Has anyone got pregnant at 45y?

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I have 2 children from a previous relationship. My partner and I were talking about having a baby of our own. I know it’s much harder at this age to get pregnant but I wondered if any one has managed it naturally?

Trying for number 3 in my 40s is the biggest regret of my life. Having had 2 very easy, happy experiences, we then lost twins at 13 weeks and had 2 further early miscarriages. My memories of pregnancy are tainted by those awful experiences. Be careful.

That's tough 💐

This is what I wish I’d known before blithely setting my family on that path.

I'm so sorry you had that experience @Chickoletta.

I had my last at 43 conceived very easily, literally thought at the time, I need to conceive tonight and pretty much did as was pregnant soon after. But …. he’s a young adult now and I think a lot about the fact I’ve probably deprived him of a mother by about twenty years when I compare the fact I had my mum around right up to my sixties.

You need to slow right down. Only been together a year, and he has already moved himself in and is now suggesting a baby. That is already too fast in my book given you have tweens involved.

No need to add a baby to the mix. You already have plenty between the 2 of you, and you have an exciting new chapter in your lives where you can enjoy going out to concerts and shows or whatever you like - it would be a shame to go back to nappies.

For what it is worth, the only couple I know who spontaneously conceived at 45 have a child with significant additional needs.

I did and it was a surprise, but a nice one. He is lovely.
His childhood was different because he had to fit in 100% around the older 2 who already had their own activities. I felt guilty that he didn’t have the same dedicated babyhood as I gave the others, but of course he doesn’t know any different.
I’m also retired now & he’s at Uni and I can’t afford to support him as much as I could the others so there’s that.
But if it happens for you then good luck

Thank you for all your input and this is why I came here to ask the question. It’s given me food for thought and I think realistically if I was 10y younger it would be a more serious option but at my age the risks are too high and I’m happy having my kids and free time to be a couple.

Op while i think its possible there is a very high risk of misscarriage and of twins.

Things to consider is being 60 with a child whos only 14 / 15 not even hitting school exams yet.
Your friends will be discussing pensions and retirement. You'll be looking at uni fees and thinking retirement is a pipe-dream.

I think it would also be very hard on the existing children. Because babies and toddlers have a habit of making life revolve round them.

Anything is possible.

I’d be questioning why a man who’s known you 12 months and has 3 kids is so desperate to have another. Make sure you’re safe op.