So scared I wont cope with morning sickness

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As it says in the title really. I was a mess with DC1 and I really struggled emotionally and mentally due to sickness.

I’ve just found out today I am pregnant with no 2 and honestly instead of being excited I am petrified. I feel like I can’t do it again. Honestly I delayed trying for a second for many years as I was too scared.

I don’t feel capable to do this and am just dreading the days ahead. Any advice?

I will take anti sickness drugs as I did last time. Just want to be able to cope mentally and feel stronger.

Every pregnancy is different so you may feel less sick this time round 🤞
But like you said, you can go to the doctor for medication so maybe do this as soon as you feel sickness coming on.
One of my friends had HG with her first but with her second pregnancy she just didn’t feel as sick 🤷🏻‍♀️ So this may be the case for you too.
Good luck!

I didn't have HG but didn't want to read and run. IME most of my friends ( and me) coped much better the second time as you are aware of triggers and for eg: don't try to go too long without eating. My best tip is go to bed with your toddler a couple of nights a week.

My first pregnancy I was sick up to 8 times a day and on ondansetron until he was born at 39 weeks.
My second I was sick once and felt vaguely nauseous when I first got up until 10 weeks.
This pregnancy might be completely different but if it isn't, get on the drugs and step them up until you find one that works.

Have therapy to help with coping emotionally and anxiety re the future.

Were you prescribed anything for the sickness the first time ? There are good options out there such as cariban & xonvea can you speak to your GP ?

I had cyclizine. I think I will ask about xonvea this time

Last time I was hardly sick at all (maybe only a few times the entire pregnancy!) whereas this time I was being sick 5-10 times a day. I was prescribed Xonvea and it's working wonders. Still feel a bit nauseas on and off but no vomiting and much more able to cope with work and looking after a toddler.

This pregnancy might be different! I had no idea they could be so worlds apart to be honest x

How many Xonvea are you taking a day? I’m trying to find a schedule that works for me as I’ve been told you can take 4 a day. I’ve been taking one at night and going to start from today one in the afternoon as my sickness is worst in the afternoon and evenings.

My GP said two at night before bed, and one in the morning if I need more. Initially I tried just taking one at night because I was nervous about taking medication but it wasn't enough. I've been sticking to the two at night though and it's working well! I'd worry about taking one in the morning because it makes me sleepy! X

Sorry that was for @Hellskitchen24

I was sick every day of my pregnancy with DD1 and sick literally two or three times in total with DD2. The constipation with her was a bitch though 😬 You could be absolutely fine this time. Your body is more used to the hormone surges second time and I can say that despite a large age gap between my girls

Thank you for all the experiences shared!

I felt the same as you and it was one of the reasons I waited a long time before trying for no. 2. I have had terrible experiences I won’t go into here because I don’t want to make you more anxious you unnecessarily but this time round (4th preg, following some MC) I have had Xonvea and it has made things more bearable although it has still been v tough and I’ve basically been incapacitated to 3 months. Ive been taking things day by day and sometimes hour by hour. I also read some advice that helped when you think “How will I do this?” It was “you’re already doing it honey “. I really liked that and tried to focus on it when I was very low. I really sympathize though. Unless you’ve been through it you cannot understand how debilitating it is.

Take the full dose - two at night, one in the morning and one in the afternoon. It takes a little while to build up in your system. I ended up dropping the afternoon one because the pharmacist said it had to be taken on an empty stomach and it was too hard to make it work with snacking. Am finally just coming off them and weaned it down with 1 at night, 1 in the morning and then for the last week just 1 at night. Am still suffering a bit of nausea and may go back on them if it persists.

HG is one of the reasons I stay single as I couldn't imagine being pregnant again. However, if you are really bad dont suffer in silence. Being IV rehydrated made me feel like a new woman shame the anti sickness meds didn't make me feel the same.

Reiterating what others have said. Incapacitated for first 17 weeks with pregnancy one. This time I have had some nausea and been sick a couple of times but totally manageable and fully out of it by 14 weeks. completely different experience.

It’s mad isn’t it. You don’t want to feel sick because it’s awful. But then if you don’t you think it’s not a viable pregnancy!?!?

it’s good to hear that different pregnancies are different symptoms and I hope second time around is better for me

my heart goes out to anyone who has had HG @Singleandproud

I already feel so sick and I am so early. I don’t think I can continue this pregnancy. The thought of months of this is just too hard.

Inside I am hoping that I miscarry just so I don’t have to deal with this

I feel fine for a few hours and then just waves of nausea that just hits hard. I can’t take my mind off it, I’m trying to watch telly or slow breathing. But I just circle back with the thought I can’t do this again

Please is anyone there. I can’t sleep because of the nausea and I am so scared. I can’t do this

You can do this it will pass.

Have you got any ice lollies you can suck on, callippos are quite good.

Also get your partner to pick up some Refreshers tomorrow (the chalky ones not the chews) if you are sick they weirdly make it taste nice(ISH) or at least not awful.

I was given Motilium, which is the brand name for Domperidone I think it's a possibly stronger than cyclizine as it's used to combat medical nausea and has actually been banned in the US although I never had any issues whereas cyclizine is for travel sickness.

Make an appointment back at the GPs tomorrow to try something else. If they offer a hospital stay and an IV take it, I can not tell you the difference I felt.

I will ask him to buy some. Nighttime’s are so much harder as you feel so alone and trapped. Also I am so tired and really need to sleep but can’t even lay down

It’s so so hard, I’m so sorry. There’s nothing I can say except I understand. First thing tomorrow call the GP, tell them about your sickness and say it’s affecting your mental health and you need Xonvea. They’ll try and brush you off but insist and insist. Tonight try and make yourself as comfortable as you can and see if you can doze here and there. It’s ok to cry and complain - I have shed a lost of tears over the past few months xxx