7 and a half weeks

[cgwx]

Hey -

So i'm hoping for some advice but also some opinions too! Background story... been pregnant 3 times in the space of 12 months just over, 2 were chemicals and the 1 i lost at 9 weeks. We have found out I am pregnant end of November time. I tracked my progression with digitals to ensure it was heading in the right direction. Every week upped a week on the digital as planned. Stopped of course when i got to 3+. We're really hopefully it's a sticky bean and symptoms are still there that i had in the beginning or gotten stronger. I have had mild cramping which was worrying.

1. Wanted to know personally, would you at this point based on history pay for an early reassurance scan or see if you can get one via the NHS? (I'm in the UK for reference).

2. Any tips to manage Pregnancy Anxiety? I am constantly checking to see if i'm bleeding or worrying I am going to miscarry.

Thanks in Advance - C x

Update - just updating thread, I have been to the toilet and noticed some bleeding. I called EPU and they have told me to monitor it. Not sure what this means but this is about the time i miscarried before so obviously not happy thoughts or positive ones

I am so sorry to hear this. There’s nothing I can say. Just that my thoughts are with you. I hope for a positive outcome but in the sad event that it’s not, I hope you can recover as well as possible xx

Oh I'm sorry, can't imagine how anxious you must be. Got everything crossed it's nothing and just normal 1st trimester spotting a lot of women seem to get x

thank you both @Babybaby2025 @Feliciacat. I had 2 bits of bleeding earlier on BUT i was constipated both times and when i finally managed to go, it came from there not from the front. but this time i noticed pinkish and then this random dark red (i'll attach photo). sheer panic of course because i knew it had come from the front this time although funnily enough had just been for a number 2. trying not to panic but i cant help it considering i lost one around this time before.

@cgwx hopefully it's from the back end and not the front, either way it's very light. I think if I got that I'd not panic too much as it could be anything from cervix irritation, to normal first trimester spotting, but obviously with your history it makes complete sense for you to spiral. I have no advice apart from to monitor and hope for the best but brace yourself for the worse. X

@Babybaby2025 its very possible. It could be anything really like you say. This is exactly why with my history I HAVEN’T started to enjoy my pregnancy yet. I don’t want to become too attached too quickly. I think that way if anything does happen it will hurt less than if I was enjoying it and planning for the future. I haven’t had anything since and no pain either. EPU didn’t seem concerned when I called yesterday she asked me if i had a scan and i said a private one yes an NHS one no not yet. And she said was everything where it should be and everything was ok? I said yes baby was where it should be and heartbeat was detected. Dont know if that swayed her way of thinking but she didn’t seem concerned so.

@cgwx you've gotta take the positive signs, the bleeding has stopped, which obviously doesn't mean everything is 100% fine, but from what i know about miscarriages, its that typically bleeding gradually gets heavier with increased cramps, so if that hasn't happened, things are looking more positive than negative for now. Remain tentatively optimistic, hopefully in a few weeks you can start to enjoy your pregnancy

I had cramps and bleeding. From 4 weeks until about 25 weeks. No rhyme or reason. Turned out I had cervical ectropion and placenta previa.

Pregnancy is now a healthy 1yo!

Personally I found any reassurance from scan short lived and tbh I lived in constant anxiety until I could feel movement. I'd have a scan (NHS or private) and next day more blood and I'd be right back panicking.

It sucks and I'm sorry. But it's hard to get them to do anything until you're over 20 weeks.

@Babybaby2025 i’m trying to be positive but i think its so hard isn’t it when you’ve had previous miscarriages. But yes i started bleeding last time, started light every now and again then got worse and thats when i knew something was wrong. Id pay for private scans if they weren't so expensive. And it might ease anxiety for a bit won’t stop me worrying completely so.

@FlyingHighFlyingLow thanks for your comment! Yes the anxiety just creeped back in after a private scan. I don’t think i’ll feel ok until 12 weeks or further tbh and thats why I haven’t tried to enjoy my pregnancy.

I kept on thinking "I'll be fine after 12 week scan", but then I wasn't. Then it was "I'll be fine after the heartbeat listen at my 16 week midwife appointment", still nope. Then anatomy scan and so it continued.

Due to complications at one point they debated keeping me in from 32 weeks. I bought the cot and travel system in tears at 31 weeks thinking I was jinxing it because I literally knew I could be having baby the week after. Refused to let anyone else buy anything beforehand as well.

Ultimately I didn't believe I was coming home with a baby until I heard their cry at birth.

It's hard when the anxiety is rational. I couldn't say my anxieties were this horrible irrational thing because they weren't. I was anxious of waking up bleeding because I had woken up bleeding several times. I was anxious about placental issues - which they were scanning me for every week because they thought it was likely! Between that and crippling morning sickness I hated pregnancy. But baby was worth every second and more.

Hey I've had 7 losses and during my successful pregnancy, I got a scan every week until about 13 weeks. I never found that made me more anxious.. it really helped for reassurance and to have that weekly point/ check in. I recommend frequent scans to manage anxiety if you can afford it xx