2 under 2…

[MummaToDAndJx]

I found out I’m pregnant Saturday, I have a 13 Month old boy and a 6 year old girl, I’m feeling major mum guilt. Everytime I look at my little boy I feel soooo guilty and my eyes fill with tears. We’re happy about the baby news but I can’t help but feel a little guilty like I’ll be forcing him to grow up too soon and not giving him time to be the baby? He’ll be 2 months under being 2 when baby is born. I don’t know I just feel bad. Am I being silly? Is it hormones? I don’t know.
does anyone have 2 under 2? Did you have the same feelings? How did it turn out.. thankyou from one very emotional mumma 💖

I had 15 months between my first two. It was lovely, really good fun!

Did you feel any guilt or anything or am I overreacting x

I have 14.5 months between my first 2. Easiest gap of all! My other gaps vary from around 2 years to 4 years.

I don’t remember feeling any guilt. We planned the gap to be small. But your feelings are valid, hormones do funny things to us all!

Ahh Thankyou I appreciate it xx

Thankyou 🥰

Congrats, we have a 22 month age gap and while it’s tough going in the beginning it’s so nice to see them playing together. My younger one seems to have developed so quickly having a big sister who’s not too far ahead to copy.
Your 13 month old isn’t used to being an only child anyway so I imagine he will adjust fine.
A great thing is my older daughter doesn’t remember being an only child at all. Mine are nearly 2 and nearly four now.

That’s so true! Thankyou so much xx

My baby is 13 weeks and his brother just turned 2. They're the best of friends really. This age gap is the best in my eyes, congrats OP 🫶

I had a similar gap between my first two and also felt that sadness for the older baby. As soon as the new baby arrived it was fine. I do think it’s hormones to a certain extent.

It’s proven to be a lovely age gap and they get on so well. I know lots of siblings with the same sort of age gap. It works very well!

I had two under two, they’re now 25 months and 5 months.

I felt a bit guilty when I was pregnant but nothing could prepare me for the guilt I felt when I brought DD2 home from the hospital. I secretly cried every day for weeks because I felt like I’d ruined DD1s life!

BUT DD1 was immediately in love with her little sister, and now DD2 is getting a bit more interesting, they so clearly worship each other!

I still feel pangs of guilt sometimes but I know I’ve done the right thing having them close together.

I have exactly the same gap. Never felt guilty about it. There's advantages and disadvantages to every age gap.

14 months between mine - I didn't think I could ever fall pregnant naturally after my first was a second attempt at IVF. Felt blessed with both of them. Yes, it nearly killed me, their dad had an affair and left, but they grew up so close and now early 20's, are both through Uni and working and in their first homes. I can't really remember those early years due to monumental insomnia and the breakdown of my marriage, but I always think, to bring up two wonderful adults, sometimes you have to do the 'killer years'! Good luck OP. (I was lucky enough to have a lot of support with parents and in-laws at the time) I also didn't work.

I also have the same age gap. And a smaller age gap between babies 2 & 3.

I think it's only natural to worry. I read somewhere once it's part of the process of getting ready for the new baby which makes sense to me.

Neither of mine can remember a time before their younger siblings were born. A big advantage of 2 under 2 is toddlers can't remember far back at this age. A few weeks after baby is born they won't be able to remember life without them.

I found the thought of the guilt worse than it actually was if that makes sense? Once baby was here I was too busy to worry too much.

Best of luck, I think it's a great age gap. So much so, I aimed for a similar age gap with my third.

No cos why has that just made me cry😭😭 Thankyou so so much honestly xx

Oh my! What beautiful little babies 💙💙

Thankyou so much. I just know you’re an absolute amazing mum and did the best job ever. Big pat on that back to you my lovely. they’re lucky to have you as a mum xx

That’s made me feel so much better. Thankyou xx

I have the same age gap that you’ll have. I spent my whole pregnancy so worried about my first born and feeling guilty, but honestly…the minute he ran into the hospital to see his baby sibling it all went and you really do find that love from somewhere for another child. I’m now 18 months on and it is hard in the beginning juggling both needs, sleep and getting the older child to share their toys but now it’s the most perfect age gap and I wouldn’t have it any other way! They’re into all the same things and play so nicely together. I realised I suddenly have so much more time to tidy the house and cook dinners because my second is always following his big brother! They really are best friends ❤️

OP, it's all going to be absolutely fine.
Promise. There will be tough times. But you will handle it.

Are you on fb? There's a fab 2 under 2 UK group on there. Lovely supportive community.

I'm newly pregnant with my fourth. If things go well it will be a 23 month gap between babies 3 & 4 (early days at the moment though).

Get an out n about double. A decent sling. And Disney plus 😂

You’ll be fab! I have a 23 month gap, then a 22 month gap. I understand what you’re saying about the mum guilt but I think it’s a lovely age difference. ❤️ Clearly I know no better though!

Im about to have a 10 month age gap! After my daughter being a only child for 12 years and seeing her be lonely at times such as the park, playing, holiday activities- I cant wait and am so grateful for my DS to have a play mate!

19 months between my two boys. Ideally would’ve liked two years but life doesn’t work like that.

Treated them both like babies as they were, although had stopped BFing eldest by time youngest was born. But while BF youngest still cuddled eldest and we all co-slept for a while. Consequently the boys are really close now, in their teens. I couldn’t and didn’t try to force my eldest to ‘grow up’. Ridiculous when they’re still babies themselves, you don’t need to do that.

Yes it was difficult having a double pushchair and trying to juggle them sometimes, but ultimately I loved it and wouldn’t change a thing. I was thankful for two healthy children.

Life is what you make it.

I had massive guilt. Same age difference as you. It goes pretty quickly after the baby arrives. There’s no time to feel guilty anyway! You’ll be absolutely fine.

I had 2 under 2 twice and 3 under 3. i did feel a sense of guilt but they are growing up anyways and entering the toddler phase anyways regardless of new baby or not. You won’t be the first and you won’t be the last to do it.