How to get family altogether without raising suspicion?

[lils20252]

Hi everyone, I’ve just found out I’m 10 weeks pregnant! At 12 weeks, I want to share the news with all our family at the same time. There’ll be about 6 from my side and 9 from DH’s side, including my brother, who’s currently living in Manchester (5 hours away). How can I get everyone together without them suspecting anything?

If you wanted to tell him in person I think you need to be the one going to him

Exactly! When I was pregnant with our first, we spent a weekend visiting it respective parents and siblings (1.5 hours away, and 3 hours away) to tell then the news face to face. Making them do the traveling would be rude!

Not everything in life needs to be a social media moment. For sure I wouldn’t drive 5 hours for my SIL’s pregnancy announcement! Please OP you still can do that for the gender reveal 🤣

So you're suggesting that OP hold a party for someone's birthday and then hijack it for her own purposes? If I was the birthday person (presumably initially touched by what seemed a generous gesture) I'd be furious at being used that way.

Three of the four grandparents would have been delighted in our case. Brother? Definitely not! Although he wouldn't drive 5 hours for a party anyway.

I wouldn't do any of this BTW. I told everyone by Zoom. But someone asked if they didn't have a birthday what could they do. They could do this. I wouldn't.

Will nobody think of the insta content 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

Really I think we just popped people a text - I did call my mum though.

Congratulations on your pregnancy
I don't think you need to gather everyone together for one big announcement.
I think set up a group chat and add everyone on there then announce when you're ready

My brother is a 5 hour drive from me and if he and his wife came up with some excuse for me to go there and I found out it was just to tell me they are expecting I would be pissed if I am honest. In fact I would likely decline especially at this time of year

It would be nice to find out in person if I was already with them but otherwise a phone call, group zoom or even a text is sufficient