Do you believe that someone you're close to dies when a new baby is born?

[CheshireMum1212]

My mum is convinced that a new life always brings about the death of a loved one too.
For our last baby and nephew this has been true.
Has anyone else heard this? - Apologies for such a tough topic.

The UK? The world?

No I don't believe it. I can only think of one family who had a close member die within 6 months of a baby born.

OP, that is just simply not true.
There are plenty of examples where it did not happen.

Globally, there has been a good number of generatioms with the same amount of births. The population increase has to do with people living longer, so less deaths, rather than more births. And the population globally is going down now or expected to go down soon.

No it’s rubbish. 3 recentish births in DH’s family and no one has died on any side.

Logically how do you explain the growing birth rate worldwide and historic mass deaths in war or natural disaster? It’s not one in: one out. Nature doesn’t work like that.

How can one influence the other (assuming not a mother dying as a result of childbirth)?

Anecdotally yes

Coincidence or looking for patterns,

At the age you are having babies, you are likely to have your own grandparents in their 80s. Potentially 4 of them, in fact between you and the baby’s father you potentially have 8 grandparents. So quite high probability of a death within a year of baby being born.

When my 2nd daughter was born my Mum died suddenly 5 months later. I don’t necessarily believe in the whole “one in one out” theory, however my daughter looks very much like my Mum and some days I like to believe that she somehow lives through her (which depending on your belief system is probably true!)

Your beliefs are your own, don’t let anyone tell you that they are stupid or not warranted.

Hope this helps!

NO!

It’s not a ‘tough’ topic, it’s a daft one. We are not living in the Middle Ages FGS. Or is this a wind up?

If this was the case then the population of the earth would have been static for, welll, since the start.

No, don't be ridiculous!

We did have a family joke about "one in, one out" in our family. But it was clearly just that. No one believed it.

No I don’t believe it.
Were the people who died elderly? Or are you saying that fit and healthy 20 somethings dropped down dead straight after the birth of a baby?

Probably because people are too skint to have a baby .

No i don't believe that someone dies.

Of course not.

No. Coincidence if it happens.

My dad also believes this, he claims relatives died when both me and my brother born. When my DD was born, no one died, so all well, spell broken. But then a few years later my grandparent died literally hours after DS was born on same day. Can't really argue with his theory now!

Absolutely not

Yes my FIL passed when I was weeks pg with DD 💖

Surprised by the strength of some of these responses. I thought “one in, one out” was a common superstition? Obviously not.

Believe is not the right word because it’s clearly not real. There’s absolutely no science or rationality behind it. But the last three babies to be born in the immediate family have coincided with deaths in the family during each of the pregnancies.

A close family member has just been diagnosed with a nasty illness just as we’ve started thinking about TTC again and I must admit the old “one in, one out” theory has crossed my mind. My rational brain knows the two aren’t linked in anyway and unfortunately family member will probably die whether I’m pregnant or not. But I still don’t want to be the one to jinx it.

I don’t believe this, and I believe in past and future lives and reincarnation! The Buddhist view of this would include all beings in the world, not just humans, and would say that your unborn child’s consciousness entered at the moment of conception. So whoever their mind manifested as in a previous life, died soon before or at the time of conception. Someone close to you dying at the time of birth would make no sense even in the Buddhist belief system.

I dont believe it but my grandad died when I was expecting dd and gran died 4 days before ds was born

No because it isn't true. How close to the births were the deaths? If not same day then it's just coincidence with added confirmation bias. People die, people are born. These are guaranteed facts of human existence so of course within a few weeks or month of a birth you might learn of a death.

Edited to add - and if it is always the same day then it is also just coincidence but quite a surprising one as for most people a loved one doesn;t die the same day as another is brn.