I cried at my midwife appointment

[catmum7717]

Gosh I'm so embarrassed. I had my 10 week booking appointment this morning and the MW started asking me about mental health and anxiety etc and I just lost it and started sobbing to the point where I could barely speak.
Background I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks a few months ago and felt very ready to try again, but now that I'm approaching that 11 week mark again it just was really painful to talk about how I'm doing. I never had any MH problems in the past but this has really shaken me.

She was very nice but I hate crying in front of people.
Has anyone else ever done this lol?? Make me feel better with your stories please 😂

Honestly don't give it a second thought, they will have seen everything. Totally understandable how worried you are. I also had a MC at 11 weeks, luckily pregnant again now - I was a wreck in first trimester. If it helps, I've felt steadily better throughout the pregnancy, now at 39 weeks. It's better you are honest with the MW, so she can check in with you re. mental health in future appointments.

you’re pregnant so your hormones will overwhelm you totally. I’m sure it’s normal for a midwife so don’t be embarrassed at all. Better than sobbing in Tesco (I may have done this once when pregnant and there were no shallow trolleys. I couldn’t use the deep ones due to my back and the customer service just told me to walk round the car park looking for a shallow one. I sobbed. I was exhausted and pregnant with twins… I was mortified).

When I had my first blood test with the midwife I burst into tears as soon as I felt the needle go in. I'm needle phobic and avoid blood tests wherever possible but obviously being newly pregnant I wasn't going to do that. she must have thought I was a right wimp😅

I've cried at like three of mine. My pregnant friends have too. I'm sure they're used to it.

I cried at my 10w booking appointment with DD1! We'd had a difficult ttc journey resulting in fertility treatment, plus i had some MH struggles in my teens that I found difficult to talk about when giving my medical history. My midwife was so lovely. She was my midwife for that pregnancy and my second baby 3 years later, and I must have cried in her presence about 100 times in total! She was never anything other than unfailingly kind. Congratulations and good luck!

It must be absolutely normal in that context

Oh god, I cried at every visit in the first trimester (an probably most of the second). I was so sick I couldn't hold it together! Didn't give it a second thought

I went to have the baby’s heart listened to because I was so anxious and on the way in slipped over on a manhole cover. I went in to my appointment crying my eyes out (pregnancy hormones are wild!). The midwife was so sweet and made me a cuppa and gave me a big hug and said my emotions were normal - they see it all the time, don’t worry! It’s probably less normal to have someone with no anxiety I reckon ☺️

My partner had a mental breakdown, left me and moved to a war zone. There was many many tears. Also the first time I’d heard a medical professional use the expression ‘ fuck him’

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of course you cried.

and you won't be the first nor the last to do so !

it's the worry that it may happen again, you may cry at 11 weeks and again at 12 weeks.

you may not relax until baby is safely in your arms.

can you come back and let us know when you've had your 12 week scan

I cried at my 12 week appointment as I’d never got far enough in a pregnancy to have an appointment and was feeling very emotional.
The midwife said ’At least be thankful you can get pregnant. I can’t have children.’
Nice. I’ve never forgotten it.

I will do :) had a healthy scan at 9w2d so really hoping things stay positive!!

Being cried at is in the job description for a midwife!
Once went to a GP appointment to assess if my mental health was stable enough to go back to work wearing a top that was inside out. The GP kindly waited until after certifying me fit to return before pointing it out!

Good luck with your pregnancy and don't be afraid to reach out for support for your anxiety x

Just here to repeat the "don't give it a second thought" vibe.
I think I cried at every medical professional last time I was pregnant.
I also cried the other day to a gastro doctor because "my tummy hurt all the time" and I'm nearly 40. Promise they've seen it all x

I have cried at midwives at least twice during this pregnancy, it must happen to them all the time!! One of them gave me a whole box of tissues to take away so she must have thought I was never going to stop 😂😂

Your hormones are all over the place. It’s a huge deal. Be kind to yourself.

That is totally understandable and the midwife will have had loads of women crying on her. I absolutely balled my eyes out when I went for an early pregnancy scan after my ectopic pregnancy. The woman doing the scan was also at the scan when my ectopic pregnancy was diagnosed so it brought all those feelings back. She was very kind and gave me a hug at the end (the baby from that scan is currently asleep on my chest 😊).

Congrats mama. Omg this will so be me when we go for our 12 week scan in a couple weeks if baby is healthy 🤞

Don't worry they see it all the time. I cried at my 38 weeks appt. I was suffering sciatica and was just so done being pregnant and wanting it over and done with

Not a midwife appointment, but I cried at softplay when I was 8wk pregnant and some 'big kids' pushed my 2 year old over. Mortifying! I had to explain to the staff I was pregnant.

Don't feel embarrassed, it's not unusual and it's good to see how people are actually feeling so you can offered appropriate support. Please don't give it a second thought.

Please don't be embarrassed I'm sure the majority of people have cried in front of midwives. I had a MMC earlier this year and when I went for my booking app (now 15 wks) I just couldn't stop crying. The midwife was great and asked about my mental health apart from that. A miscarriage is trauma so it's completely understandable to be upset in that situation. I then went for my 12 wk scan and I was a complete mess as the last time I had been there was seeing a tiny bean on screen measuring only 8 weeks and the sonographer knew nothing about it!! So I had to explain through the tears. Please let us know how your scan goes, sending you lots of love 🩷

I was a community midwife now retired. It's absolutely a normal part of our working day. Those hormones are powerful things and the anxiety is totally understandable with your history. Don't give it another thought. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

Oh blubbing through the appointment is totally normal, please don't worry.

Just wait until about 5 different midwives have seen your vagina. Any form of embarrassment quickly goes out of the window 🤣