldn't face a couple of hours on a train. I've definitely reached the stage where comfort comes before everything else!

dd was 7 days over - and I was perhaps comfier then than I had been earlier

Looked IMMENSE though

I wasn't hugely uncomfy I don't think although that was on the proviso that I didn't actually move.

I did used to manage a walk to the bakery every day

Yes, there would be the slight issue of trying to find something to wear!

I don't know if it makes a difference (I suspect not!) but at 27 weeks I'm neither ginormous (quite small in fact) nor uncomfortable.

wasabipeanut

I'm thinking taxi to station, treat myself to first class, taxi at other end, minimal movement.

Actually, I think I have until 8th September to RSVP, so perhaps I should just hang on and decide later!

I worked up until the day before DS arrived...

You can get something nice to wear - I'd say go for it!

Actually, I'd forgotten that people work right up to their due dates and am now slightly ashamed (I am going on ML embarrassingly early due to relocation).

I thought I'd be told I was mental even to consider it, so this is encouraging!

Last time I was fine at 40 + weeks, travelled hours on the train 2 days before I was due (and sat on floor in corridor while old biddies gave their dogs seats ) but this time it's alot tougher - I guess see how you go really, if you say yes to it you don't have to go if that day you are feeling awful.

wasabipeanut

i keep thinking your name is Was A Bi Peanut

as in Now A Gay Cashew

angle -is is baby number 1?
i think i would have been comfy enough but there is the possibility of going into labour a long way from home

Good point, ladyofwaffle! Mazzystar, it is DC1. I have considered that I might end up giving birth there (I'm sure sod's law will kick in!) though DH would quite like me to give birth on the 20th as it's his dad's birthday. I think I'd have to take DH with me (though I don't think he's invited to the do ) and my notes and might check with a friend who lives locally what the hospital there is like ...

LadyofWaffle I'm at you having to sit in the train corridor!

Anglepoise - If you dont have to RSVP till September I'd wait till then and see how you feel. I really wouldn't want to travel/stay in a hotel right now, but everyone is different.

A word of caution!! I bought a ticket to see Radiohead in the local park at the start of my pregnancy, I'm now 37 weeks and having developed SPD at 26 weeks, I can no longer walk. The gig is on Tuesday, I'm utterly determined to go but will need a wheelchair and military style planning and it's less than 5 minutes walk!! My advice is wait till nearer the time, you may feel wonderful as the majority of women do, or you may be unlucky and be a stranded weeble like me!

Am nearly 38 weeks. Am very twitchy about being far away from home for fear of going into labour, especially as I had a quick labour the first time.

Yeah, I definitely won't go with a tiny baby! But it's free, so no cost to me, and it's the kind of thing I won't feel too bad about just not turning up (unlike if it was a personal invitation kind of thing) so I might RSVP and then decide on the day ... I would take DH with me just in case and stash him in a nearby pub though!

The next anniversary meet-up probably won't be for another ten years, so it would be a bit of a shame to miss it.

I went to 42 weeks, and went to a bbq round the corner at 41 weeks and was just REALLY grumpy because hips were really killing and had rotten heartburn.

I'd go (with DH in some kind of attendance). Personally I was fine at term even with a head wedged under my ribs. Everyone's different though.

My sister tried to go to a wedding at about that stage - travelled to it the night before - but ended up having the baby instead. She knew where the local hospital was though and, if I remember rightly, had spoken them to warn them there was the vague possibility she might turn up on their doorstep, so they weren't overly surprised to see her.

Go. You only live once (and it'll be at least 20 years before you are child free again).

Is there any reason why you have to get the train? Could you not get DP to drive you there, and then only stay at the event for as long as you are comfortable? (ie even an hour?)

I would definately aim to go, after all when September arrives you will definately know in yourself on the day if you can make it or not! You might feel fab on the day of the event.

I am 38 weeks and can hardly manage an evening on the sofa without copious snacks, back rubs, hankies being passed, hot water bottles, ice packs and general sympathy all round

but everyone is different

No, we could drive, I just thought I'd be comfier on a train as I'd have more room and could walk around etc (and it would mean we didn't have to go on the M6!). I may even treat myself to first class.

The whole event is actually tea, a talk on "How to organise your brain" , service in the college chapel, drinks and then dinner, then another chapel service the next morning and brunch. I am only planning to attend drinks, dinner and brunch!

Thanks for all the feedback ladies, it's really useful. Think I will probably try to go (and think I've found a nice dress online ).

I would probably go for the train, but I find sitting in car extremely uncomfortable
definitely pay for 1st class - you may not get a seat otherwise and no people don't usually offer, unbelievably

Just seen this thread. You will soooo steal the show at 41 weeks, if you last that long. Best of luck.

Just a thought, but if you take the train on the day and decide to go first class, you may have to re-mortgage your house ;)
I can't comment on how you'll feel then as I'm 32 weeks with my first, but I'm already not keen on the idea of straying far from home. I can barely walk into town due to being huge/knackered

Yeah, I'd have to book the train well in advance!

Notquitegrownup that made me laugh

I drove 1 1/2 hours and then went to a hen night the night before I went into labour (actually drove back after 1st contraction and had second one in car on way back - didn't know that that was it tho')

Obviously I was fine, but I know everyone's different. Don't say no yet - give it a go, you'll know if you're not up for it.

Just to warn you tho' that dd was 5 days early so it does happen with a first!!