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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Anyone, um, not had sex since they got pregnant?

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Saymyname · 28/05/2008 16:29

Just wondered really.

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copingvquietly · 28/05/2008 16:30

yep

chinchi · 28/05/2008 16:30

Yes. Found out 9th April, and DH hasnt been near me since!

copingvquietly · 28/05/2008 16:32

ignore me i didnt read it properly - had too much chocolate

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Saymyname · 28/05/2008 16:36

Oh good, not just me.

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learningallthetime · 28/05/2008 16:37

We never either.

mum2b1 · 28/05/2008 16:41

we havent.
had a few scares to start with and my husband is scare of hurting either of us (me and baby!)
Now a adys - 31 weeks gone - I just feel so big and unsexy anyway!
Both of us knackered all of the time aswell.

I never knew other people didnt aswell t hough

whomovedmychocolate · 28/05/2008 16:42

Didn't with the first baby at all. Have with this one but not recently - am just too huge now to contemplate it

Amberc · 28/05/2008 16:44

I don't believe people who say they are at it like rabbits! I'm too tired and feel about as sexy as a dead dog.

cadelaide · 28/05/2008 16:46

Some men, I have learnt thro discussion with friends , just don't "do" pregnant.

LadyThompson · 28/05/2008 16:46

I like having sex even when I am ill! I have felt like it even more now I am pregnant. BUT and it is a big but, when I have a much bigger bump and post c-section, I bet I'll be out of action for yonks and yonks...Apart from the physical things, and unwanted mental images, some people's hormones put them off. I wouldn't worry about it and I'm sure it won't last forever.

aiti72 · 28/05/2008 16:59

31 weeks here and we haven't either. Had a few scares in the beginning of this pregnancy and guess that put us off(and also me being sick/tired all the time).

I'm really worried that if we don't make effort now it's 'too late' after baby is born and I'm physically torn again and we're both knaggered for a year. Never understood those women whose children's age gap is one year or less, that would mean they have sex way too close to giving birth!

ScaryHairy · 28/05/2008 17:02

We didn't.
And then I didn't feel like it until 3 months after the baby was born, so basically we had an annual shag.

finallypregnant · 28/05/2008 17:08

We did today at 37 weeks and I thought it was awful. Doubt we will again for several more weeks!

LadyThompson · 28/05/2008 17:11

Can I be very rude and ask (this is my first baby and believe me, I know nothing at all) why sex is horrid with a big bump? Is it purely because most positions feel uncomfortable? Or does it just feel physically unpleasant inside when you are actually doing it? I'd like to be prepared!

finallypregnant · 28/05/2008 17:12

Getting comfy was the main thing so I ended up on top and then I felt sick and dizzy so we tried spoons but I didn't like the sensation!

addictedtoharibo · 28/05/2008 17:15

Things can actually feel a bit different once the babies head is engaged as, well, there is a babys head close to your cervix lol. But many men just think it feels tighter.

I think its more the idea that doing anything physical that you dont have to when you are that big puts you off and you have to be more creative when you are that big - he cant just jump on top of you whilst you lie there lol. With a big bump it can be hard to roll over in bed let alone get energetic- well thats how I felt anyway!

no1putsbabyinthecorner · 28/05/2008 17:15

currently 27 weeks dh wont come anywhere near and didnt with dd neither. So she now 15 month and didnt do that much after she was born.
I asked him the other day. You have needs too cant I just face the other way and you dont look at the bump
He was nearly sick at the thought
Think he is scared of doing damage

CaptainKarvol · 28/05/2008 17:16

we didn't either, nor for months and months after the birth. It's all ok now though

Essie3 · 28/05/2008 17:30

There was a thread on this the other day! Posted on that, because I've been secretly in the closet and worrying about this - second trimester = mega randy according to all the magazines. Yeah right.

I have had sex - twice, lol! Not in the mood, DH is thankfully understanding (or getting it elsewhere ). I'm now 38 weeks. Won't be doing it again (unless out of a sense of duty, i.e. trying to home-induce!)

But CaptainKarvol gives me hope!

star6 · 28/05/2008 17:49

I love you ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!! I started the other thread and this is so encouraging!!!!! I feel like showing this thread to my dh so that he can see that he's lucky he even gets what someone else called a "mercy shag" once a week.

Minkus · 28/05/2008 17:56

LadyThompson for me it is that I just can't get into the mood! At all! Am 34 weeks and the thought of the necessary (and normally lovely) fumbling that goes on just switches me off completely. DH and I have maintained a sex life of sorts but tbh I don't really want to, I just feel a bit sorry for him, he tries not to show it but we're normally quite lusty and I can see he's fit to burst when we do get round to it

It's like the chemicals in my brain that normally make me think "oooh you look a bit sexy dh a bit of rudery would be nice" just aren't being produced and I feel like a dried up shrivelled old hag! And when I allow the Mercy Shag (someone else on here described it like that the other day, thought it was great) we get there, it's not unpleasant at all it's just not...sexy. Makes me a bit esp as when pg with ds I was like a thing possessed which he was of course delighted about!

solo · 28/05/2008 17:57

I was as horny as hell when pg with Dd, but Dp wasn't interested after about 4 months - he doesn't find pg women attractive he says...no excuse now though, but not much has changed

mum2b1 · 28/05/2008 18:48

also... orgasms hurt!
they made my tummy contract and it is quite unpleasant and painful I have found!

Also it seems a bit 'wrong' to be doing it when there is a baby in there - maybe that is just me....

finallypregnant · 28/05/2008 18:49

I feel awful saying this but hubby tried to do things to turn me on a bit to see if that helped. I just told him to get on with it. No time or inclination for that carryon!

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