Terrified pregnant 3 months after birth

[ThisBlueSnail]

Hi all, just need to get this out of my chest, I don't want to tell my family yet so other than my partner I've noone to rant too.

I'm so scared of being judged, I gave birth to a beautiful little girl at the beginning of July and have just found out I'm pregnant again.
This wasn't planned and I have no idea how to feel.
I suffer with really bad anxiety and mental health issues so I don't do well in situations like this already but I'm so scared of being judged by my midwives and other people that will have an input on my pregnancy.

My children are all loved and they make me so happy and I'm happy to have another I just didn't think it'd happen this quickly, my partner and I had said maybe in a few years time we'd look at our situation and see how we feel but this is happening so quickly.
I know I could've been more careful and tried to avoid it but it was an "In the moment" kinda thing and neither of us were thinking logically 😅

Anyway rant over for now at least 😅
Booked with the doctors now waiting for a midwife, hoping it's not the same one I had a few months ago 😅

Congratulations OP! One of my best friends fell pregnant literally 4 weeks after her first baby was born, her two boys are exactly 10 months apart!

Good luck x

Thank you for your reply, grateful to hear it's not just me 😅 so happy to hear she had a healthy boy too.

Thank you for the congrats 🎉

There will always be people who judge another's situation, but as long as you and your partner are happy, that's all that matters!
To be honest, I should probably take that advice myself. I'm 41 and 22 weeks pregnant with our 6th baby, and I haven't told anyone because as much as we're very happy with our family choices, this time I'm quite nervous about people's reactions, even though no one else will be involved!

As long as you didn’t have a c section for your latest baby I don’t think there are any health implications. You’ll have a busy few years but the babies will be the best of friends!

Yeah we're definitely happy, just a tad surprised too 😅

Thank you for your advice ❤️ I wish you the best of luck with your pregnancy too

Last baby was so straight forward, called the midwife in because my waters had gone and half an hour later she was here, thumb sucking and all.

That's what I'm telling myself now, expect a hectic few years and then they'll be all in school and I'll have a couple of hours for myself 😅

I know two women who had kids within a year of each other. It's not that big a deal - no one judged them except I think one (a lawyer) was a bit scared of telling her work as she that meant she was out of the office for 20 consecutive months!

You're not the first person this has happened to and you won't be the last. Let people judge you , you'll be absolutely fine.

At least they won’t be in the same school year. :-)

I fell pregnant five months after my first. Was terrified. Both born happy and healthy via c-sections. Are now 3 and 4 are the most incredible little things 😍

Thank you all for your replies, I do now feel a little better, just gotta deal with the mum guilt now 😅

Omg this actually scares me as we have just had sex "also in the moment" and my baby is 4 weeks old 😭😭😭

Meh, who cares who judges you, I was never aware of any judging me but then again I couldn’t give a flying if they did tbh. I was pregnant again four months in. Worked out perfectly, all the weaning, nappies, potty training etc etc over and done with a lot quicker, and they were each others best little buddie (and still are 22 years later). Congratulations OP, it’s marvellous news!

Also got pregnant 3 months in… all fine and no judgement! The only slightly short responses were from two friends who were having trouble conceiving, it came from a place of sadness, not judgement.

Congratulations!

Snap so hard yet so rewarding 😂

When we had our last post natal midwife appointment they said remember you are more fertile after having a baby and said they get loads of women in quite quickly after so I’m sure they are very used to it and won’t judge, congratulations

Congratulations! Don't worry about anything, nothing midwifes and hospitals wouldn't have seen before. 😊

Do people judge? My brother was only 11 months older than me, and it was never commented on apart from Irish friends who would say you're Irish twins. Congratulations!

It's very common OP stop worrying about what anyone else thinks and enjoy your pregnancy

I’m so thrilled you have a supportive husband (some sadly don’t) and congratulations! Lovely news

My middle two are exactly 11 months apart. Pregnancy and the first year were pretty tough but I have never regretted it. They have always been really close friends and still are (now both aged 20+), despite very different personalities. I have no idea whether anyone judged me but people generally just seemed curious about how I'd managed to conceive again so quickly while fully breastfeeding! My only advice would be to try to get good nutrition as it did take a toll on my body. Good luck!

You'll have your hands and hearts full.

Congratulations!

If you're happy and healthy; fuck everyone else really. The healthcare people will have seen this kind of thing millions of times before.

Congratulations! Hope you no longer feel terrified! ☺️

Congratulations 💕
I actually tried to get pregnant immediately after the birth of my child, I was hoping for another in quick succession but unfortunately it didn't happen. I just can't see the judgment people have about 2 kids so close together in age..
it's great your husband is so supportive. Enjoy this moment in time x

I got pregnant 5 months after giving birth (emergency c section).
There just 13 months between my girls. They are so close, have great fun together. Their toddler years were very easy for me as they were great company for each other, always playing together.
Congratulations!