I just found out I'm 8 weeks this morning - who do I even call?!

[lunamoonx]

Hey everyone. Please can I ask for no judgments here? I'm really overwhelmed.

I found out I'm pregnant very early hours of this morning. I can't believe I'm saying this as I tried for almost 6 years with my ex husband and have PCOS and rarely ovulate so believed IVF was the only way I'd conceive. This is a huge shock to me. I'm still processing it's happened and thinking about my options but who on earth do I call? Is there anywhere to even call on Christmas Day or am I going to have to wait for a few days? I'm just concerned as I've not been treating my body as if I'm pregnant as I had absolutely no idea, and also if I was to decide to terminate I'm a little further along in the pregnancy than I'd like to be when it comes to making this decision and I feel like I'm running out of time.

Thanks in advance guys and Merry Christmas ❤️

Congratulations!! I'm sure it will be hard, but it will all work out!! You can do whatever is right for you, it's not about the dad, do what you need to. And definitely don't worry about lack of vitamins and a few drinks!

(start the vitamins now though and healthy lifestyle obviously!! Especially folic acid.)

Don’t panic, you still have time to make the right decision/choice for you and your circumstances. Although there may be reduced services until the 2nd, places will be open on Friday.

eta: That will also give you a bit of breathing space to get over the initial shock.

Lunamoonx. I know you are conflicted because the father has indicated he definitely doesn't want children. He may change his mind, he may not.

If it helps, I am the product of a short term relationship where the father lived in another country and buggered off back there as soon as he knew I was on the way. (Terribly shocking in the mid 1950's 😁.) He never wanted children either and I don't believe he had any other than me with whom he had absolutely no contact.

Unfortunately, my relationship with my mother was not good at all and I eventually went NC with both her and her family over 30 years ago. She, her husband, one of their DC and most of her family have since died - discovered via the internet - which, to an onlooker, sounds incredibly sad.

You know what? I have a fantastic life! Have a terrific husband, gorgeous adult dd, had a great career and we are all very comfortable financially. We have travelled the world extensively over the years and have a beautiful home. Much as I grew to realise my mother never loved me and my father couldn't care less, I am at least very grateful to both of them for producing me. I wouldn't have wanted to miss my life for anything.

Hope this may help in some small way. Mega congratulations on finally becoming pregnant and at least having the choice. I have a feeling, should you decide to keep the pregnancy, your baby will be incredibly loved and wanted by you and that is all he/she needs at the end of the day.💐

Okay so first of all breathe. Everything is okay.

No one to call as there isn’t immediate need for any medical. Call your doctor so they can start the process of registering you and getting you midwife care. Basically if everything is good it’s an initial appointment, 12 week scan and 20 week scan so very little medical intervention.

A lot of women accidentally drink before they know so don’t panic. The fetus is growing on its own and at about 12 weeks your body takes over and this is why people wait to announce at 12 weeks when this happens.

If you decide to proceed I would recommend you take a pregnancy multivitamin (such as pregnacare) or at least folic acid. Don’t worry if you are sick or haven’t eaten perfectly. Again it’s the above and the baby takes what they need before you do.

Best of luck and take care.

Google to see if there's a NUPAS, BPAS, or Marie Stopes clinic near you.

They do that? I'll bet those drivers have mint stories to tell.

Well take a breath. You don't need to decide anything today.

It's not long since most women didn't know know they were pregnant until at least 8 weeks.

If you want to have a termination there is more urgency but even so tomorrow or the 27 will do.

It doesn't matter, by the way, what the father thinks. The decision is entirely yours.

My ex's youngest seems to have got on perfectly well without his father - and with my ex as his mother!

I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant. Had split with his dad. It was a shock! I decided to continue with the pregnancy and that baby is now 24 years old and the best decision I ever made. I finished sixth form and still went to uni. Life works out just maybe not as you planned. Wishing you all the best x

There should be a booking on system. Just Google nhs pregnancy services for your area.

Congratulations!

Actually people sharing stories, one of my close friends is the product of a similar relationship, never met her dad who lives abroad, her mum got married around 8 years later, considers her step dad her father and is super close to both (born in the 70s), obviously very hard for her mum but she was super independent and it's definitely rubbed off on my friend!