2 under 2…

[MummaToDAndJx]

I found out I’m pregnant Saturday, I have a 13 Month old boy and a 6 year old girl, I’m feeling major mum guilt. Everytime I look at my little boy I feel soooo guilty and my eyes fill with tears. We’re happy about the baby news but I can’t help but feel a little guilty like I’ll be forcing him to grow up too soon and not giving him time to be the baby? He’ll be 2 months under being 2 when baby is born. I don’t know I just feel bad. Am I being silly? Is it hormones? I don’t know.
does anyone have 2 under 2? Did you have the same feelings? How did it turn out.. thankyou from one very emotional mumma 💖

Me and my brother were 15months apart and like twins we were very happy and well adjusted and did everything together, and he was such a great big brother. Infact my older brother who is 8 years older had a very hard time and he actually speaks about that time with bitterness even at aged 48. The amazing thing is being that young they won't know any different.
We had 2, 2 and under and we are planning our 3rd, our 2nd DS is 10 months old and would love a very small gap. We are TTC in the next couple months. So hopefully in the next few nonths I will be pregnant!

1 year and 2 weeks between my youngest 2 and I'm glad I had them that close together. They did fight like cat and dog on occasion but now, at nearly 20 and nearly 19, they are close.
No regrets!

20 months between mine and s friend has 13 months between her youngest two.
As you son already had a sibling I don’t think it’s a big deal.

I have a 21 month planned age gap - yes it’s very hard for first 6 months but much easier with planning days out/activities and you will be absolutely fine 🥰 congratulations!

I get where you're coming from, Op. There are 13 months between myself and my sister and I've always appreciated how close we are because of the tiny age gap. Having said that, when my daughter turned 13 months and I realised what a baby she still was, I started feeling sorry for me as a baby that my mum arrived home with a baby who would have become her primary focus when I was still so young. I didn't dwell on it though, as growing up with a sister so close in age is a wonderful thing and I wouldn't change it for the world.

It will be lovely. You’re heart (and your wallet) will expand to meet the need, and your family will be fine.

Embrace the situation, relax and go with it, and you’ll all flourish.

Currently have 2 under 2 (dc2 and dc3). It’s no way near as hard as I was expecting! Go for it!!

First of all, congratulations! I have 19 months between 1 and 2, 23 months between 2 and 3 and 8 years between 3 and 4. The big gap has been harder to negotiate because the older 3 use to play together, were into the same things at the same time etc but by the time number 4 was old enough to play, the things that she wanted to do they'd outgrown. I totally get the guilt though, I felt the same but believe me, your son won't remember life as an only, it will be fine

Kindly, yes, you are being silly. He will be almost 2, so not a baby anymore. He will be a sweet, curious toddler, which is another nice phase entirely in itself.
Bear in mind your oldest child will be pushing 7, and will soon be wanting to do more 'grown up' things, particularly on days out, holidays etc. So do make sure that is covered and that she is not constantly compromising to accommodate younger siblings.

This can work OP. It will be a bit brutal in terms of nursery fees while other the baby and the 2 year old are not in school but hopefully you have that side of things sorted.

I have a 2 month old and a 22 month old and it’s such a joy. The love my oldest has for the baby is adorable and the idea of them growing up so close in age is lovely and has so many plus points as far as I’m confused. I don’t feel like all of a sudden my oldest is no longer a baby he is still my baby just a slightly older and bigger one
your going to be just fine it’s honestly lovely

Aw, there's 22 months between my oldest 2 - they are 19 and 17 (turning 18 next week!) They're away on holiday together this week!

It was sort of planned - got pregnant first month ttc no 2.

First 6 months were tough as DS2 was a very poor sleeper so it was hard work managing a toddler on zero sleep but otherwise fine. People kept telling me that DS1 would would get jealous at each stage but he never did. They were absolutely the best of friends for a long time - probably till upper primary then did their own thing/friends etc. Mostly get on well now although still wind each other up!

I then had DC3 with a 3 year gap which felt huge at the time. So had 3 in just under 5 years

Hi , I had a newborn , 1yr old and 4yr old . All girls and it was hard work at times .But we had the best fun from what I can remember.Teens were full of hormones , but we got through it 😆They are now 25, 26 and 30 . Eldest felt a bit left out as other 2 were like twinnies. They are really close now and lovely . Congratulations , enjoy all the fun 😊

I had 3 under 2 yrs 8 months ( 2-8, 1-9, and newborn ) I a SAHM.
They all grew up together are all adults now and the best of friends.
It’s hard work, but I’m glad it happened like that now x