I just found out I'm 8 weeks this morning - who do I even call?!

[lunamoonx]

Hey everyone. Please can I ask for no judgments here? I'm really overwhelmed.

I found out I'm pregnant very early hours of this morning. I can't believe I'm saying this as I tried for almost 6 years with my ex husband and have PCOS and rarely ovulate so believed IVF was the only way I'd conceive. This is a huge shock to me. I'm still processing it's happened and thinking about my options but who on earth do I call? Is there anywhere to even call on Christmas Day or am I going to have to wait for a few days? I'm just concerned as I've not been treating my body as if I'm pregnant as I had absolutely no idea, and also if I was to decide to terminate I'm a little further along in the pregnancy than I'd like to be when it comes to making this decision and I feel like I'm running out of time.

Thanks in advance guys and Merry Christmas ❤️

Posting out of solidarity OP. I was in a similar situation about a week and a half ago! Not exactly the same as it’s my second, and it wasn’t 100% unplanned (we knew we wanted a second but the official ‘plan’ was to wait a bit longer) but it came as a shock and has taken me a while to process. I found out about 10 days ago and I’m still not 100% out of the shock stage! I had also been drinking in the days/weeks prior to finding out as I didn’t suspect anything. Please don’t worry about that - many, many women don’t realise they’re pregnant and drink in the weeks leading up to finding out. With my first, she was a honeymoon baby, so I was drinking every night while away, all while being none the wiser!

All you need to do is self-report the pregnancy, either to your GP, midwife service or a clinic, depending on what you want to do. With my own shock 10 days ago, I didn’t actually report anything for about 5 days, I think I just needed a little bit of time to wrap my head around it! I called my GP on Thursday, the midwife called me Friday, and I now have my booking in appointment on 6th Jan. So don’t worry about doing anything straight away. Take a few days to process. Wishing you all the best!

Wow!! Happy Christmas to you!! It's tricking you think the father wouldn't t want to be involved, but consider if you're able to bring the baby up yourself, have support around, financially ok etc - could the father financially support in some way?if you've Struggled to get pregnant it a very good
Time to have a long hard think about this in case it's one of very few chances you may get to be a mum. Can you confide in someone who is able to support you and give you good guidance?

Do you have a partner?

What are your plans today?

Take a couple of days to digest it and then book a gp appointment.

Take it one day at a time and then weigh up the pros and cons.

I drank and took drugs, smoked, ate crap, got into fights, fell down stairs etc in my pregnancy for the first 3 months as I didn’t realise I was pregnant.

My child is absolutely perfect and I would never intentionally do any of those things, but I wouldn’t worry about it if you did them without knowing.

The main thing is that you try and be as healthy as you can, even if you’re leaning towards a termination.

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You don't need to do anything yet. Your first midwife appointment will be around 10 weeks but they can be as late as 14 ISH weeks, so there's no hurry at all.

At this stage all you need to be doing immediately is to take a good prenatal vitamin an - it'll stop the chances of quite a few genetic diseases. But tbh lots of women don't take prenatals, drink during pregnancy and babies are still fine. Don't worry too much. Also stop drinking alcohol now you know.

Choose which hospital you want to go with for your pregnancy and if you Google they'll have a self referral form to start your midwife care. That's all you need to do - and not even today.

If you want a termination I believe the route is to go to your GP first.

Just put of interest, what made you think you might be this morning when you didn't think about it last night?

You don't need to have the pregnancy confirmed by anyone. There's not another test a GP or a midwife does so other than shock for you, it's no different to finding out on any other day in the sense that you'd still wait for a booking in appointment. And that's just paperwork, nothing medical in the sense of tests or scans.

Mother Nature sure does whatever the hell she likes, doesn't she! 😆 She works in mysterious ways sometimes. I'm sure she has a plan for me! Thank you for your response ❤️

Thank you so much ❤️

Lmao! Good idea! 😆

Ah thank you so much for this, I appreciate it a lot! I hope your news has sunk in and you're feeling happy about it all now?x

Sorry edited after re-reading

Congrats if it's what you want - you don't need to call anyone there's nothing to be done this early. Just start your preg vitamins if not already on them. Eat as appropriate and when your gp reopens ask for the self referral phone no for the midwives

If you do want a termination then ask for am urgent GP appt as soon as they reopen

I'm sure I'd be able to do it alone, it's just whether that's a fair option to take is all. I'd hate for a child to not have the option to see their dad because they aren't interested at all. Though this is nothing short of what seems like a miracle to me, I'd hate to bring a child into the world that feels in any way unwanted by a parent. From personal experience it just doesn't seem right :( I'm very conflicted

I've been seeing the father for a couple of months now. That being said he does live in another country so that does complicate things slightly. It's a lot to process right now. Just a quiet Christmas Day alone for me, and I'm not particularly mad about it considering I have a lot to think about.

Thank you so much for your supportive comment though, I really appreciate it ❤️

Id probably take a couple of days figuring out what you want to do first before calling anyone.

With respect though, 3 tests you just happened to have handy, a middle of the night test and worrying about drinking last night doesn't really say you want to terminate.

I'd probably start on the folic acid today while you're processing it.

I just felt not quite right last night. It isn't abnormal for my periods to be whacky because of PCOS so I wasn't concerned about it being "late", but I realised how achey my boobs felt and how I felt a little sicky on and off suddenly. Again, things that could be PCOS related and not out of the ordinary but something told me to test so I did. I guess my brain just kinda knew!

Thank you for your response! I appreciate it ❤️

This does give me some hope. I wish he would warm up to it but he seems adamant and he is younger than me so I can understand and I don't want to make a decision that will not be good for him either. It's very complicated but I'm sure it's going to work out for the best! Thank you for giving me some hope it'll work out in a positive way ❤️

Merry Christmas, OP, and congratulations.
You don't need to do anything, call anyone etc.
Take care of yourself.

Thank you so much ❤️

Nip to the chemist tomorrow to get pregnancy vitamins .

do this whilst you process and decide what to do .

give yourself time to process this

I def had a drink before I found it!

whilst folic acid is certainly recommend- as long as you have a good and varied diet you should be ok. I’m sure the midwives will be able to reassure you.

good luck with what ever you decide to do

This is exactly more or less what I was going to say! Absolutely she or whomever / whatever she may be, has a plan for you and has evidently not forgotten you ❤️ sorry for your past struggles. Babies do turn up on their own schedule 😆
Congratulations xx 🎆

Hello OP, choice is really important for women and if yours is to terminate then full support to you. Just wanted to say though that if this is like 'a miracle' for you then my perspective would be to put the miracle of a child ahead of what the father thinks and his involvement or lack of. I get what you're saying about not wishing a child to ever feel unwanted. If they are loved by at least one parent that is a tremendous thing. I have adopted children in my wider family, as an example, and they know they are loved and valued beyond any past experiences. All the best to you whatever the right path turns out to be.

I actually bought the tests on Deliveroo at 1am after I had said drink and felt a bit off 😆 I haven't had tests to hand in a good couple years now! I think a child being conceived in any way is nothing short of a miracle and ordinarily I'd say I'd never terminate but I feel like I have to consider it because of the situation with the father, that's all. There's so much to think about!

Think of all the babies that are conceive on drunken one night stands,it'll all be fine 😉 Take a few days for it to sink in and get used to it.

Ahh @lunamoonx Families come in all sorts of different packages.

As long as they are loved by the people who are in their life, they will thrive.

Whatever you decide to do is the right decision, as it’s the one you made.

Wishing you all the very best, whatever you choose.

Merry Christmas!

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