Date night tonight - would one drink be ok?

[Motherof1and2dogs]

Just curious to see what answers I get for this one.
So I am having a very rare date night with the husband due to having a toddler and the lack of babysitting help/ support we get. Currently 32 weeks pregnant, yes very uncomfortable and very big at this stage but really looking forward to our meal! We have so much to celebrate and we haven’t really had the chance to :(

Would having one alcoholic drink be ok to have with my meal, but something like a cocktail? I would kill for a frozen strawberry daiquiri.

Why ask then if you were only going to see any view against your own as negativity? At the end of the day, it's your baby. You're the only one who can protect it. No one else deep down really cares.

Yes my boys are 24 and 20 i had odd glass of wine with lunch once a week with my mam with a meal and they are both fine

I’m pregnant, I wouldn’t risk it.
especially as they can make an equivalent mocktail that would taste almost the same

One drink will not cause any problems. I might be worried that one would tempt me to have more though. And I’d probably go for a white wine spritzer than a cocktail. I had a couple in my final trimester. Maybe you could ask them to make up a daiquiri with less alcohol?

So sorry you got roasted on here. Mumsnet for some is a full time sport of pulling other women down.

No, I think it's very selfish.
I didn't touch a drop. Have something alcohol free. Unfair on the wait staff to have to serve you alcohol, knowing you're pregnant and I would definitely struggle to watch you drink that it I was on the next table

I had the odd glass of wine when out for a meal, my dd is 6 now all totally fine

If alcohol crosses the placenta then- would you put alcohol into a new born baby's bottle? There's your answer.

Of course it would be ok. Especially as it's so late in the pregnancy. Enjoy a glass and fo not worry!

Quite. Alcohol is alcohol.

Go for it. One won’t hurt at all.
I used to enjoy my corona mixed with lemonade on a Friday when I was pregnant.
My DD is 18 now and apart from a few quirks (don’t they all have them 😉) she’s fine.
Foetal alcohol syndrome is caused by sustained drinking throughout pregnancy, not by the odd one here and there.
The guidelines were put in place for the few that didn’t stop regular drinking, not for the sensible majority.
Don’t let others make you feel Mum guilt. You’ll get enough of that when the little one is here.

Just have a mocktail. Those frozen drinks take the same in a virgin version.

You wouldn’t dream of saying ‘can I have just one cigarette?’ and I just don’t think it’s worth it with alcohol.

Medical articles say that yes alcohol is transferred to the baby via the placenta, babies liver cannot metabolise alcohol thus even one glass can potentially be harmful.

This is scientifically illiterate.

You know what - you are an adult, and its up to you. Anyone who tries to police adult women's drinking, eating or anything else is a nasty misogynist.
There are stacks of myths, a real lack of any studies on the subject because its nearly impossible to study pregnant women.

And for what its worth (which isn't much), I really doubt the occasional drink is going to do any harm. I would do it.

I wouldn’t personally as if something were to happen in terms of baby’s health I would never forgive myself even if totally not linked

Can you share these medical studies which show that even one drink will directly cross the placenta and cause harm to the baby?

I probably had two drinks across my pregnancy, tiny ones at that, so I’m not some great advocate of drinking whenever - but I cannot stand the unscientific fear-mongering.

It’s fine, I was told to drink Guinness & blackcurrant once a month, for iron & I hate it!
As long as you stick to one drink, you will be fine!

Enjoy date night

Sadly this is not true! As a mental health practitioner, recent research suggests no safe level to prevent foetal alcohol syndrome!

This is absolutely not true. Her body, her choice.

i used to work in a pub and i did feel uncomfortable serving a pregnant woman what was about her fifth drink and my boss took over.

i had a couple of drinks in my pregnancy. Once at dinner out when visibility pregnant. My midwife said it was fine. My French colleagues would generally have a small glass of red most nights and seemed pretty common there.

There are no studies because you can’t do studies on pregnant women.

Honestly, is the worry worth it?

I'm sure it would be fine, but if anything, anything goes wrong with him, like ever, you'll wonder if the one drink contributed to it.

I wouldn't put orange juice in their bottle either, or decaf coffee.

Oh for gods sake! Have a drink if you want one.
i had a couple while pregnant with DD - champagne at a loved aunt’s wedding, and a big glass of red wine the day before I was induced (on the advice of my midwife no less!! She thought it might help me relax)

there isn’t a safe level of alcohol at any time, but as with everything else it’s about assessing risk. Nothing is 100% safe, and if you wanted zero risk that’s impossible to get. One small drink won’t hurt and unless you were a alcoholic prior to pregnancy, not going to send you into some massive alcoholic bender.

whats really interesting is comparing different countries advice on what is risky during pregnancy. My French in-laws were horrified when my husband stroked a cat during my pregnancy (not me, you note) because they are big on avoiding toxoplasmosis, but were very confused when I was avoiding meat that was anything less than well done. A waiter asked me why I would do that to a steak when we were on holiday when I was around 30 weeks.

basically whatever you do around pregnancy and child birth, you are wrong. So fuck it and enjoy the odd drink if you want, stay sober if you want.

What is there a strong chance of happening from one strawberry daiquiri?