Anyone, um, not had sex since they got pregnant?

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Just wondered really.

we found it ok. no pain, no icky feelings. think we managed it up til about 37 weeks, about twice a week.

so i'm not alone - we've only done the deed once since fidning out I was pg (this is first), last week at 23 weeks. To be fair to us, I spent the best part of 6 weeks in hospital, then quite a long time feeling too sick to move more than absolutely necessary. Even though sickness has passed, am not really too bothered about sex at the mo tbh and certainly not full of that second trimester randiness!

Had the same when pregnant with both DS's. DH has this theory that Elvis didn't go near Priscilla once she got pregnant because it was somehow "wrong". DH has been nicknamed 'Elvis' since school - something to do with the hair (which he's since lost!). Hence, no sex when pregnant. He did come home once in the first pregnancy tipsy. Before he realised what he was doing, there we were. He was mortified the next morning! Second time around we did a few times, but even then it was deemed slightly "wrong".

With my DD, I was rampant from the minute I fell pg with her, and carried on being throughout the pregnancy - I didn't feel unsexy, and even DH said that it was a different kind of sexy as I was no longer worried about fat bits, as I was all bump, so my skin was tighter. Poor bloke had to ask for a rest

However, I'm 13 weeks gone with dc2, and sex is the absolute last thing I want. I've not had any of the morning sickness that I suffered with my DD, but I'm just not interested. I'm exhausted beyond belief (this time have a job, a 2year old and 7 animals) my boobs are sore, and I'm just not in the mood. Poor DH is baffled as he was looking forward to another 9 happy sex months

I guess i'm alone in having sex on an almost daily basis then? Saying that I only felt like it from about 12 weeks onwards-i'm now 35w. I am having more sex now than before i was pg. It's not really because i'm more horny-more because i'm more loved up and craving closeness. Missionary and cowgirl has become impossible though. I am having more trouble than usual reaching orgasm though which is weird.

Show off! Tess...I'm

I was gagging for it throughout all my pg's, unfortunately though found my enthusiasm would peak at about 3.30pm and by 8pm the usual pregnant exhaustion kicked in and I'd need to go to bed.

So during pg's 1&2, dh thought I wasn't interested, I felt really rejected and we were both unhappy. Seriously concerned that our marriage could be threatened by a repeat performance (or lack thereof), I sat him down before ttc dd3 and made it clear that I was more than available, just at different times of day. We had a very happy 9 months and lots of daytime romps . Just wish I'd mentioned it sooner

errr ... yes and ds is 7 this year.
god i must get a life lol!!!!

Oh am I happy to see this thread.

I have been occasionally a bit upset throughout pregnancy (my first, I'm 37 weeks) as hubby hasn't come near me since about 4 months! I did ask him about it, and he said it's not that he doesn't still fancy me, just that it seemed a bit 'wrong' to be doing it while the baby was there - like it was in the same room or something. I have tried to convince him otherwise, but I guess once you get a certain picture in your head it's very difficult to work around, so no nooky for me.

Is amazing though because before he was the one that would complain if he wasn't getting enough, and yet he has gone for 5 months without any. I have a feeling he is expecting normal service to resume once baby arrives - haha, he'll be lucky eh?

i must be unusually mad then!!!, i am feeling randier than i ever have , although we dont necessarily have sex all the time, as i tend to go to bed early and have told DP off for waking me up, am hoping that it lasts after the baby is born, as after DS we didnt have any kind of sex life for about 6 months!!!which DP was not impressed about.

Hmm, the whole sex thing.

I reckon DH secretly thinks it's watching him. Plus, it's only 16 weeks and I'm terrified he'll squash it...

I could do without it, tbh.

Poor man.

we just couldn't help feeling like it was having a threesome with our kid. So never bothered first time round and haven't this time either.

I didn't miss it one bit though - despite feeling up for it a lot of the time and DH is too knackered from work to care (hmmm lots of late nights in the office, always knackered !

lol brilliant thread!

think we have about 3 times and they were all in the early stages. Havent for ages lately though....
a) im not in the mood- dispite the books saying otherwise.
b) Too big now (34weeks)to get in a comfy position.
c) Just doesnt feel "right" if you know what i mean.
d) like someone else said... My tummy goes rock hard and hurts!!!

No way with DD1

A handfull of times with DD2

On my 3rd pregnancy and was rampent at the start (prob cause i knew i would not be getting it for a while) Now 34wks pregnant and its a thing of the past Have done the deed a few times in the last couple of weeks but way to big now..

Lady Thompson - you will have noticed by now everyone's different and that you should necessarily expect no sex...

We found that a little experimenting was required and found our 'pregnant/post-section/two knackered with new baby' position. This isn;t MORE magazine so I wont go into details but basically no weight was put on me and I could lie in a confy position. Hubby loved it and we both saw it as very natural to still have sex whilst pregnant (lots of monogomous animals do it and they reckon it tightens the bods before rearing children....)

I did also find I couldn;t be bothered with physical foreplay and found that ...er.... talking about fantasies was fun and helped things along without us having to move much.

Personally I would have missed sex, especially (besides the obvious pleasures) the sense of belonging to each and cuddling after.

Frankly sex was easier than most things past 30 weeks.

that shoudl be 'tighten the bonds' not tighten the bods....sounds like some kind of pelvic floor exercise....

Tess321 - no, I'm with you there Well, not every night but certainly 2/3 times a week and sometimes every other night. I'm knackered etc. but can't help feeling randy I'm almost 37 weeks and bump does get in the way in certain positions but we've not really had any problems finding other ways

I FINALLY was able to have sex once and enjoy it yesterday... but, sorry for tmi... some positions created an enormous wave of nausea for me. have been doing weekly 'mercy shags'for 21 weeks now and have not been liking it at all.

Problem is, I want it over quickly and dh could go on for hours...

Despite nausea and tiredness I have never wanted it so much or enjoyed it so much either.

DH told me that he didn't think it fest right - as if someone was watching us - so we didn't from the day we found out until after DD was born.

That should say felt right!

So far everyone falls into two extremes - most don't do it or want it.

A lucky few turn into nymphos and do it all the time

This pregnancy we have had sex about 4-5 times am now 34 weeks.

I'm in agony with SPD and this coupled with the bump rules out almost every position. DP isn't that happy about it but he understands when I'm sore turning over in bed that I can't really face anything else.

Sometimes mind is willing but body isn't!