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My boyfriend will go mad I am pregnant

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Emmarose9 · 23/05/2025 19:16

The back story is that I had to terminate a pregnancy early on in our relationship. It was one of the most difficult decisions and as a couple it really caused some issues. It was too soon for us. It has also been a fear of my boyfriend’s, inasmuch trusting sex to be safe. It is also a fear of mine too.
I am on the pill but have been extremely poorly with a virus and d&v. During this time we had sex- bf maintained he didn’t ejaculate inside me. I thought I was being paranoid afterwards what with fatigue, slight nausea, weird taste in my mouth and cramps. I kept telling myself the chances were so so small it couldn’t possibly happen. It did. I’m pregnant. Slap bang after everything we have been through. I still don’t get how apart from the obvious. It is so soon after everything else we experienced. He will likely never believe me it was an accident, trust me again or want the baby.
I don’t even know how to tell him this use.

OP posts:
Glamgenzmami · 24/05/2025 18:18

Emmarose9 · 24/05/2025 13:31

@Glamgenzmami 33. I had a termination a year ago after it was just too soon. We had been together a few months

Do you want a baby and want to be a mum?

BangersAndGnash · 24/05/2025 18:27

Sure, the odds seem impossibly low

The odds weren’t low at all.

3 or 4 days illness in which the Pill was not absorbed.
Condom free sex in which tiny amounts of sperm-rich pre cum is usual…

He is not a decent or trustworthy person if he blames you alone for this.

And it’s worrying that you fear his reaction.

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Viviennemary · 24/05/2025 18:32

Emmarose9 · 23/05/2025 19:34

Yeah, you’ve all said what I secretly know deep down. Sure, the odds seem impossibly low but it still happened as it did before. I hate to doubt him before I give him the chance but history tells me he will blame me and want me to not go ahead, or make out like I wanted this to happen. It’s like he automatically thinks the worst always.
What’s the worst that can happen? Already been there so might as well let him know and be prepared to it alone. Hell no doubt say he didn’t agree to have a baby with me and get all s*y

But the odds are not impossibly low. Medication doesn't work if you have D& V. But it's happened now and you will need to decide how you are going to deal with it. I see you have more or less decided to keep the baby. That's fine but let's hope after the initial shock he will be supportive.

S0j0urn4r · 24/05/2025 18:37

Do you actually want a child or do you not want to go through the abortion? They're two different things.

HopscotchBanana · 24/05/2025 18:41

You had sex whilst ill with a virus with diarrhea and vomiting??

GreenCandleWax · 24/05/2025 18:41

Emmarose9 · 23/05/2025 19:34

Yeah, you’ve all said what I secretly know deep down. Sure, the odds seem impossibly low but it still happened as it did before. I hate to doubt him before I give him the chance but history tells me he will blame me and want me to not go ahead, or make out like I wanted this to happen. It’s like he automatically thinks the worst always.
What’s the worst that can happen? Already been there so might as well let him know and be prepared to it alone. Hell no doubt say he didn’t agree to have a baby with me and get all s*y

You will be well out of it then. What a horrible man!🌺

MightyGoldBear · 24/05/2025 18:58

He sounds like the worst partner and would make a awful father.
Is it early enough you can take the morning after pill? Unless you really want to keep the baby?

For me I would absolutely hate to be tied to this man forever. If you really want a baby you'd be better off going down a different route to truly be doing it on your own and on your own terms.

I don't think any child deserves this kind of immature man as a father.

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