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So worried after overhearing my husbands conversation

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mrsgreedy · 23/05/2008 14:30

Hello
This is my first post so I hope it works!

I am 20 weeks pregant with twins. We have one daughter already who just started school. When we decided to try for our second child my husband said he would like a boy.

Anyway finding out it was twins was a shock but I got used to it and was excited.

But on Wednesday my husband was watching the football and having a few beers with a family friend while he thought I was asleep. He told our friend he will be gutted if the twins are girls!!

I am so upset about this! I think the beer made him tell the truth.

We were going to let the sex be a surprise but instead I got the lady to write the sex of both twins on a piece of paper. I want to open it so I can prepare my husband.

Help!

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bubblagirl · 23/05/2008 16:32

congrats but either way i would have been congratulating you i am one hlf of girl boy twin

really it will be nice to have one girl 2 boys you'll have your hands full

but as i said before even if it wasnt the outcome your dh wanted i would still say congrats and he would of still loved em

i think natural for a man to want to have boy to kick a ball around with barbies are not really there thing lol

PinkPussyCat · 23/05/2008 16:33

YAAAAYYY!!!!

SO pleased for you! All's well that ends well!

All the best for the future!

Heated · 23/05/2008 16:38

Fabulous!

Do you know if they are fraternal or ID?

Sidge · 23/05/2008 17:44

That's lovely news

Glad you can relax a bit now (even though I know he would have loved them regardless )

CantSleepWontSleep · 23/05/2008 18:06

Yay! Told you to open it right at the start .

Hope your dd takes it ok.

kayzisexpecting · 23/05/2008 20:27

I have just read this and was getting so excited about you opening the envelope.

I am so glad you are having boys. I hope you enjoy them and that your DD doesn't mind having 2 brothers.

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mrsgreedy · 24/05/2008 08:43

I'm gonna try and sell the idea of boys to me daughetr before telling her! Now, where to start?!

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totalmisfit · 24/05/2008 08:47

could it have been a bit of drunk talk male bravado type thing? i mean i say all kinds of things after i've a had a drink or two that i later think 'actually i didn't mean that at all! why on earth did i say it?'

I think all that stuff about a drunk person's words being a sober persons thoughts is a bit of a myth tbh. drunk people talk b*llocks 89% of the time!

constancereader · 24/05/2008 08:48

Congratulations.
I enjoyed reading this thread , I am really pleased for you.

BumperliciousNeedsToSleep · 24/05/2008 08:48

Awww, how exciting!

paddyclamp · 24/05/2008 09:03

What a nice happy thread

Congratulations!

tinkiszzzz · 24/05/2008 09:25

congrats how lovely

caramelbunny · 24/05/2008 12:46

What a great thread! Better than telly. Congratulations.

Lazylou · 24/05/2008 12:57

That is so lovely! Congratulations, you must be thrilled! Have you told DD yet? We took DD to the scan (it was her birthday and we were on our way out) and the sonogropher told us we were having a boy. DD was not impressed but now, with 6 days to go, she is really excited about having a little brother. I found that involving her in the decision making process, eg where to put his clothes, what clothes to take for him when I go to hospital, that kind of thing has made her feel all big sister-ish and grown up. She doesn't talk about wanting a sister anymore but she is totally transfixed at having a little brother.

catsypug · 24/05/2008 16:32

Congratulations, what a lovely ending to your dilemma! - I was going to say I had a feeling they might be boys as your sonographer had happily written the sex down and you can always be pretty sure if you see a penis!

We wanted our second child's sex written down for us in much the same way as you because we have a DD already and DH was desperate for a boy because of football, man chat blah blah blah....!

Anyway - the tech said she wasn't sure and didn't want to write it down for us, nor was she going to put it on the report and told us there and then that she would probably guess girl....but don't go buying any pink. Well - that bought me about 3 weeks of moods, upset and sulking from DH. I would have rathered she'd said she didn't know than hazard a guess.

4 weeks to go and things are happy again but you know, I think if I could go back to that time I would probably not have found out. It's fine finding out if it's what you wanted, but not if it's the other way round

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mrsgreedy · 24/05/2008 16:47

Thankyou all for your good wishes.

Lazylou that sounds like good advice. I raised the subject with my daughter in the car this morning (on the way to ballet!) - didn't actually tell her just talked along the lines of brothers might be nice - but she was having none of it. She said that if either of the babies was a boy she was going to put it in the bin!!

My husband has been like a dog with 2 tails since we found out. I am looking foward to experiencing boys too, as I have heard some lovely things about them being very affectionate.

There was part of me that felt a little apprehensive this morning as I walked into my daughter's beautifully laid out bedroom. 2 little brothers are really going to turn her world upside down aren't they?!?

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Collision · 24/05/2008 16:51

yes they will turn her world upside down (and yours too!) but she will always be your precious first born and a great help to you.

Maybe start talking about names with her and giving her the chance to name one of them (a nice name tho. DS2 wanted his new cousin to be called Keelan or Bingo! )

have you got friends with little boys? It might be an idea to have them over a bit to get used to them....LOL!)

lackaDAISYcal · 24/05/2008 16:53

aaaaaw. I've just read this from start to finish.

Congrats on the biys and enjoy them. Your DD will love having two little brothers to boss about mother

MKG · 24/05/2008 17:48

Don't worry about what your dd said. When I was born my sister (who was 3 at the time) Looked at me and said,
"That's nice mommy, now put it back and let's play".

She'll turn out to be a great helper and great big sister.

MKG · 24/05/2008 17:50

Oh yes be careful with names and what phase she's in. My niece (who is in Disney Princess phase) told me to name ds2 Prince Phillip or Prince Eric.

Judy1234 · 24/05/2008 18:54

I wanted a boy after 2 girls (and got one, followed a special diet but may have been chance) and then baby 4 was twin boys which was great. I like a mixture.

What puzzles me is people who just want one sex. One man said to me he would quite liked to have had a son (he had no children, was in his 50s). What am I supposed to make of that - that he wouldn't have wanted a daughter?

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