Has anyone got pregnant at 45y?

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I have 2 children from a previous relationship. My partner and I were talking about having a baby of our own. I know it’s much harder at this age to get pregnant but I wondered if any one has managed it naturally?

I wouldn't have a baby at any age with someone I've only known a year.

Just observing that the women who get pg in their late forties often have quite a few children already. It seems to me that there is something there about previous pgncies protecting egg quality, something that isn’t known or recognised or understood in the medical profession yet.

Fwiw, my great grandmother had my great uncle when she was 51, but again she had already had six children.

Best of luck to you and your partner. X

I’m a similar age to you. Still ovulating, regular cycles and no peri symptoms so it’s entirely possible I suppose. But seriously why would you want to when you’ve both got kids?
Youve only been together a year, it’s still the honeymoon period. What if the shit hits the fan in another 12 months? You’ll be literally left holding the baby into your 50s and beyond.
I’d much rather enjoy the benefits of being able to spend 1:1 time together, holidays, nights away and meals out etc.
Do you genuinely want a baby or is it because you know the clock is ticking or you subconsciously think this is a way to keep this new man.

TBH that’s where I’m headed. Just curious, hence the question.

I was 44 yrs & 8 months when DC2 was (naturally) conceived, born after I turned 45 (obvs). We'd been trying for a few years though and had given up hope by that point. Ultimately fertility is very personal but as you know it gets harder to conceive as you get older generally speaking. Everything was fine for us though - easy pregnancy & he's now a healthy energetic 3 year old!

TBH that’s what I’m thinking, he bought it up so I thought I’d ask the question on here and it got me thinking.

Definitely don’t need to trap him. I own my home and have a good career etc and spent time on my own to know I don’t need to settle or trap someone.

Sorry I didn’t mean to imply you wanted to trap him but inevitably you are bound to someone once you have kids together, even if you later separate. They are still there in the background.
I can see the dilemma as time isn’t on your side but a year definitely wouldn’t be long enough for me to even consider this unless you’re happy to have a baby if it goes either way. It’s just that inevitably more of the child rearing burden will probably fall to you.

I know one couple who did. They seem very happy.

I'd love to but it doesn't seem to be happening.

Was one of those children a teenage girl?

I had my DD at 3 months shy of being 45. We tried for a little over 3 years before we had a successful pregnancy. After all we had been through the pregnancy was stress free. She’s the absolute light of our lives now and I’m so glad my DH pushed me for that final try (I was so devastated with it all by the time I was 44, I had given up hope) Good luck if you decide to go for it.

My friend did - with triplets! She sadly lost one at around 10 weeks, but she went on to have her two healthy babies.

Ha - I get your drift but no it was a genuine (very late) pgcy

At 45 your chance of conceiving is between 1% and 5% per cycle. And your chance of miscarriage is between 50% and 80%.

What that means (roughly) is that if 100 women start ttcing at 45 then after a year:-

69 won’t have gotten pregnant
20 will have gotten pregnant but miscarried
11 will have a baby

Those odds are nowhere near good enough for me but that is my personal attitude to risk, Yours will be yours.

How do you know you're still ovulating?

Please excuse me if you already know this (I know it's sad but if you don't know you need to) - at 45 you might find that what happens isn't that you just don't fall pregnant, but rather that you do, but you experience recurrent miscarriages. It's because one of the commonest causes of miscarriage is that your eggs have the wrong numbers of chromosomes, and this increases a lot as you get older.

I'm only mentioning it because I know many people would be quite happy with the idea of TTC if the two likely options are a pregnancy versus just not falling pregnant, and might feel quite differently if they were factoring in a third option of having high risk of miscarriage. It does just depend how you feel about that, obviously!

Ovary pain on the side I ovulate from. Not every month but most. EWCM etc. I used to track before we were ttc so I know the signs. That’s not to say that the eggs aren’t shite quality of course or that my body could sustain a pregnancy. Statistics say otherwise.

So you're probably ovulating, rather than you know you do, I think? Sorry, only saying it because it's like everything else at this age - sure, usually if your period is regular you are ovulating, but it can be the point where ovulation is starting to come unstuck. Not saying it to be unhelpful or picky (hope that is clear!).

This was my Gran at 44, my Dad was what she called her “change of life baby.”

Do you already live together? If you both have kids already but only together 1 year, I'd consider even living together a very big deal and alot of upheaval for the kids to be thrown into a blended family in such a short time, without the added complication of a baby.

It's obviously possible to get pregnant at 45 but generally will take a bit longer trying, so you could be 46 getting pregnant and 47 giving birth. You'd then be 70 before the kid graduates college which is also something to consider.

He already doesn’t see his other kid much - not the best dad is he? Why does he not have 50/50?

Why would you jump in for another after a year. It’s an honeymoon period. And the chance of having a child with disabilities is much higher at your age, so, do you think he’ll be a good dad when the chips are down?

Yes if we’re going to be pedantic then it’s probably as I don’t have a window into my ovaries. I got pregnant pretty late so I can vouch that they still work. I started my periods at 9 years old so I’d be quite happy for it all to be over and done with!

I was weeks short of being 45 when I had my son. We had tried for years and this was an easy pregnancy but only came after early miscarriages at 42 and 43. My only regret is how old I am now he’s a teenager and how unlikely it is that I’ll see him have children. But everything else has been absolutely fine. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Look up the risks for you and the baby and make an informed decision.

Well, you never know.. it's entirely possible that you could see him have children, but of course nothing is a given.

I know a few who became pregnant but sadly they all ended in miscarriage or TFMR due to conditions detected during screening. Not trying to rain on your parade, but something to consider, as the risk of some conditions do increase with parental age.