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Women that had elective C-sections. Any regrets?

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BellaRosex · 02/08/2025 08:54

Hi all,

Currently 30 weeks pregnant and trying to decide whether to give birth naturally or have an elective C-section.

Curious to hear of other women's experiences of elective C sections - positive and negative!

TIA x

OP posts:
SchnizelVonKrumm · 04/08/2025 18:03

Neurodiversitydoctor · 04/08/2025 17:55

Look I will defend any women's right to have an elective c- section, but vaginal birth does not have to be traumatic, even instrumental deliveries can be a positive experience. A poster upthread quote a ftm having a 40% chance of having a straightforward VB, that still 4/10 and I suspect the figures are much higher for 2nd babies. The birth of DD (DC2) was honestly fantastic ( VB 3 hours from start to finish and a single stitch). There is still a 50:50 chance of that outcome.

I wasn't trying to imply that it's inevitably traumatic. My first birth was. This was partly caused by the gynecologist saying not to worry about the forceps she was about to use to extract my distressed baby, because they were "only blades" (FFS! Blades!). Fortunately my DP is a medic himself and she got the riot act from him.

PurpleChrayn · 04/08/2025 18:13

No regrets. It was an incredibly smooth and relaxing experience, with the added bonus that my fanny isn’t hanging out.

Babyboomtastic · 04/08/2025 18:17

Neurodiversitydoctor · 04/08/2025 17:55

Look I will defend any women's right to have an elective c- section, but vaginal birth does not have to be traumatic, even instrumental deliveries can be a positive experience. A poster upthread quote a ftm having a 40% chance of having a straightforward VB, that still 4/10 and I suspect the figures are much higher for 2nd babies. The birth of DD (DC2) was honestly fantastic ( VB 3 hours from start to finish and a single stitch). There is still a 50:50 chance of that outcome.

From having looked at this in quite a lot of detail, that 50/50 is not right. Sorry. A straightforward vaginal birth could still mean a fourth degree tear. It could mean a hemorrhage. It may still have been induced. All it means is no instruments or section.

A person could have life-changing vaginal birth injuries, but it's still come under the category of straightforward vaginal birth. Whilst I'm glad you had a stitch free experience, that's the exception of the norm. Over 90% of first vaginal births result in stitches. And yes, so do 100% of c-sections, but at least you definitely won't feel them (or what caused them!)

MarySueSaidBoo · 04/08/2025 18:25

I've had 2 OP. 1st was an emergency, 2nd was recommended (due to previous stillbirth). 1st one was very scary and I had a massive PPH afterwards so was put to sleep very quickly after baby was delivered. All was fine until the 2nd one and they then discovered I'd got a lot of surgical adhesions and it took them a fair time to get into my uterus. I was left in quite considerable pain afterwards and eventually after going back time and time again to my GP, a scan revealed that I'd got lots more adhesions all wrapped round my lower abdomen. It's left me with a lot of pain during periods, and with ongoing bowel issues.

I don't regret either - but I wish that I'd been fully made aware of the risks. I don't feel that I made an educated decision about the 2nd one.

doodleschnoodle · 04/08/2025 18:30

Unfortunately C section statistics are inaccurate because almost nowhere records true maternal request sections separately. They are lumped in with planned sections for health conditions relating to baby/mother, which would obviously be expected to have more adverse outcomes.

There was some research done looking purely at maternal request sections in one of the few places that records separately (ie. sections carried out purely because the mother requested it, not because of any risk profile), and it showed maternal request sections were associated with the fewer adverse outcomes for both baby and mother. It’s very interesting, I’ll try to find the link.

I think women should be informed and the truth is that the data we have about c sections in this country is not accurate for maternal request sections.

doodleschnoodle · 04/08/2025 18:33

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2022/feb/13/caesareans-or-vaginal-births-should-mothers-or-medics-have-the-final-say

Relevant section:

When studying childbirth, researchers look at hospital records and note down how often certain outcomes happen after each kind of birth. For two reasons, this makes it difficult to study MRCs properly. First, MRCs are typically recorded as “elective caesareans”. But because most electives are scheduled to mitigate a risky complication, researchers say it is unfair to align their risks with those of MRCs, where everything might be fine.

Second, the risk of vaginal birth is often underestimated, so the comparison is skewed. This is because researchers do not always account for emergency caesareans as an outcome of attempted vaginal births. In fact, many older studies lump in the emergency C-section risk with the risk of all other caesareans, despite the fact that they are clearly more dangerous and almost always the result of a vaginal birth not going to plan. As Nice makes clear, ideally, studies would compare people planning a C-section with those planning a vaginal birth, but this information is rarely available.

These factors make it very tricky to estimate the risk of choosing a C-section versus planning a vaginal birth, but not impossible. In 2021, a team of Canadian researchers found a hospital database in Ontario that, unusually, had logged MRCs. This allowed them to compare MRCs to other low-risk pregnancies where the plan, but not necessarily the outcome, was a vaginal birth.

The data shocked the study’s head author, Darine El-Chaâr, a perinatal researcher at the Ottawa hospital. In the planned vaginal birth group, there was a higher percentage of negative outcomes compared with the MRC group, driven by serious vaginal tears and babies admitted to intensive care. “I myself am challenged by the data,” she says, underlining that she believes vaginal birth is natural. “I wanted it to be the other way around.”

Caesareans or vaginal births: should mothers or medics have the final say?

More babies are born by C-section than ever, causing alarm at the WHO. But some believe the option should always be offered

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2022/feb/13/caesareans-or-vaginal-births-should-mothers-or-medics-have-the-final-say

Neurodiversitydoctor · 04/08/2025 19:13

Babyboomtastic · 04/08/2025 18:17

From having looked at this in quite a lot of detail, that 50/50 is not right. Sorry. A straightforward vaginal birth could still mean a fourth degree tear. It could mean a hemorrhage. It may still have been induced. All it means is no instruments or section.

A person could have life-changing vaginal birth injuries, but it's still come under the category of straightforward vaginal birth. Whilst I'm glad you had a stitch free experience, that's the exception of the norm. Over 90% of first vaginal births result in stitches. And yes, so do 100% of c-sections, but at least you definitely won't feel them (or what caused them!)

Fair enough to be fair though the vulva heals very quickly. As I say it's personal choice, but vaginal birth can be the best outcome.

CatsorDogsrule · 04/08/2025 20:01

Neurodiversitydoctor · 04/08/2025 19:13

Fair enough to be fair though the vulva heals very quickly. As I say it's personal choice, but vaginal birth can be the best outcome.

I wish you'd been there to inform my vulva that it heals very quickly. Months later I still required silver nitrate applications and 4 weeks of strong antibiotics to allow it to partially "heal".

Neurodiversitydoctor · 04/08/2025 20:05

CatsorDogsrule · 04/08/2025 20:01

I wish you'd been there to inform my vulva that it heals very quickly. Months later I still required silver nitrate applications and 4 weeks of strong antibiotics to allow it to partially "heal".

Ouch that sounds really tough- we are all different aren't we ? That's what my mother told me and tbf was my lived experience- 2 weeks after DC1 and maybe 5 days after DC2 and everything was pretty much back to normal.

SunnyPrague · 04/08/2025 20:14

I had two very straightforward vaginal births but just wanted to share that I know of many inductions leading onto complex instrumental deliveries and MANY happy and positive stories of calm, planned, safe elective caesareans with great recoveries.

I think a good compromise is to plan to have an elective section at 39 weeks if you haven’t already gone into labour.

CatsorDogsrule · 04/08/2025 20:24

Neurodiversitydoctor · 04/08/2025 20:05

Ouch that sounds really tough- we are all different aren't we ? That's what my mother told me and tbf was my lived experience- 2 weeks after DC1 and maybe 5 days after DC2 and everything was pretty much back to normal.

As you say, we are all different, so I don't understand why you made such a bold statement that " the vulva heals very quickly" based on your poll of two.

No need for studies or collecting data when Neurodiversitydoctor and her mum know all of the facts for every body / woman/ vulva...

NotARealWookiie · 04/08/2025 20:31

I had a shitty first vaginal birth and an elective c section second. I actually really struggled with the c section, had bad pain afterwards and didn’t bounce back anywhere as quickly as expected. Hate the overhang. 3 years on I still wonder how it would have gone if I hadn’t had it.

Mushypeas101 · 04/08/2025 20:41

No I don’t regret it. Sometimes I think about how it would’ve been nice to have a straightforward VB but then I remember that the stats for a first time birth are shit (only 4/10 don’t require instrumentation or go to c section). I liked that it was an extremely controlled and low risk environment. But being medical means I have heard all the horror stories so I’m probably biased.

ALJT · 04/08/2025 22:16

No regrets. I had natural that really damaged everything even 12 years later I’m not right. I went for a section second time round and it was amazing

CJCoopz · 04/08/2025 22:42

Zero regrets. Planned c-section was what I needed as a 39 year old women with an IVF pregnancy. I didn’t have the mental reserves to handle the anxiety I would have had with the fear of natural birth leading to complications for my daughter. I honestly wouldn’t hade been able to trust the medical professionals enough despite respecting them immensely. I just wanted my baby delivered quickly in what felt like to me the lowest risk option. I healed very quickly, I don’t remember the pain being horrendous, was out pushing the pram by week 1 with husband, week 3 I was out on my own with pram and around week 4 pram and our large dog. The only issue was the breastfeeding. My milk didn’t come in till 48 hours afterwards, which can happen for some with c-section. We had been discharged that morning. NHS hospital and community midwives completely disinterested in helping me despite my calling several times and even asking for a BFN peer supporter. Was told to pay for a private lactation consultant. My advice would be learn as much as you can about breastfeeding before the baby arrives.

Babyboomtastic · 04/08/2025 22:45

Neurodiversitydoctor · 04/08/2025 20:05

Ouch that sounds really tough- we are all different aren't we ? That's what my mother told me and tbf was my lived experience- 2 weeks after DC1 and maybe 5 days after DC2 and everything was pretty much back to normal.

We are definitely all different. I was back to normal after my sections in about a week. I couldn't believe that it didn't hurt. The morning after I got back from hospital with my youngest, I was up making breakfast for my toddler whilst wearing my newborn in the sling.

Truffs2000 · 05/08/2025 07:59

CatsorDogsrule · 04/08/2025 10:51

Sorry to focus on one of the milder parts of your horrid recovery experience, but did you not have anyone that could pop to a pharmacy or supermarket to get you a second pair of compression socks, so you could wash one, wear one?

It's horrendous that you were in stinking ones for days, but I'm also curious about what caused such an awful stink in just a few days. Was it from the phlebitis, sweaty feet, or perhaps walking on a dirty bathroom floor without slippers?

I just know that I still have mine from a c/s and have reused them on a long flight.

It was hot when DS was born so I think it was just sweaty feet! I did get another pair from my midwife but by this point, my original pair had been washed and subsequently shrank which is how I got phlebitis, and the doctor told me to stop wearing them. I will definitely keep the non-shrunk pair for a long flight though!

Persephoneofhell · 05/08/2025 08:28

SchnizelVonKrumm · 03/08/2025 21:30

I hope you were being sewn up not sawn up Grin

😂Oops a spelling mistake that may scare someone!. I believe I was being sewn up. But whatever I was happily feeding and cuddling my baby everyone was smiling and I was certainly not feeling anything. If I was being sawn up outcome was certainly ok.

Phoenixfire1988 · 05/08/2025 08:41

I've had 7 natural births a section would be my worst nightmare . I've seen so many have complications like wounds re opening , weeping , getting infected, numbness and an overhang if only ever have one if it was medically necessary for mine or babys safety

SchnizelVonKrumm · 05/08/2025 08:42

Persephoneofhell · 05/08/2025 08:28

😂Oops a spelling mistake that may scare someone!. I believe I was being sewn up. But whatever I was happily feeding and cuddling my baby everyone was smiling and I was certainly not feeling anything. If I was being sawn up outcome was certainly ok.

Those post-op cuddles are the BEST 😍

I loved that time with DC2 - snuggles and being brought cups of tea whilst waiting for the anaesthetic to wear off Grin

BeenzManeenz · 05/08/2025 08:43

CJCoopz · 04/08/2025 22:42

Zero regrets. Planned c-section was what I needed as a 39 year old women with an IVF pregnancy. I didn’t have the mental reserves to handle the anxiety I would have had with the fear of natural birth leading to complications for my daughter. I honestly wouldn’t hade been able to trust the medical professionals enough despite respecting them immensely. I just wanted my baby delivered quickly in what felt like to me the lowest risk option. I healed very quickly, I don’t remember the pain being horrendous, was out pushing the pram by week 1 with husband, week 3 I was out on my own with pram and around week 4 pram and our large dog. The only issue was the breastfeeding. My milk didn’t come in till 48 hours afterwards, which can happen for some with c-section. We had been discharged that morning. NHS hospital and community midwives completely disinterested in helping me despite my calling several times and even asking for a BFN peer supporter. Was told to pay for a private lactation consultant. My advice would be learn as much as you can about breastfeeding before the baby arrives.

Absolutely agree with all of this! I was 38 when I gave birth, not IVF, but I found planned caesar took away a huge amount of anxiety for me around the birth (which let's face it, statistically was likely to end up with multiple interventions anyway).

The part of your post which got me was the BF. I had zero help from the midwives, they were disinterested to the point I probably should have put in a complaint. My milk hadn't come in either so we had to give him formula, but I was luck that on day 2 a woman unconnected to the medical/aftercare teams came to check on the baby. Look at his hearing etc.

She noticed he wasn't latching, she quickly adjusted him for me and away we went. I was so fortunate this woman turned up, my BF journey would have been so different otherwise.

I second the suggestion to find out as much as possible about BF. There are organisations out there to help, in the NW England for example we have Bambis. But these exist across the UK with other names.

Disturbia81 · 05/08/2025 09:21

Babyboomtastic · 04/08/2025 22:45

We are definitely all different. I was back to normal after my sections in about a week. I couldn't believe that it didn't hurt. The morning after I got back from hospital with my youngest, I was up making breakfast for my toddler whilst wearing my newborn in the sling.

It made me see how amazing the human body is.. literally cut open and it heals itself so quickly.

Oxforddictionary12 · 06/08/2025 16:21

I had an elective with my second. (First was EMCS) Procedure all fine, recovery took a bit longer with the second but I think it's more to do with the fact I was 5 years older. Was feeling lots more comfortable after a week and pretty much back to normal by 3 weeks. Had a 2 night stay in hospital.
Second time around they had to deal with scar tissue so the actual c section procedure took a while. Was a bit worried about some minor bladder damage but all healed well in time.
There's no easy way to give birth, you've just got to get through it and makes choices on what's best for you. Good luck with it all!

noramoo · 07/08/2025 16:43

I had my DD by elective C section and have no regrets whatsoever. It was a smooth and controlled process and recovery went very well.

Ivfmummyof2 · 08/08/2025 08:22

Depends on your circumstances and why you are being offered it but if you don't have to have one, personally I'd go for a natural birth. The recovery for a c section isn't just the 6 weeks after, I am currently nearly 4 months postpartum and still not fully healed and the scar is very sensitive. I will say that the surgery was very calm and nice atmosphere but be prepared to be out of action for longer than you think as well as build your strength back in your core. It is major surgery and you dont really have any time to "chill" after as you have a new born to look after. I'd also recommend "positive birthing company" this really helped me prepare for my first labour which was natural

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