Feeling so sad and helpless, did anyone take a year plus to fall pregnant again after MMC?

[Ruby233]

Hi ladies
Not sure if this is the right place for this but I am 9/10 dpo and had BFN. Its really upset me this cycle and this time last year was when I fell preg and ended up having a MVA awake 2 days before my wedding for a blighted ovum.
To say this year has been tough is an understatement. I never knew how much this would impact me. My cycles went crazy long for 7 months (50-42 days) and then down to 35 days and now finally as of last cycle back down to my old 32 days, so finally some improvement. Therefore I've only had 8 cycles but I am still not pregnant and not being pregnant this month has upset me so much.
I keep thinking what if there is something wrong with me now? What if it never happens?
My friends are all having kids now and I feel so sad.
We concieved the 2nd month we tried last time and now I feel hopeless... 30 year old and hub is 31.
Just need a hand hold today please :(

@Ruby233 i am really sorry you’re going through this. I’ve been in a similar situation.
I got pregnant after 3 months of trying but had a MC. Then it took another 3 months to fall pregnant again. Unfortunately I had a second MC. Then it took me almost a year to get pregnant this time. I’m 9 weeks now so still anxious, but was so relieved to get pregnant finally. But in the meantime while waiting I got diagnosed with pcos as I was having irregular & long cycles. I was really worried, but I do think the long cycles didn’t help. Hopefully it’s just a matter of time now that yours have regulated

@Figtree11 thank you so much for replying. I actually recognise your username and I am so so so so so happy to read you are pregnant and I am sending you so much luck and warmth your way 💕💕💕.
Did you do anything to help get pregnant this time or any advice?
Again, I am so happy for you 💗❤️💖

@Ruby233 ahh thank you so much. I’m really hoping this time works out.
Because of the pcos, I got put on metformin and I ovulated on cd18 which is the earliest I ever ovulated, and got pregnant. I think as I hadn’t had as many chances at conceiving as conventional women because of having long cycles, I think that’s why it took so long. I know that’s not very helpful for your situation. I’ve got my fingers crossed for you that it won’t be long for you now

Took us 12 cycles to get pregnant again after a MMC

Sorry you're going through this.

Not my personal story but my friend fell pregnant 6 weeks before her wedding. She miscarried two weeks after her wedding just before 8 weeks. They have a healthy 5 month old now. I hope you get your rainbow baby soon x

I'm sorry you're going through this. It took me 9 cycle and 6 cycles to get pregnant again after 2 of my MMCs (the first one me and my then husband split up soon after so we didn't try again). Not tried since the 4th loss.

It's really hard, but if you got pregnant in a couple of cycles before, there's still a good chance it'll happen soon, but I fully understand the upset and frustration..nothing can make it feel better when you're going through these things. Sending big hugs xx

Thank you everyone for your lovely messages.
I just wanted to update everyone, after having my meltdown my period didn't arrive... I tested last night and this morning and have BFP, I think I have ovulated later. Super early days and faint lines so could turn into a chemical but there is hope. I have concieved the same month as my miscarriage last year... the universe ✨️💖

This mornings test, line darker than last nights so fingers crossed

This is wonderful news 🥹 congrats

Took me a year exactly. And earlier pgs happened very quickly..positive thoughts you get pg soon.

So sorry you are going through this 💐
it actually took me two years to the exact same cycle to get pregnant again, I was 39 tho and gave birth just after my 40th birthday, I cut out alcohol, caffeine and ate really clean actually lost a bit of weight as I wasn’t very well (I wasn’t big say 12/14 but had a high bmi) we also DTD the day after my period finished too and I think only twice as I wasn’t very well. Could be a coincidence but that’s what worked for me,
hope it happens soon, I know how upsetting it is sending love ❤️

@Ruby233 congratulations this is wonderful news 💛 x

@Ruby233 Congrats!! Keep a positive mind, pregnancy after loss is really hard but odds of having a healthy pregnancy now are very high. Don’t read too much on the internet because majority of happy stories are not told only those with sad stories come out to speak.

Sadly updating you all after 3 days of good postives I have just started my period 1 day late, so a chemical pregnancy.
Trying to look at it as my body has rebalanced after the blighted ovum last year and its ready to conceive again. Trying to feel relieved that it can happen.
Thank u all for the support, its just so hard when I turn 31 this year I really thought I'd have a baby by now. Life...

I'm sorry for all your challenges @Ruby233 . In answer to your title - me! I have lots of fertility challenges. Had a mmc Oct 2020, almost two years later conceived our daughter Sept 2022. I was 31 first pregnancy (the mmc) and 33yrs second time.

It was a long time ago now, but it took me just over a year to conceive again after a MMC. Thankfully, the pregnancy was successful and she turns 22 next week. 🤞for you.

So sorry to hear this OP, sending love to you ♥️

Hi OP, feeling for you. I had a blighted ovum when I was 30 (only discovered at 13 wk scan, I’d been having a textbook pregnancy with lots of symptoms including severe sickness ). It’s a really good thing that your cycles are returning to normal and shorter now and you’re still young which is in your favour too. But gosh, I remember so vividly how I’d want to cry inside each time a friend announced their pregnancy just wishing it could be my turn too.

Anyway, to actually answer your question: it took 12 months to conceive DC1, then 7 months for DC2 and 11 months for DC 3. No further mc’s after that first one. Sending lots of positive vibes that all will work out for you… even though it’s 12 years ago now I can remember the heartache so clearly.

@Ruby233 i’m so sorry. I found out yesterday my 10wk pregnancy ended at 7wks. So heartbroken

@Figtree11 my heart just sunk for you, I know no words will help right now but I am just so sorry. This world can be so cruel. Please look after yourself - if you haven't already please get signed off sick and take it slow and easy. This storm will also pass and this feeling will not last forever.
Everything will be OK in the end and if its not OK it's not the end ❤️.

Thank you @Ruby233 your words made me well up x
Can’t believe this is my life right now, going through it a third time 😔 Sending love to you x

@Figtree11 I really hope you have a strong support system around you atm ❤️ when I had my MC last year I very much layed in bed frozen for a good while and the only thing I found that helped drown the noise in my head was audio books.
I will be thinking of you and I am so sorry 😞. This journey can just feel so helpless and I have lost count the amount of times I just cry and cry thinking of unfair it is. I went to therapy for a bit and it helped me but then I felt ultimately its just waiting for my baby to be ready to come to me 😞

@Ruby233 thank you, I do. My DP has been just amazing throughout this whole journey. Audio books is a good idea, I haven’t tried those before. I also tried therapy last year, but like you say, I didn’t feel like anyone could help me. As the only thing that would help me is having the baby I so desperately want.

Am thinking of you too - hopefully now it won’t be long til you conceive again. I’m gutted for you that this hasn’t worked out, but it can be a relief once you’ve conceived after a long time, that your body does know what to do. And hopefully it’s just a short matter of time

@Figtree11 oh no that devastated me to read that I'm so sorry 😔 I was so hopeful this was the one for you x

Thank you @Moosey898 I was feeling hopeful for this one too. Currently in the process of doing medical management for it 😔 on Mother’s Day of all days. This one is being sent off for genetic testing.
You’re the same moosey who was on the TTC after loss threads aren’t you, just a slightly different name? I hope you are doing ok?