Hello all,
Sorry this may be a long one. Not only have a grieved the entire week but now I'm being left in limbo and don't know what to do.
After going through my first IVF cycle ever and actually getting a positive pregnancy test, I had a viability scan at 6 weeks 4 days and unfortunately it was bad news. There was a gestational sac there and a tiny yolk sac but the IVF clinic said at this stage they would expect to see a fetal pole forming and a flicker of a heartbeat. There wasn't anything detected. They told me to prepare for the worst. They then referred me on to my EPU 2 days later and they confirmed exactly what the IVF clinic said. They could see degeneration of the pregnancy tissue and pockets of blood, though I haven't bled yet and I feel no pain. However, due to their strict policies and procedures, I was told by EPU I have to come back in a weeks time for another scan because they need to rule out any life before they can give me options for a medicated or surgical miscarriage management, if I haven't miscarried myself by then.
A week later, so yesterday, I had my 2nd scan at the EPU by different people. The nurses were both confused by IVF date calculations and because they could see a clear yolk sac and the forming of a fetal pole in the gestational sac they calculated me to 5 weeks pregnant as what they saw on the scan was exactly what they'd expect to see for a 5 week pregnancy. I kept mentioning that the IVF clinics dates can't be wrong because it's such a controlled process and they know the exact dates I've had the embreyo transferred so really yesterday I should be around 8 weeks, but they kept saying they're calculating me to 5 weeks according to the growth they've seen on the scan and they can't offer me anything and I have to wait another 2 weeks for another scan and remain on my cyclogest pessaries.
I then went back to the IVF clinic and spoke to them about everything I'd been told by EPU. They are concerned that EPU just don't understand IVF processes and dates and the language they're using during my scan is potentially giving me false hope because measuring 3 weeks behind an IVF pregnancy is too small and too slow progress. IVF clinic remained confident that I do need to prepare for a miscarriage, but EPU were telling me they're not concerned because they've seen what they'd expect to see in a 5 week pregnancy. But I'm not 5 weeks, I'm 8 weeks!!! I really don't know what to do here. I'm worried that there are abnormalities with this pregnancy and I'm being made to wait whilenit lingers on and I potentially miscarry later on in my pregnancy. We desperately want a baby but IVF clinic are telling me this is a loss and will result in a loss I've come to terms with that, but EPU are telling me to wait and it looks fine. I'm also being kept on cyclogest pessaries but I think this is delaying the miscarriage process. IVF clinic and EPU aren't talking to each other and I'm having to go back and forth to them both.
Has this happened to anyone else? What did you do?
I had eggs collected on 10th Jan, 5 day fresh embreyo transfer on 15th Jan and then positive pregnancy test on 27th Jan. Viability scan was 11th Feb, then rescan yesterday 20th Feb, next rescan is 6th March xx