Pregnant with 3rd partner won't speak to me

[Dora334]

Currently have 2 children ages 11 and 9 and found out I'm pregnant with the 3rd, had previous ectopic and miscarriages and one abortion due to partner not being happy and wasnt the right time (please dont judge), always wanted a 3rd child! Did test and has been faint for about a week so in my mind I felt I was having another miscarriage as line wasn't getting darker! Partner seemed supportive! Did a digital test which said pregnant line getting stronger now he won't speak to me and said I've trapped him again new what I was doing al along and now acting depressed and sad, don't no what to do feel lost and alone
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Then he chose to have another child. You didn't force him to have sex.

Did he know you'd missed your contraceptive pill? This thread reads as "I wanted a baby, I didn't take oral contraception, I bought condoms which my irresponsible partner couldn't be arsed to wear and I didn't insist upon it, now I'm pregnant with a baby he never wanted and I'm upset that he's upset"
Are you both quite young?
If you were trying to prevent getting pregnant which it really doesn't seem like you were, why didn't you insist he wore a condom or no sex?

She also went ahead and had sex knowing she’d missed pills and that he wasn’t wearing a condom, also knowing he didn’t want another child. They’re both equally responsible for some very irresponsible behaviour.

If he didn’t want additional children there was a very simple procedure he could have that would make sure he was done. If anyone deserves to feel guilty it is him.

Having 2-3 kids with a man who won’t marry you and has all of the assets in his name is a recipe for financial ruin. Good luck, OP.

And yet it is the husband who didn't want the children. Therefore, the onus was on hm to use contraception or to abstain.

No, it's up to both of them and they both need to be completely frank, honest and upfront with each other.

I can only think he meant trapped in the work sense, as I believe OP said he thinks of money a lot and wanted to retire early.

You're being deliberately obtuse - I've spelled out at least one other way he's trapped.

But isn't being trapped in work bad enough?

Erm don’t have a go at me! I’ve no skin in this game. I was simply trying to answer someone pondering a Q with a suggestion. Direct anything specific to the OP if you need an answer to your own Q 😬

No it’s not. It’s both their responsibility. She was fully aware of the risk of pregnancy and ignored his views and what sounds like a previous mutual agreement (based on the previous abortion) by having unprotected sex with him, in the same way he was apparently aware of the risk and also proceeded.

now he won't speak to me and said I've trapped him again new what I was doing al along

It sounds like the communication in your relationship is rubbish. You said you’ve always wanted a third so my guess would be that you didn’t tell him each time you ‘forgot’ to take the pill. I cannot believe some posters are putting all the blame on your partner. You have to take some responsibility here. I hope it works out for you OP but I’m not so sure it will.

Rubbish everyone knows it happens