The dreaded “any sign yet?” texts

[MisplacedMyMarbles]

I’m only just 38 weeks and already getting the “any sign?”, “is she here yet?” texts!

Largely from family members or friends who have barely spoken to me once the whole pregnancy too! Including this fantastically-worded gem from a CF friend: “Hey! When do you think you’ll go into labour?”

Hadn’t heard from MIL for the majority of the pregnancy, until yesterday when she asked if there was any sign. When I reminded her of my due date, she confidently declared she doesn’t think I’ll get to it. What the rational is for that I’ve honestly no idea… news to me!

Anyway, it seems it has begun! Any advice for a FTM as to how to deal with the texts?

I’m quite a private person as it is and so don’t like feeling like a watched pot. DH is going to handle the “comms” once baby has arrived, but right now it’s me getting the requests for updates.

It's a bit late now, but it's why I didn't tell many people my due date, only a due month.

Tell them to check this link regularly for updates. 😉
www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

Just ignore them! Honestly just don’t reply if it stresses you out. If you want to reply, just a ‘god knows?!’ Reply to CF if you want to! In a few weeks time when you’ve got your new baby and you’re busier beyond belief, they will be the last people on your mind so don’t worry xxx

To be honest, they all tried to “work it out” once we announced, but they calculated it earlier than it was. So, we corrected and told them the actual date because I felt it would be even more stressful as we’d have been getting these messages even earlier still otherwise. 😂

Hahaha! Love this!

Just say ‘oh yeah, I had him last week! ….. obviously not, I’ll tell you when he’s arrived!’

I went 11 days over first time 😆 the other 2 were c sections so I just didn’t tell anyone precisely when they were due or later when my c section date was.

In a more rational moment, I’d just ignore.

Thank you! Xx

Just ignore. Or if that’s too hard, reply “Nope! We will let everyone know when it happens so no need to check in. Thanks!”

When do you think you'll go in to labour - I'm not interested in joining any political parties

Any sign yet - I put the wet paint one up on the gate yesterday

Is she here yet - I don't know. I'm nowhere near you so can't see. Have a look around yourself

I hate these people. When I was nearing the end of my first pregnancy, I had ex-colleagues messaging me, let alone friends and family. In the end I got that sick of them all I put a wildly sarcastic meme on my Instagram page so everyone would get the hint.
I’m now 33 weeks with my second DD and dreading the messages. x

I think I will start going for a “We’ll let you know when she’s here” to those who are need-to-know.

Ohhh gosh - you got the extended edition of these texts the first time then I imagine? Haha.

😂😂

Just reply the same copy and paste text to every version of the "any sign?"message - "don't worry, we wont forget to let you know once baby is here"

I’d either ignore them totally (tell DH to reply for you) or send a generic “we will be sure to let you know when she arrives!” And just pedantically re-send it 😂

Some of them are a bit covert though, aren’t they… “Hi. Just checking in to see how you are…” We all KNOW what they’re after at this stage, but you feel like you can’t say something like this in those cases. 😂

I think I will start using some type of standard response for the out and out ones though! A “Don’t know when she’ll arrive, but we’ll let you know when she does” perhaps.

I archived all of these people on WhatsApp, so I couldn’t see if they messaged me.

It was that or killing them all.

HAHA! Yes, archiving is a really good idea actually, thanks. They are mostly WhatsApp. The odd FB messenger…

DD1 was 12 days late. I just complained about how sick I was of being pregnant and made it clear I was generally very grumpy ... people don't check in on you after that 😅

A great idea and a part I could play to Oscar-award-winning levels right now too!

Maybe that can be the trigger to delete Facebook.

You have my sympathy OP! It’s a very trying time.

Oh it’s a wretched app isn’t it! Still, the idea of deleting it altogether triggers a small amount of FOMO… enough to make me keep it. Despite the fact all it seems I would miss out on these days is dodgy AI-generated celebrity updates and people wanting us to ‘rate their plate’.

Thank you! X

I’m dreading this as well! It was soooo annoying with my first who didn’t arrive until almost 41 weeks. I’m nearly getting to 37 weeks with this one and really not looking forward to it again. Think I’ll just be blunter this time though and say I need to be in my oxytocin bubble, baby will come when ready and I’ll let people know when it does. I’m definitely feeling like putting up with less shit this pregnancy, I’m too exhausted to entertain it 😂 but joking aside, it did get me down quite a lot with my first because you’re in your own head about it so much too wondering every day if today’s the day. You have my sympathy OP, it’s not easy!

"Any sign?”
"Well DH saw a really bright star over the house last night when he was putting the bins out, and squinting into the distance he's pretty sure he saw three lads on camels heading our way, so I'd say any moment now probs"

It’s so annoying. I think I cut this early but telling everyone we weren’t telling them when I was in labour but would let them know when our like boy was here. I said this to my mum and said I didn’t want the messages and more importantly didn’t want people to worry while I was in labour. If one of the closest people in the world to me can respect this, then so could everyone else.

funny thing is , when I went into labour, my mum noticed I hadn’t been on WhatsApp and she didn’t get any funny memes that morning so she knew anyway and yet still had the decency to wait until we phoned.

ill 100% tell people im not telling them again.

It'll only get worse op as you near your due date. It'll get to the point where if you do t reply to a message of "any news, any signs" everyone will then assume your in labour when I reality you left your phone upstairs on charge 😂😂
Honestly it's just something that people always do and your right it's mainly the ones who haven't been interested until it's near the time
I'd just start as you mean to go on and ignore the messages 😂😂😂 good luck